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Topic: Synastry with new guy.
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444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 15, 2023 04:55 AM
  
Hello! so I just wanted to get your opinions on my synastry with this new man I've started speaking to, this is the first man I've been actually interested in since my break up last year in August. But something feels off and I'm not sure if it's just my fear of getting hurt again or if it's my intuition. the sexual attraction is there but sometimes it feels difficult to speak about our actual feelings towards each other. maybe i'm just overthinking it idk. Lmk!my chart is the one on the inside.
http://imgur.com/a/KfvvTVz Synastry^ IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 16, 2023 02:21 PM
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444libra
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From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 16, 2023 08:15 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Welcome!
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StoneMoon
Knowflake Posts: 1144
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posted February 17, 2023 08:51 AM
if you remove the 's' from https it will show your chart so we can help you more readily
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mee_chryssa
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From: Romania
Registered: Jun 2020
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posted February 17, 2023 10:46 AM
I would say to date him more... it looks good to me. Sun opposite Moon on both sides, Mars (his) conjunct Venus(you), Moon conjunct ASC, Sun conjunct DC. It's a possibility for long term here. I see his Saturn opposite your Venus - I would say that you have to take care with this... if you see that some of the things he does, hurts you, dont wait further to see something bigger that could hurt you even more. But overall, this looks pretty good. IP: Logged |
444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 17, 2023 10:22 PM
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
if you remove the 's' from https it will show your chart so we can help you more readily
oooo okay just did it! IP: Logged |
444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 17, 2023 10:27 PM
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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
I would say to date him more... it looks good to me. Sun opposite Moon on both sides, Mars (his) conjunct Venus(you), Moon conjunct ASC, Sun conjunct DC. It's a possibility for long term here. I see his Saturn opposite your Venus - I would say that you have to take care with this... if you see that some of the things he does, hurts you, dont wait further to see something bigger that could hurt you even more. But overall, this looks pretty good.
This is very interesting because I was just talking to my friend yesterday about how I am somewhat scared because I feel he has someeee red flags(like being a little too secretive), but I'm not 100% sure yet. I mean we did start talking not too long ago so I'll just wait it out a bit longer. IP: Logged |
LilyIris07
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From: A South African in South Korea
Registered: Jan 2022
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posted February 17, 2023 11:26 PM
Who’s the one with all the planets in the 12th? IP: Logged |
444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 17, 2023 11:34 PM
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Originally posted by LilyIris07:
Who’s the one with all the planets in the 12th?
His planets are in my 12th house :[ IP: Logged |
StoneMoon
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posted February 18, 2023 08:07 AM
are birth times correct?
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444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 18, 2023 06:00 PM
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
are birth times correct?
From what he’s told me yeah, cause I asked him lol and he said he was born at 9am, I know if it was 9:30 he would’ve been a Taurus rising, but he said it was 9 on the dot. My birth time is correct tho. IP: Logged |
sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 1302
From: Oz
Registered: May 2011
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posted February 18, 2023 09:01 PM
Obviously there is some awkward communication with his Mercury squares his own Pluto, and then t-square with you. AND opposite your Moon and Mars.There's always something annoying *roll eyes*. Your Mercury in Libra needs communication in words. The ruler Venus though is in Scorpio, so, that can help a bit, to deal with his Pisces Mercury (that is square his Pluto). Pisces Mercury communicates with Morse Code and smoke signals, not words. Even more so with a square to Pluto. Not to mention the squares to the Chiron for both of your natals. And, which neither of you provide relief from, in the synastry. There is desire that the other will bring a soft place to land. Like Neptune, Chiron can be illusionary, these Chirons are not too protected in this synastry, so not really, in the end, providing the soft place to land that you both need/want. But you may think it is initially. This synastry looks to me then like a lot of push-pull for a while yet. IP: Logged |
StoneMoon
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posted February 18, 2023 09:49 PM
I just get the feeling he doesn't have a grasp on his own feelings and himself, and then he puts all of that energy into your 12th... he's also a mars square Neptune, and it squares your Neptune... he's used to that energy but you aren't. Though you do have Venus square Neptune... he either struggles to read the energy or he is a manipulator... I would say either pass or go into this with eyes wide open... I don't think given the age of those involved that it has had time to develop the necessary wisdom to navigate this energy. I think this is a learning relationship you do have some resonance with your moons- his being Aries and yours being conjunct mars... and you definitely have some connecting points... I just feel this is a challenging relationship that likely spells karma and karmic soulmates... it's about what you can learn and grow from this more than anything. IP: Logged |
444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 18, 2023 10:00 PM
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Originally posted by sassaqua:
Obviously there is some awkward communication with his Mercury squares his own Pluto, and then t-square with you. AND opposite your Moon and Mars.There's always something annoying *roll eyes*. Your Mercury in Libra needs communication in words. The ruler Venus though is in Scorpio, so, that can help a bit, to deal with his Pisces Mercury (that is square his Pluto). Pisces Mercury communicates with Morse Code and smoke signals, not words. Even more so with a square to Pluto. Not to mention the squares to the Chiron for both of your natals. And, which neither of you provide relief from, in the synastry. There is desire that the other will bring a soft place to land. Like Neptune, Chiron can be illusionary, these Chirons are not too protected in this synastry, so not really, in the end, providing the soft place to land that you both need/want. But you may think it is initially. This synastry looks to me then like a lot of push-pull for a while yet.
