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enypen
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posted January 23, 2023 05:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for enypen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi! short summary.

a year ago my friend and i fell out because we kept arguing over nothings and i invalidated her without meaning to. we have been ignoring each others presence for a year despite being in the same classroom every single day and haven’t exchanged a single word.

i’ve really been wanting to be friends again- and one small detail that is sort of embarassing is that i’ve always been very attracted to her (never told her because she’s just really amazing and it intimidated me)- but i’ve never been able to tell if she ever felt the same way.

she would do weird things like push her forehead against mine and look me in the eyes in silence, tell me i have such aries hands (she’s also into astrology, she has an aries venus and i have broad hands) and play footsies with me all the time.

i disregarded all of it during the time we weren’t talking, but recently we have been exchanging tension filled stares across the classroom after avoiding each others eyes like the plague for a long time- and it’s got me wondering if i should approach her JUST AS HER FRIEND BTW the attraction isn’t that important, i can definitely see past that- i can’t explain the attraction it’s so weird, it’s always been there and it feels like i get physically burned around her- but i value our friendship more. i just don’t know if she even wants it because she has lots of amazing friends and i don’t know why she would need a random estranged friend from a year ago back.

either way, i’d love any insights on wether reconciliation is possible, wether it’s smart, wether she would want it, and wether she ever would’ve felt attraction towards me (you can be as mean as you’d like, i’m okay with the harsh truth!)

here is our synastry chart, i am the inner circle; she is the outer.

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Stoika7
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posted January 23, 2023 08:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have a nice synastry, especially with Mars conjunct North Node in your 11th house, and other aspects of mutual attraction and affection. I believe she's also attracted to you on some level, since her Lilith is conjunct to your Venus, and your Venus/Mars Lilith trine to her Venus, let alone the Pluto/Moon square which is very "intimate" and would make you stuck to each other.
Mercury square Moon is why maybe you have some emotional communication is the "wrong" way, but with Pluto/Moon jelousy or manipulation could also be a reason of conflicts... I believe that with Jupiter trine to Mars/North Node reconciliation is very possible. But it'd be better to look at the Composite to answer this question.

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posted January 24, 2023 05:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for enypen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
You have a nice synastry, especially with Mars conjunct North Node in your 11th house, and other aspects of mutual attraction and affection. I believe she's also attracted to you on some level, since her Lilith is conjunct to your Venus, and your Venus/Mars Lilith trine to her Venus, let alone the Pluto/Moon square which is very "intimate" and would make you stuck to each other.
Mercury square Moon is why maybe you have some emotional communication is the "wrong" way, but with Pluto/Moon jelousy or manipulation could also be a reason of conflicts... I believe that with Jupiter trine to Mars/North Node reconciliation is very possible. But it'd be better to look at the Composite to answer this question.

hey, thanks so much for your reply! that makes a lot of sense. we did have some miscommunication and lots of jealousy, especially from me- and i’m shocked and somewhat glad to hear she feels attraction too- i was always worried it was just me feeling the tension.

about the reconciliation aspect, if the composite is necessary, here it is;

but of course you don’t have to give me any insights on this thanks so much already for your reply.

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posted January 24, 2023 03:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're welcome dear! Thanks for the chart :-)

I wonder if your "break up" happened when transiting Saturn was on composite Neptune square the nodes, last year at around the end of january 2022 ? If so, it looks like the separation would not be definitve.
The nodal return occurred recently in the composite, and so it is possible that you both are slowly putting the grudge behind your back. Right currently on these days, transiting mercury is square the nodes and transiting Jupiter is conjunct to composite Sun, so it's possible that you're both on each other's mind with wishful thinking about reconciliation... maybe this looks a little too early, since tr. jupiter is square to comp. saturn, and tr. saturn is square to the axis, so the situation seems still "stuck" cause maybe you're both unsecure of the other's feelings... and transiting mercury going through the Chiron/Moon square feels like you both still feel the "wound" of a sense of abandonement, so I think it takes a bit more time to process all of that past issues... but it looks like work in progress. I feel that when transiting Jupiter is conjunct to composite Moon and transiting North Node is conjunct the Moon/Venus midpoint sextile Uranus/DSC in April, this would be a favourable time for reconciliation and getting closer again. Also, tr. Uranus conjunct Venus/North Node looks favourable at this time, maybe your reconciliation could occur in some unexpected/fated circumstance, likely in school/learning environment since it is in the 9th house.
I feel that it all will develope slowly in the next two/three months.

