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Topic: Why does he like me? And can this work out?
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SoulOfABird
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posted April 23, 2022 04:03 AM
  
So there is this Taurus guy who has been doing construction work in our house for a few months now. He's been working here a full work day so he's been here a lot.
My grandma being a chatty Gemini, has gotten close to him over his time being here because she talks up a storm with him.
My grandma told me that he wanted to take me out. I was honestly surprised by this. I didn't really understand why he liked me. I mean I was super natural when he came to work on our house, because it was so early he saw me no makeup in my pjs, but somehow my grandma tells me he told her he though I was the most beautiful girl he's ever seen.
I was really flattered though, and it was sweet considering he was the first guy who actually ever asked me out. He even got me flowers on my birthday (:Ive had other guys show interest in me but because I very very reserved and more on the shy side I think most guys give up on getting to know me lol
But even though my grandma talks way more to him, and I barely have any courage to talk to him, he still shows interest. And I don't know why.
So I looked up his chart because based on what I know of synastry usually guys find a girl really beautiful when his venus conjuncts the girls ascendent. However there is no conjunction.
I did notice the venus square Pluto aspect which Im not gonna lie, kind if worries me. Im guessing that's why he is attracted to me?
My grandma told me he liked me the first time he saw me so Im not sure what is happening in synastry since nothing here looks particularly special.
What do you guys think?
and is this synastry any good or bad news?
I don't have his birth time, but mine is accurate and Im in the blue
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sashavittoria
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posted April 23, 2022 08:03 PM
Taurus sun and Venus here. OF COURSE he liked you natural, lol. That is what Taurus likes  all that talk of Taurean luxury and designer crap is so bogus... Venus/Pluto definitely a love-at-first-sight feeling for him, which males are neurologically more prone to anyway. Then of course your sun/Mercury/Venus trine his Venus, your Saturn squaring it may cause issues. Your Neptune opp his moon, he likes his illusion of you. He is projecting a lot. He may be controlling though. IP: Logged |
SoulOfABird
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posted April 23, 2022 10:39 PM
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Originally posted by sashavittoria:
Taurus sun and Venus here. OF COURSE he liked you natural, lol. That is what Taurus likes all that talk of Taurean luxury and designer crap is so bogus... Venus/Pluto definitely a love-at-first-sight feeling for him, which males are neurologically more prone to anyway. Then of course your sun/Mercury/Venus trine his Venus, your Saturn squaring it may cause issues. Your Neptune opp his moon, he likes his illusion of you. He is projecting a lot. He may be controlling though.
Ahh I see lol I always thought Taurus liked very sensual and luxurious girls lol
What makes you say he may be controlling? is it something in our synastry or his chart? Im a little worried about that moon opposite Neptune though. I read up on it now that you pointed it out, and it seems fitting. There was actually a lot of confusion I had on my part, because I told myself I was not ready to date mostly because I needed time to heal myself from things I still struggle with. And also Im trying to finish school and get easily distracted, and my dream involves me moving abroad, so I dont plan to stay where Im at.
But he came along showing interest in me, and honestly I thought it was just some crush that will pass for him. But ultimately months later he still wants to take me out. Everyone tells me I should just go out with him.
And I actually like a lot of things about him, it's just I didn't want to lead him on. So I decided Id go with the flow and see what happens.
I only felt better if I let him know about my goals and dreams so he wouldn't be surprised. He didn't seem to mind though. But now reading on that moon opposite Neptune I wonder if I will only disappoint him. He may be just imagining me as his ideal. Him having Cancer venus makes me wonder if he liked me because I am a caregiver for my grandma so I often care for her and look after her. I help her cook and stuff. And then I have my dog who is like my son lol
So maybe somehow he thinks Im like this homemaker or something. And I know that he finds that ideal as told my grandma that.
So with that being said, I feel like I might disappoint him, because how can I promise any of those things when I want to live in another country? lol I mean even though I told him I still feel like he'd be disappointed. Since I honestly feel like my soul's path isn't to live where Im at.
I actually am also afraid I don't meet his expectations. I mean Im afraid for him to find out about my unstable side that needs alone time, overly daydreams, is going to a counselor. Im just a mess. I like caring for others, it gives me purpose in my life, and I dont mind those things in a relationship, but I just can't promise that right now as Im working on my dreams. That is not ideal for a guy like him with Cancer moon and venus.
So Im not sure what he is expecting of me. But.. Im afraid I won't meet his expectations. Even though I like him, this is holding me back from even going out with him. Especially since Im not the most confident in myself at the moment Im afraid he will find out Im not what he expects and that will definitely lower my confidence. Especially if it doesn't look like anything promising IP: Logged |
sashavittoria
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posted April 24, 2022 10:46 PM
I say controlling because of the squares from his Saturn and Pluto.I don't think you need to take dating so seriously. Definitely only do what you feel comfortable with, but there's a big gap between one measly date and a committed relationship. Definitely prioritize healing and your own goals, and NEVER compromise on those. But sometimes dating can be a part of the healing process, if you don't get bogged down taking it so super seriously. You're not promising him anything and as long as everyone communicates clearly and honestly and transparently, and trusts and respects what the other says, that's all you can ask/expect. IP: Logged |
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