Wow I completely agree lol, our communication isn't the best and I was just talking to him about this last night. I told him how I prefer to communicate things out rather than like hidden messages or just straight up disappearing because I've had too many relationships that were like that. Although I do struggle being vulnerable and telling people how I feel as well due to fears of coming off as like feeling "too much" The way he communicates is by being like super vague or mysterious, kind of like speaking in riddles for me to figure out lol ahhhhh we'll see how it goes IP: Logged |
444libra
Newflake Posts: 12
From: NYC
Registered: Feb 2023
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posted February 18, 2023 10:06 PM
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I just get the feeling he doesn't have a grasp on his own feelings and himself, and then he puts all of that energy into your 12th... he's also a mars square Neptune, and it squares your Neptune... he's used to that energy but you aren't. Though you do have Venus square Neptune... he either struggles to read the energy or he is a manipulator... I would say either pass or go into this with eyes wide open... I don't think given the age of those involved that it has had time to develop the necessary wisdom to navigate this energy. I think this is a learning relationship you do have some resonance with your moons- his being Aries and yours being conjunct mars... and you definitely have some connecting points... I just feel this is a challenging relationship that likely spells karma and karmic soulmates... it's about what you can learn and grow from this more than anything.
I had a feeling from the moment we started talking it might be karmic. mostly because of how it felt.
It's so crazy because before we met I never responded to his dm's and then the moment I decide to I actually end up talking to him more and liking him lol. He definitely says certain things that just scream manipulative, which is why I had doubts in the first place. He has also told me he's scared of speaking about his emotions and opening up and to give him time.
I feel like most of my relationships have been about me teaching them how to be more vulnerable and communicate their emotions and then usually shortly after that the relationship ends. I wouldn't be surprised at all if this is really karmic. IP: Logged |
sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 1302
From: Oz
Registered: May 2011
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posted February 20, 2023 04:07 AM
Opportunity to be your new self-supporting self and practice telling people who you are, what you respond to, what your preferences are, and what you are hoping for (and anything else).Time to un-struggle issues around telling people how you feel, and overcome fears of coming off as like "too much". Don't be "too much", but know that you do actually matter, and it's ok to have needs and methods that work best for you, and to communicate them  IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
Knowflake Posts: 940
From: Romania
Registered: Jun 2020
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posted February 20, 2023 05:23 AM
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Originally posted by 444libra:
This is very interesting because I was just talking to my friend yesterday about how I am somewhat scared because I feel he has someeee red flags(like being a little too secretive), but I'm not 100% sure yet. I mean we did start talking not too long ago so I'll just wait it out a bit longer.
I think he's just seclusive, if thats the word im looking for )... like being lonely and in his head most of the time... but it might be something else... Its hard to determine when the 12th house its involved. He also has Saturn on the ASC and he might seem to you pretty serious and with the 12th house in the natal, I think he's just lonely or that he prefers to retreat. But seems to me that you will be talking with him more, just pay attention to Saturn opposite Venus... IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 28, 2023 06:58 PM
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sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 1302
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posted March 01, 2023 06:35 AM
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Randall
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posted March 06, 2023 05:21 PM
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Randall
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posted March 27, 2023 05:56 PM
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