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posted September 12, 2022 06:47 AM            

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The guy that I was sort of seeing, who I had such strong soul mate feelings with, it felt like we were in alignment, and perhaps there was a future there has ghosted me…

He doesn’t respond, or make effort - he keeps his feelings to himself. It’s a dead end, just like that, I felt like he felt the same way but he’s just not showing up. There’s not really anything to look at in terms of charts, because I’ve had advice about that already - but it seems it’s gone the worst way, free will and all too

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posted September 12, 2022 07:35 AM            

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It all heals with time. I had one who sent a message 1x every two weeks (after exchanging 4000 texts in 20 days) lol eventually over the course of 6 months he sent me 3 messages asking if I was still in town. Took me a whole year to get over a 1 month fling!

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posted September 12, 2022 07:43 AM            

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Right?! It’s like having a beautiful short time with someone and then that’s it. They just like nah afterwards 😂

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posted September 12, 2022 10:03 AM            

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He had pluto transiting on his moon, whereas I had pluto transiting my sun (and jupiter on sun as well). So I just convonce myself it was intense for him as well haha

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posted September 15, 2022 01:01 AM            

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Is this the thread of the dude who ghosted you?
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/011937.html

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posted September 16, 2022 07:04 AM            

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Is he in the US military? Cause if he is girl!! we be having same problem lol

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posted September 16, 2022 11:48 AM            

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Yes he’s from that thread! And yip he’s military

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posted September 16, 2022 11:50 AM            

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He hasn’t actually ghosted tho, but he’s sort of back and forth. I think he’s scared of something

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posted September 25, 2022 09:32 AM            

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Just because a person can't show up for you in an honest meaningful way is a reflection on them. It hurts.

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posted November 03, 2022 07:55 PM            

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Hi - I wanted to give an update to this ^^ So, the person I was talking about is in this thread http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/011937.html - and he did not ghost me, but the military does take his attention, and more often than not I get very triggered. I still have a lot of emotional healing to do on my part from my past - and I am working on it.

We are super in love, there is still no commitment, although it feels committed internally. I guess the no commitment is because he is leaving next week - and logically it's like why make a commitment, even though I think we will continue "seeing each other" no matter that it is long distance?

One thing that does drive me insane though, is the fact that I feel like I am investing more like my energy is very much geared toward him and he is back and forth. His communication can be horrendous sometimes, I'm like am I just a neglected emotional mess from childhood, or is he actually wishy-washy. Does this connection seem lopsided? Or is it just me and my issues lol?

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posted November 03, 2022 09:08 PM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:

One thing that does drive me insane though, is the fact that I feel like I am investing more like my energy is very much geared toward him and he is back and forth. His communication can be horrendous sometimes, I'm like am I just a neglected emotional mess from childhood, or is he actually wishy-washy. Does this connection seem lopsided? Or is it just me and my issues lol?

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Putting astrology aside, this is all about you sugar. You're being given a big mirror by the universe to look into your own unhealed parts. People match energy (spiritually speaking, but there is also a basis in psychology/neuroscience too). If your guy is wishy-washy and inconsistent, putting other priorities before you despite the apparent strength of the connection, then that actually indicates that you are only emotionally available and consistently there to meet your OWN needs half the time (if that) too. The patterns that play out in our closest relationships are a direct replica of our inner world, an inner world that was constructed in childhood, for good or bad(!). Whether the issues are real or perceived, it very much sounds like time to work on you because something is making you less than completely happy with the way things are. You admit that you are 100% focussed on him. Well that needs to change! Start treating and loving yourself the way you would someone else (or would want someone to do TO you) and see how the energies of the people in your life change. You have to work hard at it if it doesn't come naturally to you. Start by looking up your Attachment Style is my advice. And, of course, look at your Chiron for wounding clues

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posted November 03, 2022 10:46 PM            

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Originally posted by AnnabelLucy:
Putting astrology aside, this is all about you sugar. You're being given a big mirror by the universe to look into your own unhealed parts. People match energy (spiritually speaking, but there is also a basis in psychology/neuroscience too). If your guy is wishy-washy and inconsistent, putting other priorities before you despite the apparent strength of the connection, then that actually indicates that you are only emotionally available and consistently there to meet your OWN needs half the time (if that) too. The patterns that play out in our closest relationships are a direct replica of our inner world, an inner world that was constructed in childhood, for good or bad(!). Whether the issues are real or perceived, it very much sounds like time to work on you because something is making you less than completely happy with the way things are. You admit that you are 100% focussed on him. Well that needs to change! Start treating and loving yourself the way you would someone else (or would want someone to do TO you) and see how the energies of the people in your life change. You have to work hard at it if it doesn't come naturally to you. Start by looking up your Attachment Style is my advice. And, of course, look at your Chiron for wounding clues

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Hehe, hiiii - yes you hit the nail on the head. I am trying my best to focus on myself, but I do agree it needs to be more so - I honestly have some amazing and fun things happening that I want to be 100% present for. Also Chiron in 7th Virgo (crying) - opposite moon/Saturn conjunct. Anyhoo, I have been slacking on my inner work lately because I have been distracted, usually, I am doing all the things I can to improve myself, but all the love and romance had me distracted. I need to buckle down again ~ Can you give any insight to the composite/synastry (still don't know his birthtime)...

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posted November 05, 2022 03:26 AM            

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Bump!~~

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posted November 10, 2022 02:15 AM            

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Anyone got anymore input? ☺️

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