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Topic: Scorpios, and others i guess- with technology how do you handle your trust issues?
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SnowyWowy
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posted July 27, 2023 11:23 PM
  
I always feel I’ll find something in the phone and usually have… but it’s not the phone I’m talking about. Dating has just become so much harder with social media… curious to know your thoughts and how you handle it?IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted July 29, 2023 02:19 AM
Simple, yet hard to do….I don’t check. I also don’t let him check my phone. He used to wanna look at my phone but I hate it and we’d argue. The few times I let him read my messages he asked a ton of qns and I hate that too. Caused unnecessary arguments. It takes time to build trust and I’m happy to say that now we can leave our phones unlocked and we won’t snoop.It’s so tiring having to constantly check on someone so my principle is simple…we give each other freedom and personal space and if one cheats, they’re out. And believe me if they’re cheating it WILL surface because we’re all creatures of habit and routine. IP: Logged |
93nov
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posted July 31, 2023 11:41 AM
6H Scorpio stellium. Sun
Mercury
Venus
Jupiter
Pluto DSC also in Scorpio conjunct Pluto.
Sun and Mars also conjunct Pluto. Neptune rules my 11h sextile my Sun.
Mars rules my 12H in the 7th. I don't "handle" social media, it handles me lol. Nothing is ever as it seems on social media nd no one is trying to form authentic connections anymore in spite of social media. It's all madness and I still haven't mastered the art of "out of sight, out of mind" because as a true Scorpio "if you seek, you shall find" 🤣 IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted August 14, 2023 11:22 AM
Scorpio moon Pluto Lilith Electra Kali conjuntionIf I look through my partners texts, social media messages etc. Then what am I doing?! That's not the kind of energy I want. To so openly express that you don't trust the person. Even if you have nothing to hide that is so invasive and creepy. If I look through partners phone or whatever w/o them knowing. That is a place I don't want to be. It officially means I don't trust my partner. Whatever you end up finding out it's not going to feel good. People do find out about cheating that way. If you find something I kind of don't blame the person for snooping. But if you don't find anything you will feel awful. Some couples track each other's locations on phones. It could life saving, as long as the other person consents. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted August 14, 2023 11:26 AM
My Scorpio rising, venus, pluto sister reads her husbands texts on the ipad. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted August 30, 2023 02:47 PM
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Allstarchamp
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posted August 31, 2023 11:39 AM
Sun conjunct Saturn Scorpio 3rd house + Pluto scorpio 2nd house.The rare times I dit it, I really felt bad. I don't give access (and will never) to anyone (wife included) to my phone but I'm a Moon 12th house square Mercury 3rd person as well. Pretty secretive. IP: Logged |
SnowyWowy
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posted September 01, 2023 12:32 PM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Simple, yet hard to do….I don’t check. I also don’t let him check my phone. He used to wanna look at my phone but I hate it and we’d argue. The few times I let him read my messages he asked a ton of qns and I hate that too. Caused unnecessary arguments. It takes time to build trust and I’m happy to say that now we can leave our phones unlocked and we won’t snoop.It’s so tiring having to constantly check on someone so my principle is simple…we give each other freedom and personal space and if one cheats, they’re out. And believe me if they’re cheating it WILL surface because we’re all creatures of habit and routine.
Interesting. I feel like whenever I’ve looked I’ve always found things. And sometimes you don’t know if they are cheating. My biggest fear is being “fooled”
What kind of questions would he ask when he’d look into your phone? I feel these days with online dating my trust issues are worse so I feel I need to make sure the person is telling the truth? How can I control the urge to check? IP: Logged |
SnowyWowy
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posted September 01, 2023 12:35 PM
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Originally posted by Allstarchamp:
Sun conjunct Saturn Scorpio 3rd house + Pluto scorpio 2nd house.The rare times I dit it, I really felt bad. I don't give access (and will never) to anyone (wife included) to my phone but I'm a Moon 12th house square Mercury 3rd person as well. Pretty secretive.
Why won’t you let your wife have access? With me I feel I trust you if I give you my phone pw
What don’t you want her finding?
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SnowyWowy
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posted September 01, 2023 12:36 PM
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Originally posted by Stawr:
Scorpio moon Pluto Lilith Electra Kali conjuntionIf I look through my partners texts, social media messages etc. Then what am I doing?! That's not the kind of energy I want. To so openly express that you don't trust the person. Even if you have nothing to hide that is so invasive and creepy. If I look through partners phone or whatever w/o them knowing. That is a place I don't want to be. It officially means I don't trust my partner. Whatever you end up finding out it's not going to feel good. People do find out about cheating that way. If you find something I kind of don't blame the person for snooping. But if you don't find anything you will feel awful. Some couples track each other's locations on phones. It could life saving, as long as the other person consents.
What if they’re cheating and you don’t know?
How do you build trust and what makes you personally trust the partner?
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Allstarchamp
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posted September 04, 2023 06:27 AM
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Originally posted by SnowyWowy:
Why won’t you let your wife have access? With me I feel I trust you if I give you my phone pw What don’t you want her finding?
We're all different and I think this is precisely what astrology teaches us.
I feel I need some sort of a secrecy, things that are only for me and will never share with anyone or I would feel trapped and lose my identity. Probably, as I said, it's because of my Moon 12th. It just feels natural to me.
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SnowyWowy
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posted September 06, 2023 08:04 PM
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Originally posted by Allstarchamp:
We're all different and I think this is precisely what astrology teaches us.
I feel I need some sort of a secrecy, things that are only for me and will never share with anyone or I would feel trapped and lose my identity. Probably, as I said, it's because of my Moon 12th. It just feels natural to me.
Thanks for sharing. May I know what kind of things you keep to yourself that you don’t want your significant other knowing  IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted September 25, 2023 05:35 PM
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implosions
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posted September 28, 2023 08:29 PM
With no small amount of emotional difficulty lol I've grown up mostly online- communication was difficult for me before I had access to typing as a way of doing so, and being online I was able to find community for the first time as well. Typical for many Scorpio-heavy folk, there was a lot of trauma/exposure from a young age that made it harder to connect with peers (not to mention disabilities that were 'missed'). Sometimes even the most basic things being shared feels like 'too much' but there is a weird comfort in knowing that there is more of me hidden in the online world than I probably remember. Comforting in a sort of live and let live way, at least. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted October 15, 2023 02:22 PM
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Randall
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posted October 28, 2023 10:05 AM
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