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kani
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posted July 30, 2023 04:41 AM
  
Literally.
My eight year relationship ended 3 weeks ago because my now ex punched me in the face. I called the cops and they locked him up for 2 nights.
What do I need to post for people to see the aspects of that particular day?
I know date and even time.IP: Logged |
kani
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posted July 30, 2023 04:43 AM
Arrgh I mean "end" and not emd, of course.
It would be amazing to be able to edit thread titles.IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
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posted July 30, 2023 11:23 AM
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you're recovered and didn't take too much damage. Totally unacceptable behavior. I'm proud of you for putting your foot down though. You could post your synastry and the composite and his individual natal chart, all with transits. I suspect lots of Mars and pluto and maybe uranus going on. You could also add the asteroid Nessus (it's an abuser asteroid). IP: Logged |
kani
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posted July 30, 2023 11:37 AM
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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you're recovered and didn't take too much damage. Totally unacceptable behavior. I'm proud of you for putting your foot down though. You could post your synastry and the composite and his individual natal chart, all with transits. I suspect lots of Mars and pluto and maybe uranus going on. You could also add the asteroid Nessus (it's an abuser asteroid).
Thank you. I appreciate that!
Yeah, completely unacceptable, hence why I immediately called the cops. No one is going to hit me without consequences! Especially not someone who is supposed to be my partner. i'm trying to add transits but I can't see the option for it in astro.com
Do you have an idea? For now, here is the synastry: https://i.imgur.com/B1gkNQt.jpg the composite: https://i.imgur.com/Wfog28S.jpg and his natal chart. https://i.imgur.com/qqvOpNc.jpg I have to say that I wanted out for a while and broke up once last year but then let him in again. He was super persistent and didn't wanna let go. It was a turbulent relationship with a lot of quarelling but I'd have never thought that he'd get violent with me.
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GirlMelanie
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posted July 30, 2023 12:41 PM
I believe you have to remove the ' s ' from https: quote:
Originally posted by kani:
Thank you. I appreciate that!
Yeah, completely unacceptable, hence why I immediately called the cops. No one is going to hit me without consequences! Especially not someone who is supposed to be my partner.i'm trying to add transits but I can't see the option for it in astro.com
Do you have an idea? For now, here is the synastry: https://i.imgur.com/B1gkNQt.jpg the composite: https://i.imgur.com/Wfog28S.jpg and his natal chart. https://i.imgur.com/qqvOpNc.jpg I have to say that I wanted out for a while and broke up once last year but then let him in again. He was super persistent and didn't wanna let go. It was a turbulent relationship with a lot of quarelling but I'd have never thought that he'd get violent with me.
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kani
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posted July 30, 2023 12:52 PM
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I believe you have to remove the ' s ' from https:
It works when I copy the link in the search bar. Doesn't it work when you try it? IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted July 30, 2023 03:49 PM
Same thing, he has Mars in his 7th house natally. And is in fall, this takes time to manifest because detrimental mars or fall know that they could be damaging, especially in Cancer, they take in so much before they explode. My sister has Mars in Cancer and is the ruler of her ASC, she had some moments where you would think she will never calm down. Conjunct your Moon and in your first house.But you have a lot of other supporting aspects which is why it happened so late and it didn't get here quickly. Opposite ASCs, Moon on his 7th house cusp, his Moon conjunct your Sun. He couldn't let you go and that's why he got aggressive. Mars in the 7th either attracts someone that will control them or they will try to control someone else and it's really bad. Very abusive in the 7th. Take care of yourself and maybe he will understand now to let you in peace. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted July 30, 2023 04:37 PM
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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
He couldn't let you go and that's why he got aggressive. Mars in the 7th either attracts someone that will control them or they will try to control someone else and it's really bad. Very abusive in the 7th. Take care of yourself and maybe he will understand now to let you in peace.
Thank you so much. And yeah, I think he also felt that our relationship is past its expiration date but he didn't want to admit it to himself and really had trouble letting go. He generally has.
The issue is that it will take therapy for him to even realise that he was wrong. He came out of custody after two days and took his stuff out of my house. He also took the food and water he paid for both of us (because HE paid, but that I paid for fuel for his car and he's been staying in my flat and my summer house for free was of course not taken into account, oh and also that he owes me money.). Then after 10 days he came back (!) asking me if I learned anything from it. Wtf? He was STILL adamant that it was at least partly also my fault (the hit was completely unprovoked, we didn't even argue. Just for the record). Not that a hit in the face is ever justified, mind you.
It's not the first time he alienates people with his behaviour. Not necessarily with violence but he has been pushing people away with ALWAYS having to be right and twisting things even though it's blatantly not reality. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted July 30, 2023 04:41 PM
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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
He couldn't let you go and that's why he got aggressive.
