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Topic: My friend of 20 years just told me he’s tired of talking to me
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ChildofVenus
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Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 10, 2023 11:11 AM
  
My friend of 20-plus years just told me he was tired of me talking to him about my boyfriends (I usually call and vent to him about situations I'm having with different guys.) But he would also talk to me about the issues he had with other women. We did talk about other things too though. Like things in regard to our childhood and about therapy etc. At times he would say sexual things to me. And I think he liked me more than a friend. But I told him years ago I didn't like him in that way. We went to high school together but kept in touch. And we would talk off and on and he moved to a different state. I don't get why he's so upset all of a sudden. He's on the outside.  IP: Logged |
Randall
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 11, 2023 12:38 PM
You already know the answer.IP: Logged |
sashavittoria
Knowflake Posts: 565
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 12, 2023 06:03 AM
Randall's right.  He is obviously in love with you and it's painful for him to hear. Me personally, when someone confesses their feelings for me and I don't return them, I put strict limits on my interactions with them - if I don't exit their life altogether - because IMO, it's cruel to give them false hope. No matter how clear you are with someone verbally, they will use any little thing as a potential sign to continue hoping. The most compassionate thing you can do is force them to let you go. IP: Logged |
teasel
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 12, 2023 09:53 AM
He chose to keep you as a friend, for all these years, and now he's stopping, because you haven't changed your mind. That's on him, not you. IP: Logged |
kani
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Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 12, 2023 02:13 PM
quote:
Originally posted by teasel:
He chose to keep you as a friend, for all these years, and now he's stopping, because you haven't changed your mind. That's on him, not you.
Yep. That's entirely on him. IP: Logged |
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