Posts: 631
From: Romania
Registered: Jun 2020

posted September 27, 2021 02:45 AM            

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Hello!

I have been questioning this for a while now and I can't understand some things.

I've been in a plutonic relationship a while back - Sun, Mercury, Mars, pluto conjunct in Scorpio in composite - that ended up being very very bad. Sure there were some transformations involved that led in the end to understand myself better, but it destroyed me and left me with scars that are never to be healed, or at least not by the same person.

I've been reading some articles online about how these relationships teach you about unconditional love and how the bonding to the other person is deep.

Are these relationships about real love? Because to me is about forcing a bond to occur and is not about accepting the person as he/she is, but forcing them to meet the needs, attachments, fears, that we have.

I've been in relationships that have some Uranus in composite and we were really free to be ourselves and didn't restrain each other in doing what we wanted and we always seems to have space for each other in our lives even if the relationship ended. I still talk with my last bf even if he is in another relationship right now and we are friends with each other, even if we loved each other a lot. Our relationship ended well with no remorse and still caring for one another. Even if we had pluto in synastry, in composite is almost none.

Still, he chose a plutonic relationship - Pluto opposite Sun and Venus in composite.

I can't seem to understand how these relationships last and people choose to be in these relationships when it involves only abuse, control, manipulation. I understand the attraction because I was sooo into that guy when he came into my life that I overlooked many things to be with him and I did some things that I wouldn't have done with my bf - lying, manipulation, mind games, not showing myself, ignoring bad things that he did to me so I can be with him, basically forgetting about myself just that in the end I will get him, have him. My luck was that he felt that something was wrong between the two of us and he stopped it. If he continued, I would have continued, and we would have ended much much much worse than what happened in the short time we were "together".

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From: Asia
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posted September 27, 2021 03:43 AM            

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Pluto can be all those negatives you experienced as well as deep bond and transformation. I believe it depends on how mature the people are and their individual Plutonic traits.

My guy and I definitely love each other and our bond gets deeper over time, but our feelings are also jealous and possessive so it can be volatile. We have Pluto squares in composite.

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From: Romania
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posted September 27, 2021 02:46 PM            

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isn't this taking by force too?

After I read your message, I thought about contacting the guy and thought that maybe the things were not that bad as I thought and to apologize for some things I said and did. After, I saw myself objectively talking with the guy, not telling him about the things that happened, lying him because in the end I can't tell him those things.

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