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Topic: Sexual tension between me and a married co-worker
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Virgo93
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posted May 01, 2023 02:38 PM
  
So I (F29)just started a new job and I have this coworker (M35)He always makes sexual innuendos and keeps provoking me, I try and keep it professional, but sometimes I really want to take him by his neck and press him in a wall and have sex with him (sorry if I am being vulgar, it’s just how I feel and am being honest).
He is married, has 2 children and is 6 years older than me. He is born on 20 February and I am on 20 September which makes him my exact opposition (LOL) .
What is your opinion guys? We both are scorpio moon and are conjunct so that helps with the sexual intensity I guess lol*I (F) AM THE BLUE AND HE IS THE ORANGE* *Synastry
  *Composite*
 *Asteroids*
 I also want to mention that I don’t want to pursue anything with him, but I just am feeling this strong sexual tension with this guy. What is your opinion on it? I was just curious to post it and hear something IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 02, 2023 03:08 PM
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StoneMoon
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posted May 03, 2023 05:39 PM
I can see the attraction- but I will be honest I have a hard time reading that chart style. Is it possible you could do the astrodienst style chart? I see Mars Venus interaction, I see Moon Moon... but I would look for more if you are able to post the other chart instead. I am sorry- it's just hard to read! IP: Logged |
Virgo93
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posted May 04, 2023 12:19 PM
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I can see the attraction- but I will be honest I have a hard time reading that chart style. Is it possible you could do the astrodienst style chart? I see Mars Venus interaction, I see Moon Moon... but I would look for more if you are able to post the other chart instead. I am sorry- it's just hard to read!
Thanks so much for responding!
I’ve tried to make it   IP: Logged |
StoneMoon
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posted May 05, 2023 10:41 AM
I wonder if what you are feeling is the SN Mercury conjunction? you recognize him, and that is intensified by the Moon Moon conjunction. I think this is past life connection, and your soul is picking up on it. Perhaps you are here to help each other this lifetime, but not through romantic relationship? If you believe in past lives. Saturn square Moon you have in natal, but he doesn't, and that could speak to emotional unavailability. and you did great with posting the chart! Thank you for that, it's much easier to read. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 16, 2023 05:06 PM
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anevolena
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posted May 17, 2023 09:22 AM
It's because his Venus conjuncts your Neptune and Uranus. That electric, magical quality of an affair. It's the thrill of the risk.Also, your mars are opposite, your venus opposite his sun and trine his Mars, PLUS the Moon conjunct Moon. You definitely *See* each other. IP: Logged |
Virgo93
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posted July 15, 2023 07:37 AM
UPDATE: So this guy started being extra touchy with me and I feel so drawn to him that I couldn’t say no and now when we are alone in the same room he would touch me very sexually. Idk if that’s tmi, he asked me how far I would go and I said that I don’t know.I asked him if he has ever done something like that and he told me that he hasn’t and doesn’t know why he is acting like thisGuys , something like this has never happened to me. I feel like I can’t resist him. IP: Logged |
plutonicGemini
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posted July 15, 2023 07:39 PM
please do the right thing and put up boundaries. We will find people all the time that we are attracted to. What we choose to do is what makes the difference. The man is obviously a POS. He's hitting on a younger co-worker (knowing you have less job security) while he has two young kids and a wife at home. a wife, who given his behavior, prob meets a LOT of men who are more attractive than him, but from your post it sounds like she is still loyal to him. If you're struggling with your sexual attraction to him, focus on how gross his morals are towards his kids and wife and how little regard he really has for you and your safety. doesn't that give you the ick? if you choose to encourage him and act on your attraction, sorry for the harsh words, but that makes you a POS too. Focus on how to exercise the boundaries muscle. It's something all of us learn to build with practice. block, avoid, reschedule, etc. come on - find it in yourself to do what's right. IP: Logged |
sassaqua
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posted July 15, 2023 08:42 PM
As mentioned, there are aspects here that show attraction. But this is likely for any randomised sample of work colleagues.What great advice from plutonicGemini. Absolute legend for stepping up and outlining the whole dynamic. Creative additional thought: might be fun to record these interactions you have.
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Librapurr
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posted July 15, 2023 09:00 PM
She isn’t a child and should be able to figure out for herself. And he is hitting on her because they have hot synastry. We question astrology here, not morality.
Anyway, I don’t know where it’s clear his wife is loyal to him.
People have so many weird relationship arrangement nowadays. You’d never know. And why woman should think how immoral it’s for a man.
