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zionkay
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posted September 12, 2021 11:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zionkay     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've been talking to someone online for about 6 or 7 years now. We havent met but we have lots of interests together. It all started out just with us talking about our shared interests then as we got to know each other she found it comfortable to share more personal stuff with me.

I then became her to-go-to shoulder to cry on person, and i became hooked with her life. I lost my other friends in real life (it just happened after graduation) and she became the only "friend" i talk with. I kind of became her personal therapist, and I got obsessed with her relationships up to the point where I get frustrated, drained and anxious when she doesn't follow my advice.

I was obsessed with her, in a platonic way (im not attracted to her), by living vicariously through her, that it's just now that i realized that she doesnt really show interest in my life, and that our conversations only revolve around her and her crushes and her relationships and her family problems. I get to talk about my problems but somehow the conversations go back to her because I really dont have anything going on with me. She's a nice person but i wish she took more interest in my life as much as I did to her.

I want to distance myself from this friendship but I'm drawn back in because I'm hooked with her stories. I think i've sort of developed a crush on her crush as well even though I dont know them in real life.

I wonder what sorts of karma is causing this from our aspects and how do i detach myself from this friendship? Do I completely cut her out? I have no other friends because the pandemic is making it hard for me to form friendships and Im perpetually an introvert. Ive had one or two friends before but it always ends up in a falling out.

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Randall
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