posted February 20, 2023 05:22 PM            

I am very much interested in this guy and I feel that the interest is mutual. We've been on a few dates and he is asking me out again which I am excited about. Haven't kissed yet but I can feel mutual attraction. He's complimented me several times and after our first date, he gave me a long hug, so tight, I don't think I've ever had anyone hug me like that, it felt amazing!!

Looking at our synastry (I am in blue), do we have a good potential for something long lasting?

posted February 22, 2023 06:42 PM            

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Originally posted by sassaqua:
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Sorry can you please tell me why? Is it not showing up for you? I can see the chart and degrees table below it when I look at my original post.

posted March 10, 2023 04:09 PM            

There is an attraction from your part for him. Moons are in the same sign, ASCs are trine and I think you make him really happy with your Jupiter which is your ASC ruler on his ASC.
His Saturn - whichc is his 7th house ruler- is in your 7th house. His Jupiter is in a wide conjunction to your Moon which in return feels the same, as something really happy, enjoying time together.

You can try, if everything feels right.

His Sun in your 12th house kind of bothers me because you might not see him as he is.

he is kind of a lonely person - ascendant ruler in the 4th house, probably spends most of his time at home, North node in the 12th house with it's ruler in Capricorn which probably shows that there might be some lack of empathy for other people, Jupiter it's also badly placed in Capricorn and in the 6th house, Saturn in the 11th retrograde, which could show again that he is kind of lonely or has some problems with people in general.

But he is also 20 years older than me and people change after all this time being alive. The only fixed placement is his Sun. The rest of them are either cardinal or mutable so for sure he changed some things by now.

posted March 15, 2023 09:37 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
Hey, how did it go?

There is an attraction from your part for him. Moons are in the same sign, ASCs are trine and I think you make him really happy with your Jupiter which is your ASC ruler on his ASC.
His Saturn - whichc is his 7th house ruler- is in your 7th house. His Jupiter is in a wide conjunction to your Moon which in return feels the same, as something really happy, enjoying time together.

You can try, if everything feels right.

His Sun in your 12th house kind of bothers me because you might not see him as he is.

he is kind of a lonely person - ascendant ruler in the 4th house, probably spends most of his time at home, North node in the 12th house with it's ruler in Capricorn which probably shows that there might be some lack of empathy for other people, Jupiter it's also badly placed in Capricorn and in the 6th house, Saturn in the 11th retrograde, which could show again that he is kind of lonely or has some problems with people in general.

But he is also 20 years older than me and people change after all this time being alive. The only fixed placement is his Sun. The rest of them are either cardinal or mutable so for sure he changed some things by now.

And even if events come in our lives the same, we changed our views and reactions to what is happening around us.... so if it feels right for you, then it's fine. Even a good friendship is a blessing.

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Thank you for your input, mee_chryssa. I just found out that I had his TOB wrong. Looks like we have the same ASC and pretty much the same house layout.

Does this now show any deviations from before? I am inside the wheel. Thanks!

posted March 16, 2023 08:08 AM            

He probably has a lot of friends and he is kind of solitary with the Sun in Scorpio, but the ASC being in Sag and his Moon there, he is kind of a happy person always on the move and having a laugh.

Changed everything.

He has saturn in the 7th. So he is kind of committed in relayionships, but is retrograde and the ruler of the 7th is in the 1st so he might be a bit self centered in relationships. Being in detriment also, this might be the worst kind of thing. Jupiter is in the 2nd house in fall, so again I think he might be a bit too self centered, not appreciating life for real, maybe searching for his own gain.

Amazing how the ASC can change so many things

But Venus, which represents naturally the 7th house is in domicile, which its good because this shows that he knows how to behave in relationships and he is not mysoginistic, or that he will treat you bad.

Having the same ascendant is really good. His moon falls in your 1st house and this shows long term potential.

I would say that you could date him more and pay attention if he cares about you.

posted March 16, 2023 12:35 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
Yes. 😂

He probably has a lot of friends and he is kind of solitary with the Sun in Scorpio, but the ASC being in Sag and his Moon there, he is kind of a happy person always on the move and having a laugh.

Changed everything.

He has saturn in the 7th. So he is kind of committed in relayionships, but is retrograde and the ruler of the 7th is in the 1st so he might be a bit self centered in relationships. Being in detriment also, this might be the worst kind of thing. Jupiter is in the 2nd house in fall, so again I think he might be a bit too self centered, not appreciating life for real, maybe searching for his own gain.

Amazing how the ASC can change so many things

But Venus, which represents naturally the 7th house is in domicile, which its good because this shows that he knows how to behave in relationships and he is not mysoginistic, or that he will treat you bad.

Having the same ascendant is really good. His moon falls in your 1st house and this shows long term potential.

I would say that you could date him more and pay attention if he cares about you.

People change after a while just like I said before and they react differently to what happens to them.

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Thank you again! Yes, he is definitely a positive person. That's the first thing I noticed when we talked and he shared things about his childhood and personal life and most people would be down about life in general if those things happened in their life but he was pretty positive, happy and forward looking.