Do you think he also felt that he had to let me go? IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted July 30, 2023 04:59 PM
Yeah, that's typical with the money he used to pay for things. Money or resources were used in relationships since forever to contain someone, especially were done by men to women. You've been in a long term relationship and you can understand that he doesn't want for it to be over. Plus that you probably were very bounded emotionally with those aspects. IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted July 30, 2023 05:00 PM
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Originally posted by kani:
Do you think he also felt that he had to let me go?
I can't know what happened between the two of you to say that.
By what you say happened after the arrest, I don't think so. Seems still determined to do something to stay together. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted July 30, 2023 08:16 PM
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Originally posted by kani:
Thank you. I appreciate that!
Yeah, completely unacceptable, hence why I immediately called the cops. No one is going to hit me without consequences! Especially not someone who is supposed to be my partner.i'm trying to add transits but I can't see the option for it in astro.com
Do you have an idea? For now, here is the synastry:
http://i.imgur.com/B1gkNQt.jpg the composite:
http://i.imgur.com/Wfog28S.jpg and his natal chart.
http://i.imgur.com/qqvOpNc.jpg I have to say that I wanted out for a while and broke up once last year but then let him in again. He was super persistent and didn't wanna let go. It was a turbulent relationship with a lot of quarelling but I'd have never thought that he'd get violent with me.
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Hikaru29
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posted July 31, 2023 01:50 AM
Hi KaniI’m so sorry what happened between you and your bf… Looking at his natal: Mars on DSC opposite Uranus and also square Aries Mercury. Rebellious and argumentative, especially in relationships. Impulsive speech. You would have felt this for some time now? Cancer Mars can brew and explode and usually in passive aggressive ways so sometimes you may not know what triggered them. Aries Mercury often doesn’t process before they speak. Taurus Sun though stubborn but loyal (maybe that’s why he can’t let go) and Moon in Pisces shows he’s a softie inside. He probably doesn’t know how to project his feelings well. Tr Pluto in Capricorn may have made things worse for him. Did I see Moon-Mars conjunct DW in your Synastry? That’s a very attractive yet volatile contact, and it shows up in your composite as well which quincunx cUranus. Honestly with all the hype of this aspect, I personally don’t like it. I’ve a friend who has Moon-Mars DW in her rs and they’re always arguing and getting upset with each other. It creates very explosive responses and you’re overly sensitive to one another. His Mars looks vulnerable and your Cancer Moon can also be sensitive especially with a quincunx to Neptune. Confusing intuition. Tr Uranus on your Moon-Mars conjunction rocking this volatile aspect. In fact tr Saturn was squaring it last year. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted July 31, 2023 03:06 AM
I meant to add earlier, that I'm really sorry this happened to you.
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kani
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posted July 31, 2023 04:10 AM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Hi KaniI’m so sorry what happened between you and your bf… Looking at his natal: Mars on DSC opposite Uranus and also square Aries Mercury. Rebellious and argumentative, especially in relationships. Impulsive speech. You would have felt this for some time now? Cancer Mars can brew and explode and usually in passive aggressive ways so sometimes you may not know what triggered them. Aries Mercury often doesn’t process before they speak. Taurus Sun though stubborn but loyal (maybe that’s why he can’t let go) and Moon in Pisces shows he’s a softie inside. He probably doesn’t know how to project his feelings well. Tr Pluto in Capricorn may have made things worse for him. Did I see Moon-Mars conjunct DW in your Synastry? That’s a very attractive yet volatile contact, and it shows up in your composite as well which quincunx cUranus. Honestly with all the hype of this aspect, I personally don’t like it. I’ve a friend who has Moon-Mars DW in her rs and they’re always arguing and getting upset with each other. It creates very explosive responses and you’re overly sensitive to one another. His Mars looks vulnerable and your Cancer Moon can also be sensitive especially with a quincunx to Neptune. Confusing intuition. Tr Uranus on your Moon-Mars conjunction rocking this volatile aspect. In fact tr Saturn was squaring it last year.
Thank you Hikaru.
Yes, a moon mars double wammy indeed. I don't like it either. I do like to have fire in my relationships but this was too much quarrelling and fighting and yelling. Combine this with my Pluto square his Mars and you have a recipe for constant fighting. He is also full of trauma that he refuses to address despite numerous people telling him to (including me many times). His most annoying trait is always being right, being insanely obstinate and never wanting to take responsibility. His brother told me a while ago that he thinks my (now) ex has a personality disorder and I'm inclined to agree. But I digress.
Do you have an idea how I can transits to the charts? I haven't found an option for it on astro.com EDIT: "Rebellious and argumentative, especially in relationships. Impulsive speech. You would have felt this for some time now?" To answer this: yes I did. Initially I liked that he isn't easily swayed and has backbone but over time I realised that what I thought was backbone was just unreasonable stubbornness.
I also like rebellious, I've always been a rebel myself but his was just not in line with reality. It was denying facts and this is something I cannot deal with. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted July 31, 2023 04:11 AM
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Originally posted by teasel:
I meant to add earlier, that I'm really sorry this happened to you.
