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Topic: Need advise before I do something I shouldn't..
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charlie
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posted March 03, 2022 01:12 PM
  
Long story short: we met under professional circumstances september 2020. I felt nothing towards him. He was just someone I did business with. Polite and cordial. I literally mean there was NOTHING about him that ignited my radar! We met many times during 2021 but sometime during the summer 2021 something happened. I "saw" him for the first time. I remember saying to myself "FCUK" when I realized.
I wouldn't say he makes my knees weak but it's more like I really, truly, want to get to know him. What kinda underwear he uses...where he takes his dog for a walk...I want to chop wood for the fireplace with him..I want to go for long walks with him etc etc I feel this down to the very core of my body and I can honestly say that sex is the last thing on my mind. I miss him when I don't see him! Now the chemistry between us is slightly altered, although we remain very professional and no lines have been crossed, but I know that he knows and vice versa.
I just want to know what you guys see in the charts. Is it me? Is it him? Both?
I am the Cancer Sun.Synastry:
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GalacticCoreExplosionV2
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posted March 03, 2022 01:28 PM
Nobody can really tell you what you should or shouldn't do ultimately. That should come from within. Is your current partner open at all to the idea of an open relationship? But it is sort of simple, if you are more deeply attracted to this man, then break up with your current partner and become involved with the other guy. And if not, and your partner is not open to the open thing, then stay with your current partner and keep a platonic connection to the other guy. I don't see how astrology will help much at all in this situation other than indicate that this guy connects to/fulfills different parts of your chart/psyche than does your current partner and vice versa. I would be surprised if this guy didn't have some attraction to you as well. For example, you capture his Sun in your 7th, your Moon is opposite his Asc and your Sun and Venus are same as his Asc. That's a lot of potential general attraction. IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted March 03, 2022 01:58 PM
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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
Nobody can really tell you what you should or shouldn't do ultimately. That should come from within. Is your current partner open at all to the idea of an open relationship? But it is sort of simple, if you are more deeply attracted to this man, then break up with your current partner and become involved with the other guy. And if not, and your partner is not open to the open thing, then stay with your current partner and keep a platonic connection to the other guy. I don't see how astrology will help much at all in this situation other than indicate that this guy connects to/fulfills different parts of your chart/psyche than does your current partner and vice versa. I would be surprised if this guy didn't have some attraction to you as well. For example, you capture his Sun in your 7th, your Moon is opposite his Asc and your Sun and Venus are same as his Asc. That's a lot of potential general attraction.
Of course you make sense, as always 😊
I think I worded the subject line wrong. I actually don’t know what I want or what I want to do. Some days I just want to tell the other guy how I feel and not to anything about it. The words are burning inside of me but then the logic in me kicks in and says “what’s the point in doing that?”.
Open relationship is a no-go.
Perhaps I should have asked if it’s tPluto op my Venus making me obsessed again..
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GalacticCoreExplosionV2
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posted March 03, 2022 02:07 PM
Since you already stated that you are not particularly sexually attracted to this guy, then it sounds to me like an opportunity for great and close friendship. Or, would your partner even be threatened by a close friendship with another guy? (As an aside, I don't know why, but I was under the impression that you Scandinavian folks tended to be more progressive and liberal in the sexual areas of life, and things like open relationships are generally more accepted and/or practiced?) IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosionV2
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posted March 03, 2022 02:10 PM
So what Pluto often indicates is bringing up repressed/suppressed unconscious shadow issues/feelings/complexes, etc. These are stirred up so that we can become conscious of, and work on these issues. IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted March 04, 2022 12:26 AM
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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
Since you already stated that you are not particularly sexually attracted to this guy, then it sounds to me like an opportunity for great and close friendship. Or, would your partner even be threatened by a close friendship with another guy? (As an aside, I don't know why, but I was under the impression that you Scandinavian folks tended to be more progressive and liberal in the sexual areas of life, and things like open relationships are generally more accepted and/or practiced?)