I looked up Moon in partner's 1H because I see that my Moon also falls in his 1H. This sounds very promising. Read that it is often seen in married couples or a good marriage potential.

When you say "self centered" what do you mean? Self centered as in selfish? Like he wants to do things his way and does not care what his partner wants/needs?

Also, Saturn in the 7H is bad? Why? Isn't it an indication of control, rules, commitment and discipline and being in the 7H of relationships would mean he is serious when it comes to being in a relationship?

And finally, can you tell me if these are good or bad aspects?

- My Moon conj his NN
- My Pluto conj his Venus
- His Uranus square my Moon - I understand that squares are not good so how bad is this one?
- His Sun in my 12H

posted March 16, 2023 01:26 PM            

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Thank you again! Yes, he is definitely a positive person. That's the first thing I noticed when we talked and he shared things about his childhood and personal life and most people would be down about life in general if those things happened in their life but he was pretty positive, happy and forward looking.

I looked up Moon in partner's 1H because I see that my Moon also falls in his 1H. This sounds very promising. Read that it is often seen in married couples or a good marriage potential.

When you say "self centered" what do you mean? Self centered as in selfish? Like he wants to do things his way and does not care what his partner wants/needs?

Also, Saturn in the 7H is bad? Why? Isn't it an indication of control, rules, commitment and discipline and being in the 7H of relationships would mean he is serious when it comes to being in a relationship?

And finally, can you tell me if these are good or bad aspects?

- My Moon conj his NN
- My Pluto conj his Venus
- His Uranus square my Moon - I understand that squares are not good so how bad is this one?
- His Sun in my 12H

THANK YOU 🙏🏻

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It could mean that he prefers for his partner to be all about him, like him being the center of her univers. And not in a good way because Mercury is in detriment there. He might have or had some views in this that were exagerated, or irational.

Moon on Asc in synastry it is a marriage aspect.
Also you have ruler of 7th conjunct saturn so its the same as his saturn in the 7th. These are good signs of long term potential along with the same ascendant.

I have Saturn in the 7th house. It give lessons about partnership, but mine is in domicile, his is in triplicity. It will give him lessons about commitment. He is very committed in relationships, but he might've had togher lessons than I had. It's in Gemini, maybe he was married twice or he has a bad habit of maintaining two relationships at once. That's a theme with double bodied signs, but especially with Gemini. Jude Law I think has this and he is a notorious cheater, but he has also mars in scorpio, so he has strong sex appeal.

But as I said, things change, this might have been the theme in his life until now.

Moon conjunct North Node it's an attraction aspect. Just be careful to not obsess over him as this aspect it's a bit obsessive.

His Sun in your 12th house it's concerning beause you might miss some things about him and not see him as he is. Don't overlook things.

posted March 16, 2023 08:07 PM            

His Sun on your Sun/Moon mp.
His Moon sextile your Mars
Mars conjunct Mars
Your Mercury/Saturn on his Sun/Moon mp
Your Moon square his Venus
Moons in each other's first houses
Pluto conjunct Venus

Here is what I would be cautious of:
Mercury square Mercury (*your 7th house rulers)
His Neptune square your Mercury/Saturn
your Saturn square his Mercury
His Saturn square your Sun
His Mars square your Moon

Those aren't things to end a relationship over, just things to be aware. I think you have potential, but I see some challenges. I kind of like that Pluto Venus conjunction. I think it works for both of you. It's intense enough to satisfy your needs, respectively.

posted March 17, 2023 03:04 PM            

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It could mean that he prefers for his partner to be all about him, like him being the center of her univers. And not in a good way because Mercury is in detriment there. He might have or had some views in this that were exagerated, or irational.

Moon on Asc in synastry it is a marriage aspect.
Also you have ruler of 7th conjunct saturn so its the same as his saturn in the 7th. These are good signs of long term potential along with the same ascendant.

I have Saturn in the 7th house. It give lessons about partnership, but mine is in domicile, his is in triplicity. It will give him lessons about commitment. He is very committed in relationships, but he might've had togher lessons than I had. It's in Gemini, maybe he was married twice or he has a bad habit of maintaining two relationships at once. That's a theme with double bodied signs, but especially with Gemini. Jude Law I think has this and he is a notorious cheater, but he has also mars in scorpio, so he has strong sex appeal.

But as I said, things change, this might have been the theme in his life until now.

Moon conjunct North Node it's an attraction aspect. Just be careful to not obsess over him as this aspect it's a bit obsessive.

His Sun in your 12th house it's concerning beause you might miss some things about him and not see him as he is. Don't overlook things.

With the other aspects, maybe someone else can help.

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Thank you so much mee_chryssa, this is very helpful!

posted March 17, 2023 03:13 PM            

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Here is what I like:

His Sun on your Sun/Moon mp.
His Moon sextile your Mars
Mars conjunct Mars
Your Mercury/Saturn on his Sun/Moon mp
Your Moon square his Venus
Moons in each other's first houses
Pluto conjunct Venus

Here is what I would be cautious of:
Mercury square Mercury (*your 7th house rulers)
His Neptune square your Mercury/Saturn
your Saturn square his Mercury
His Saturn square your Sun
His Mars square your Moon

Those aren't things to end a relationship over, just things to be aware. I think you have potential, but I see some challenges. I kind of like that Pluto Venus conjunction. I think it works for both of you. It's intense enough to satisfy your needs, respectively.

