posted December 11, 2021 07:35 PM            

I think I've had a 'dark night of the soul' kind of transformation since 2018, and all my three close friendships had much ups and downs since then, with two of them surviving, but this one I feel did not. I think the reason this friendship could not be saved was because of communication issues as well.

We had a falling out (deep seated dissatisfaction on my part with how we had come to communicate over negative aspects of life, perhaps due to what I felt was growing codependency as well) after I communicated these issues. I had a feeling they would not take it well, and boy was I right. Everything they said and did after this initial fight felt like more of what I had been uncomfortable with in the first place. I think I had been feeling suffocated in our friendship for a while before this (and of course I was also uncomfortable with myself in this friendship), so there's an element of relief, but there's also a lot of sadness as well.

Could you let me know what you see here?

PS. I also want to take a moment to say I re-visited an old post of mine here just to remember how to embed a chart, and was surprised once again at the empathy and clear insight that was offered by everyone who contributed then. The topic then was a different, romantic relationship, and I think the changes and nuances pointed out to me there were absolutely spot on, and they proved absolutely correct looking back now. So thank you everyone once again for your time and insight.