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sassaqua
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posted July 15, 2023 09:05 PM
We're all entitle to our opinion, and to moralise, if we like..IP: Logged |
plutonicGemini
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posted July 15, 2023 09:47 PM
The only people who get to decide if moral guidance is not allowed on here would be the mods. And if there are other circumstances that would change the moral guidance around her situation, it would be OP who gets to share that information. but frankly, if it's advice that's a win for everyone, the man, his family, and even OP, and still respects OP's right to decide for herself - I don't see that it shouldn't be shared. (It's a win for OP , bc doesn't OP deserve better than a man who makes her his sex side piece, the awful karma of helping someone homewreck, and endangering her new job and future career. Plus, if the synastry is right - he doesn't seem to be emotionally available either.) Most people seek astrology bc we're trying ot understand ourselves and seek guidance in the chaos that is life and we often find help thorugh the community. It's one of the best things about the community imo. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted July 16, 2023 12:33 AM
They have moon conjunct moon Scorpio in synastry. Looks pretty emotional. Other things could be off.
So what does show emotional unavailability in synastry?People should be able to tell their story without being judged. Advices are the different story.
It also helps us to see how astrology applies in the real life. They won’t stop to cheat because somebody thinks it’s bad, but we gonna get it framed as twin flame and other nice romantic bs. She calls things as it is so I think she is mature and aware. Also, she shouldn’t give us explanation why it’s moral or immoral.
If its his Karma to leave his wife, and be with her. It would happen one way or another. (I don’t say that what will happen here!).
What is more moral anyway cheating, or divorce, or stay with somebody you don’t care about? It’s interesting how composite doesn’t have popular signs of cheating and secret relationships here. But Sun is almost non- aspected. They might never move too far with it.
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plutonicGemini
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posted July 16, 2023 01:20 AM
the fact that you're oddly obsessed with advice that she develop boundaries instead of engaging in cheating says really a lot about you more than her. bc really, you don't know anymore about her situation than I or the other commenter.
please, if you're involved in homewrecking and cheating in your own life. please stop. If you can't do it for the kids or the other partner, or the many other innocent relationships that will get betrayed by 2 ppl cheating, then do it for yourself. yeah, karma on stuff like this is real. if you don't like the word karma, then backlash. And you can deny it all you want, or throw out all the astrology you know, but you know karma/backlash is real, otherwise you wouldn't be so defensive over some random stranger's comment on another stranger's post. at the very least, it sounds like deep down somewhere in yourself there's a little voice of self-critcism that you're trying to drown by defending a random stranger's right to cheat. there is therapy. there are lots of free resources online to help people who feel compelled to cheat. wouldn't you rather have peace of mind? best of luck.
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Librapurr
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posted July 16, 2023 01:32 AM
🤣
Yes, we don’t know her situation, and you also! That’s what I’m saying.
I don’t like when people try to shame and threat because they project somebody’s story on their own life.
Where did I give advices here?! You’re projecting something again.IP: Logged |
sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 1350
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posted July 16, 2023 02:01 AM
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Originally posted by Librapurr:
If its his Karma to leave his wife..
What, who believes in "karma"? quote:
Originally posted by Librapurr:
I don’t like when people try to shame and threat because they project somebody’s story on their own life.
Because you don't like it, other people cannot do it? This makes no sense. LL is a great platform because it's open and free. People around here sometimes say outrageous things. That's what makes it open, free, and full of diversity.. yay. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted July 16, 2023 02:15 AM
She could do that and I can continue to give my opinion also.
Open platform as ya say.I feel like I need to protect OP from judgment and shame here so she could continue to freely tell her story.
The second subject doesn’t need protection. I didn’t ban her from taking. She attacked my opinion.
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sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 1350
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posted July 16, 2023 02:18 AM
Fair enough.I feel like I would like to protect her from potentially ruining her life, some others lives, and her job. It's good we're all coming from a good place at least 
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Librapurr
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posted July 16, 2023 12:46 PM
I probably was on fire yesterday. New moon to blame to get into it.
I might believe it was a good place with the wrong attitude on PG side. You make it sound like the OP is a child who doesn’t understand this situation is wrong.
And if PG will explain her what home-wrecking is, and shame her, and threat with bad juju. It will solve all the problems. About jeopardizing OP job. She could lose it anyway. It’s equally possible if she puts boundaries or she doesn’t. It should be done carefully with minding you still might continue to make a deal with this person.
It often doesn’t happen as on TV. Favoritism, cliques, gossips are everywhere. We need to know the people and social dynamic here to give advices. IP: Logged |
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