I don't think you get each other emotionally, but the first house layovers sure help ease that. How's the composite?

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Thanks a lot for chiming in, StoneMoon. I don't like that we are not getting each other emotionally It's crucial for me to have a deep emotional connection with a man especially for continued physical intimacy...
Are all those squares that you mention is what the issue is? Would you say that if both people are mature enough and come into a relationship with an intention to have a committed partnership (which I believe we are both at that stage in our life), those squares would not be playing out too negatively?

Here is our composite....I am scared to hear what you think about it, lol, looking at it, it's mostly all red...

posted March 17, 2023 05:47 PM            

Your composite looks intense- that love stellium in the 10th! Wow! It does have a tsquare- Saturn, Chiron, Mars/Uranus. So this may be pretty challenging, sure. But maturity and life experience is in your favor. Pluto Venus conjunct in synastry is pretty powerful.

And it's not that you won't get each other emotionally, I think you will thanks to the first house overlay. But you operate very differently. Understand and accept that and I think you will be ok. You do have squares but they don't have to be the end of it all. They provide tension and growth. And for some, they provide enough spark to keep the passion going.

posted March 20, 2023 01:08 PM            

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I actually think you have some good potential here. Especially given your age. You are born just a bit after me, so I know the energy of your chart! I also have a. cap moon and nearly the same ASC and fell in love with a moon with a Sag moon in my first house. I understand this energy quite well.

Your composite looks intense- that love stellium in the 10th! Wow! It does have a tsquare- Saturn, Chiron, Mars/Uranus. So this may be pretty challenging, sure. But maturity and life experience is in your favor. Pluto Venus conjunct in synastry is pretty powerful.

And it's not that you won't get each other emotionally, I think you will thanks to the first house overlay. But you operate very differently. Understand and accept that and I think you will be ok. You do have squares but they don't have to be the end of it all. They provide tension and growth. And for some, they provide enough spark to keep the passion going.

Just enjoy the experience but always go in with awareness and understanding that no one is perfect, and no relationship will be either.

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Thank you, StoneMoon. This sounds encouraging although I understand that squares will bring frictions. Hopefully not something we won't be able to work through.

Can you please tell me which chart has more significance - synastry or composite?

Also, what do you think of his Sun in my 12H. Another member mentioned it to be negative. Is there something that may be hidden about him or is that him bringing awareness of my unconscious issues/shadow side?

posted March 20, 2023 06:10 PM            

Does every Scorpio Sun bring you deception or negativity? Surely not, right? It all depends on the person. He is a Sag Moon though, and it is strong in his chart. He is independent and freedom loving naturally- this I think is expanded by his 11th house Sun. He's not going to "need" a partner, but he may "want" a partner. He's also pretty intuitive and deep with his own natal 12th house Mercury, and probably enjoys being in your 12th house.

And with Libra Mars, as you may know, he will do some share of keeping the peace for and with others. I think you are overthinking this, and that you should enjoy the ride and see how things go.

posted March 21, 2023 01:43 PM            

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I think you are seeing his Sag Moon and Jupiter in the 1st house when you see him as positive and happy and bright. His Sun is in the 11th house with Juno, and it positively aspects your chart. 12th house in synastry doesn't need to be about negativity every time. It's described that way sometimes (I think) because we ourselves don't often see it, and when others show up with personal planets they highlight certain aspects of ourselves through the connection.

Does every Scorpio Sun bring you deception or negativity? Surely not, right? It all depends on the person. He is a Sag Moon though, and it is strong in his chart. He is independent and freedom loving naturally- this I think is expanded by his 11th house Sun. He's not going to "need" a partner, but he may "want" a partner. He's also pretty intuitive and deep with his own natal 12th house Mercury, and probably enjoys being in your 12th house.

And with Libra Mars, as you may know, he will do some share of keeping the peace for and with others. I think you are overthinking this, and that you should enjoy the ride and see how things go.

Right now synastry is most important. Composite will strengthen with time, but that is just the nature of the relationship as it grows. The day to day interactions are defined by the natal charts and the synastry between them.

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Thanks, StoneMoon! I am definitely looking forward to the ride but being a Virgo, the curse of analyzing everything is strong haha. But the reason why I asked about his Scorpio Sun, Juno and Lilith was because I would actually prefer if they added intensity to him because having a Scorpio Venus, I can't be in a relationship where it's just meh, I need deep connection, bonding of souls, merging with the other, sexual intimacy, you know the whole Scorpio longing for deep and transformative relating to the other. I am not sure if having my chart ruler which is Jupiter in my 8H adds to those desires because it's hard for me to believe that that's only coming from my Scorp Venus.

If you or anyone else can add to someone having Sun, Juno and Lilith in Scorpio, I'd greatly appreciate it!