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posted January 24, 2023 04:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for enypen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
You're welcome dear! Thanks for the chart :-)

I wonder if your "break up" happened when transiting Saturn was on composite Neptune square the nodes, last year at around the end of january 2022 ? If so, it looks like the separation would not be definitve.
The nodal return occurred recently in the composite, and so it is possible that you both are slowly putting the grudge behind your back. Right currently on these days, transiting mercury is square the nodes and transiting Jupiter is conjunct to composite Sun, so it's possible that you're both on each other's mind with wishful thinking about reconciliation... maybe this looks a little too early, since tr. jupiter is square to comp. saturn, and tr. saturn is square to the axis, so the situation seems still "stuck" cause maybe you're both unsecure of the other's feelings... and transiting mercury going through the Chiron/Moon square feels like you both still feel the "wound" of a sense of abandonement, so I think it takes a bit more time to process all of that past issues... but it looks like work in progress. I feel that when transiting Jupiter is conjunct to composite Moon and transiting North Node is conjunct the Moon/Venus midpoint sextile Uranus/DSC in April, this would be a favourable time for reconciliation and getting closer again. Also, tr. Uranus conjunct Venus/North Node looks favourable at this time, maybe your reconciliation could occur in some unexpected/fated circumstance, likely in school/learning environment since it is in the 9th house.
I feel that it all will develope slowly in the next two/three months.


Wow:.. you’re INCREDIBLE. like INSANELY good. we DID separate around the end of last january/beginning of february! (started fighting, and then the final separation came in march). It absolutely feels so stuck and hopeless, i’m incredibly insecure of how she feels and pretty much convinced she’s fully moved on. And we are in the same class so the school thing makes so much sense. We have been making eye contact more than usual recently and finding opportunities to be close to each other (i think) more than usually, so there’s a tiny part of me that hopes she also feels it, but i may as well be deluding myself. I really do hope a reconciliation takes place, to atleast be friends to some extent again. She’s an incredible girl and very picky so it’ll likely never get far, but man do i hope i can atleast be in her presence as her friend- though at the moment i feel so hopeless and like it’s so unlikely.

Thank you so so so much for your insights, i could’ve never read it this way myself. Again, amazing! Thanks for your time!

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posted January 24, 2023 04:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey, thanks for your so lovely feedback, and you're welcome :-)

Well, I see these uncertainties in the composite and so I believe she's also very unsecure on how you feel, it could be that she's the one who takes more time to put things behind her back... Looking at transits, it looks like getting closer again could come in a natural way somehow, even though triggered by some "fated" circumstance...
In any case, end of march until mid april looks favourable for reconciliation in case you feel like opening up.

Hugs and give me updates if you have any!

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posted February 24, 2023 12:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for enypen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hey, thanks for your so lovely feedback, and you're welcome :-)

Well, I see these uncertainties in the composite and so I believe she's also very unsecure on how you feel, it could be that she's the one who takes more time to put things behind her back... Looking at transits, it looks like getting closer again could come in a natural way somehow, even though triggered by some "fated" circumstance...
In any case, end of march until mid april looks favourable for reconciliation in case you feel like opening up.

Hugs and give me updates if you have any!



Hiya!! Thank you so so so much, your replies helped me a ton.
Oh and i found out she’s actually a pisces rising so this isn’t 100% accurate anymore, but it’s pretty similar.

I’m planning on sending her my apology text this saturday (i’m scared ******** but i’m way too into her at this point to go back, it’s gotten bad).

Do you reckon it’s too early and i should wait till late march or am i okay to do so? Thank you so so much for your expertise again idk how to thank you <3

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posted April 12, 2023 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aah08     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think you should approach her.
Her sun is also in a trine to your saturn which makes me believe this relationship can last for a long time.

Destiny always works in ways we cannot understand completely but maybe you guys needed this year long break to grow as people and now are ready to be close again!

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