Close friendship would be a no-go as well. As for liberalism and progression..open relationships is a weird concept for me that I most likely will never engage in. I'm having a really hard time with another person in my head as it is! Also didn't mean to imply that sex hasn't crossed my mind, it's just not in the top 5 thoughts. This is the first time in my life when sex isn't the catalyst. It's something much deeper. I've always been the person that "yeah, let's bang and see where it goes" whereas with this person it's "yeah, let's see if it leads to banging.." and THAT is what makes me so curious! IP: Logged |
vansio
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posted March 04, 2022 06:45 AM
What’s the harm in telling him how you feel? Who would judge you?
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charlie
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posted March 04, 2022 08:10 AM
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Originally posted by vansio:
What’s the harm in telling him how you feel? Who would judge you?
I have thought about it. A lot. Only thing that’s stopped me is fear of making him uncomfortable. We have a pretty close working relationship and I don’t want to mess it up. IP: Logged |
vansio
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posted March 04, 2022 06:03 PM
When in doubt, apply the KISS Principle (Keep it simple, sweetie)"keep it short and simple", "keep it short and sweet", "keep it simple and straightforward", "keep it small and simple", "keep it simple, soldier", “keep it simple, sailor", or "keep it sweet and simple" 💋 IP: Logged |
AlmaRegulus
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posted March 04, 2022 06:51 PM
Charlie, I guess it started when transit South Node was on your composite North Node? or on composite Neptune?I think it was also you who mentioned some Eros-Psyche stuff? IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted March 05, 2022 06:12 AM
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Originally posted by AlmaRegulus:
Charlie, I guess it started when transit South Node was on your composite North Node? or on composite Neptune?I think it was also you who mentioned some Eros-Psyche stuff?
Yes, you are correct. What does this mean? IP: Logged |
AlmaRegulus
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posted March 05, 2022 03:03 PM
Well it explains your sudden attraction.I guess it was fated in some way. South/North Node overlap kind of hints to some past life/ unfinished business. Or was it on Neptune when you "saw" him? IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted March 06, 2022 05:32 AM
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Originally posted by AlmaRegulus:
Well it explains your sudden attraction.I guess it was fated in some way. South/North Node overlap kind of hints to some past life/ unfinished business. Or was it on Neptune when you "saw" him?
Neptune was far away from making squares in my chart at that point, but was still in my 7H. IP: Logged |
AlmaRegulus
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posted March 06, 2022 07:40 AM
No I mean was transit South Node on composite Neptune? or on composite North Node when you "saw" him?IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted March 06, 2022 08:15 AM
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Originally posted by AlmaRegulus:
No I mean was transit South Node on composite Neptune? or on composite North Node when you "saw" him?
Ah, I see. Yes, tSN was conjunct composite Neptune and composite NN.
What about Venus Return? Would have been thereabouts. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted October 26, 2022 04:16 AM
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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
(As an aside, I don't know why, but I was under the impression that you Scandinavian folks tended to be more progressive and liberal in the sexual areas of life, and things like open relationships are generally more accepted and/or practiced?)
I've heard this too! I found out a few years ago that I have some Scandinavian decent. I've been pretty attracted to Scandinavian men since 2021. I sometimes wonder about myself and human nature in general. They say that scientists are trying to find out if human are truly meant to be monogamous. I've heard in that culture, it's common to have a "parallel partner" That outlet of passion outside a dutiful marriage, the responsibility, your partner going through something, someone who has similar interests as you that your spouse doesn't share. Open relationship is a big no go for my husband. I thought it was for me too. But I remember as a kid deciding that all the boys I liked were my boyfriend. I think what stops people is their main spouse also benefitting. I've been thinking about it, and how "that means your husband can do it too" and I'll be honest, it sounds threatening. But then my husband is not as enthusiastic to fully satisfy me. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted October 26, 2022 04:21 AM
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Originally posted by charlie:
Close friendship would be a no-go as well. As for liberalism and progression..open relationships is a weird concept for me that I most likely will never engage in. I'm having a really hard time with another person in my head as it is! Also didn't mean to imply that sex hasn't crossed my mind, it's just not in the top 5 thoughts. This is the first time in my life when sex isn't the catalyst. It's something much deeper. I've always been the person that "yeah, let's bang and see where it goes" whereas with this person it's "yeah, let's see if it leads to banging.." and THAT is what makes me so curious!
I'm from a liberal part of the state. I know a few poly and open relationship people. It seems like all relationships are hard. LOL I'm curious too. IP: Logged |
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