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posted September 29, 2021 12:05 PM            

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I want to start with saying, and I've said it many times on LL: I do NOT get along with Cancer Suns/Moons despite being a Cancer myself, but this guy? Can't stop thinking about him. It's as simple as that. I've tried and succeeded for 2 days at max (since March 2021) and then he just comes back. He's newly married, I'm married and I just want it to stop. It's not like I'm some horny spring-chicken either. Been "around the block" a few times..
We know eachother through my job but we don't work together. He's obviously younger than I am (he's the Scorpio Pluto) and I also know he comes from a very "privileged" family; he's thus the complete opposite from me. Please talk some sense into to me!

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posted September 29, 2021 03:50 PM            

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The only I'm seeing that might make you feel this way is his Sun/Mars conjunct your Venus/Sun. Venus/Sun is adoration, Mars/Sun-Venus could equal physical attraction. His Pluto also sextiles your Mars which is an aspect you have never experienced with someone in your generation.

I’m not liking the house overlays on your side. Nothing is hitting your 5th, 7th or 8th and only his mercury falls in your 1st. This looks like it would turn platonic if you were to ever act on it. The composite is also lacking in overall aspects and quality of the aspects. Did you tighten the orbs in the composite before you posted? Could you post the Davison as well?

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posted September 29, 2021 05:38 PM            

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Your Pluto square his Moon. Intense.

It’s not worth it. The Venus conjunct Mars Sun I’m sure is appealing, but I’d bet money on it being your Pluto square his Mars. Power plays but it won’t end well. You know that though.

Also your Lilith square his Sun Mars? Obsession. And soo sooo sexual. It’s hard, girl. Enjoy the mental stimulation, but the physical realm won’t bring you happiness. At least not long term.

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posted September 29, 2021 08:14 PM            

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Hi, I agree with the former comments and the plutonian intensity mentioned by StoneMoon.

If TOBS are correct, the Composite Vertex is square the Nodes, and Pluto is square Sun.
This is, in my opinion, why you can't get him out of your mind. These two aspects in the same chart make things quite obsessive. Vertex square to the nodes shows a soul connection, and it gives overwhelming feelings which are not possible to express in the earthly dimension, and with Pluto square Sun this otherworldly feeling becomes painful, obsessive and very difficult to get rid of... Composite Moon is trine to North Node, so there is spontaneus affection like if your souls recognize each others at first sight. Chiron is square to MC though, so everything looks impossible in reality, your real lives are not compatible... In the synastry, Chiron/Venus is opposite Neptune, and Pluto is square to Saturn, so you need to focus on the reality of your connection, there is a subconscious projection about romantic matters that he triggers to you, but it's very misleading...

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posted September 30, 2021 12:46 AM            

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Thank you all! I feel really bad. I’m vulnerable because things are not 100% with husband so think I’m looking for affection elsewhere, but it’s wrong.

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posted September 30, 2021 01:17 AM            

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Hey Charlie 💙 it's natural to look for love when we miss it... I wish you can fix things with your husband 💙

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posted September 30, 2021 07:36 AM            

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Also we are in Mercury retrograde in Libra, and finding boundaries. Perhaps you’re internalizing what’s going on in your marriage and feeling the pull to someone else when really addressing that lack in your true relationship is what you really want. I understand where you’re at, and we do go through these periods of doubt sometimes. Hang in there!

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posted September 30, 2021 06:35 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Also we are in Mercury retrograde in Libra, and finding boundaries. Perhaps you’re internalizing what’s going on in your marriage and feeling the pull to someone else when really addressing that lack in your true relationship is what you really want.

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Great point StoneMoon!

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