|
Author
|
Topic: Why is he acting standoffish?
|
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 3099
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
|
posted August 25, 2023 09:34 PM
  
I don’t want kids and this guy does. So that’s why we’re not dating. That’s fine. We decided to be friends. But unfortunately I don’t think I want to be his friend because he seems standoffish. I think he’s doing it because he wants to keep me at arm’s length and make sure I don’t get the wrong idea, which I won’t. He wants kids and I don’t. I don’t see how he thinks being friendly and amiable and happy go lucky and fun would make me think he’s changed his mind and doesn’t want kids. I don’t have hope. If you look at our synastry it’s not great as lovers, but seems good as friends. He’s got an Aries Venus and Taurus Sun like me so I know he’s passionate and loving, but he also has a Leo Mars and Sag Moon so he is outgoing, or at least he should be. His behavior is totally opposite of someone with all that fire in his chart. Is he being standoffish on purpose or does standoff behavior show in his chart?His chart is on the outside: http://imgur.com/VYdI1gH IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 25359
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
|
posted August 26, 2023 02:55 PM
I don’t know your history and feelings beyond what you’ve said, so I’m only guessing that maybe he’s afraid of slipping. If the only reason you aren’t dating, is that you don’t want kids. My mum had a Leo mars, and she was impulsive, when she was attracted to someone. My dad is a Taurus with an Aries mars, and he is, too.There are men who will act like you’re likely to fall in love with them, if they’re friendlier. It happens to women all the time: guys think we’re interested, if we’re friendly. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 3099
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
|
posted August 26, 2023 04:13 PM
Yeah he probably is keeping me at arm’s length because he doesn’t want to give me any hope. But I don’t have hope. He wants kids and I don’t. Also, after hanging with him I don’t even think we would be good together romantically. But now I don’t even want to be friends with him if he’s going to be standoffishIP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 25359
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
|
posted August 26, 2023 06:42 PM
I would tell him that. Or just ask him. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 3099
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
|
posted August 26, 2023 07:44 PM
Ok I will. He should understand, and if he doesn’t then oh well. IP: Logged |
93nov
Knowflake Posts: 224
From:
Registered: Oct 2019
|
posted August 27, 2023 07:49 AM
Astrology aside, I would personally be standoffish too if I wanted children, but the guy I am interested in doesn't.I'm not sure if you want to be his friend or not, but you can't really blame him for how he's acting. He's probably confused on where exactly to place you in his life lol. You don't want kids, but he does. Automatic deal-breaker unless he's the type convinced he can change your mind. If not, he's probably on the seesaw about your position in his life. You guys clearly wanted more than friendship regardless of what the charts say. That was the initial starting point. You can always try to back track and start over considering the fact that it doesn't seem like the relationship really took off yet in any direction which is good. I would take things slow and try to work through the awkwardness of it all. Who knows what will happen. He might changed your mind lol. You might change his. You guys might just be better off as friends. Can you post the charts? IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