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kani
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posted August 01, 2023 03:10 AM
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Hikaru29
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posted August 01, 2023 07:14 AM
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Originally posted by kani:
Thank you Hikaru.
Yes, a moon mars double wammy indeed. I don't like it either. I do like to have fire in my relationships but this was too much quarrelling and fighting and yelling. Combine this with my Pluto square his Mars and you have a recipe for constant fighting.
Urgh.. I can imagine that when you have these 2 combos. And with his Mars being so volatile he wouldn't like your Pluto controlling it. quote:
His most annoying trait is always being right, being insanely obstinate and never wanting to take responsibility.
That Pluto opp Sun can make for a stubborn personality because there's so much tension within himself... And we all know Taurus is stubborn! 🤦 quote:
Do you have an idea how I can transits to the charts? I haven't found an option for it on astro.com
Before you generate the chart, input the transit date. After you generate the chart there's a "+ with transit" button on the right side. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted August 01, 2023 08:03 AM
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That Pluto opp Sun can make for a stubborn personality because there's so much tension within himself... And we all know Taurus is stubborn! 🤦I always said he ticked all the Taurus boxes despite having only the sun in Taurus. [QUOTE] Do you have an idea how I can transits to the charts? I haven't found an option for it on astro.com
Before you generate the chart, input the transit date. After you generate the chart there's a "+ with transit" button on the right side. [/QUOTE] I couldn't see that on astro.com for some reason. Are you using another website? IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted August 01, 2023 09:04 AM
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I couldn't see that on astro.com for some reason. Are you using another website?
I'm sure we're using the same website 🤔 IP: Logged |
kani
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posted August 01, 2023 09:23 AM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I'm sure we're using the same website 🤔
I gave up on astro.com and switched to another website  Here are the transits. On the right are the placements of the actual composite
http://i.imgur.com/X1hfmeK.jpg The outer layer in green are the transits. IP: Logged |
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posted August 01, 2023 09:59 AM
First things first, I am sorry that happened to you and I am very proud/glad that you immediately responded in this way. No one deserves that, especially from your partner.First thing I saw was composite Venus opposite Pluto. Classic toxic relationship/domestic abuse aspect. My sister had this aspect with her abuser as well. Composite Moon/Mars conjunction I'm sure contributed to the aggressive atmosphere. Plus composite mercury square Uranus. Argumentative. Next, the transiting nodal axis was exactly opposite the composite nodal axis. Pluto is suspiciously close to the composite north node as well. Plus, transiting Uranus conjuncts composite Moon/Mars. Disruptions. Again, I am sorry this happened, and you responded completely appropriately. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted August 01, 2023 10:24 AM
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Originally posted by anevolena:
First things first, I am sorry that happened to you and I am very proud/glad that you immediately responded in this way. No one deserves that, especially from your partner.First thing I saw was composite Venus opposite Pluto. Classic toxic relationship/domestic abuse aspect. My sister had this aspect with her abuser as well. Composite Moon/Mars conjunction I'm sure contributed to the aggressive atmosphere. Plus composite mercury square Uranus. Argumentative. Next, the transiting nodal axis was exactly opposite the composite nodal axis. Pluto is suspiciously close to the composite north node as well. Plus, transiting Uranus conjuncts composite Moon/Mars. Disruptions. Again, I am sorry this happened, and you responded completely appropriately.
Thank you!
I didn't know Ven opp Pluto would be a domestic violence indicator but it does make sense. Our arguments used to be quite intense, from early on. The thing is, I do enjoy a bit of a challenge but I reckon this was just a bit too much of a challenge in the long run and became exhausting. I have mercury square uranus natally. How does this tie in with the composite mercury square uranus? One thing that I found interesting as I'm big on signs: the day of the breakup was 7 / 7 /2023 which can be broken down to 7/7/7 as 2+0+2+3 adds to 7, too.
Divine number.
The same day I was wandering around town and was compelled to look at some random man's sweatshirt. It had the word "Complete" written on it. It felt like this was a message for me. The relationship to my ex was complete in the sense that it was time to move on individually. I've felt stifled for a while in that relationship but as I said in an earlier post, he wouldn't let go. So, would you say the transits indicated the end, too? I'm not that great on reading them. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted August 02, 2023 12:35 AM
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Originally posted by kani:
I gave up on astro.com and switched to another website Here are the transits. On the right are the placements of the actual composite
http://i.imgur.com/X1hfmeK.jpg The outer layer in green are the transits.
Oh I noticed your reverse nodes return in composite. This often indicates a turning point. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted August 02, 2023 02:42 PM
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Oh I noticed your reverse nodes return in composite. This often indicates a turning point.
It has felt like this for a while though. We started out as friends but that doesn't seem feasible now. IP: Logged |
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