posted November 24, 2023 08:00 AM            

I’m a gemini moon. I can’t watch tv all day. And it truly makes me feel like a bad parent when my child spends a whole day watching tv. That’s just not what modern parents allow their kids to do. My husband is a bit older so he has a boomer mentality. He doesn’t really care about effective parenting.

We are both Venus in Scorpio, so in that regard we understand each other. But he is way more possessive. I am a Venus conj Pluto so many that’s why he feels that way. I have learned how to handle possessiveness. I’ve taken ownership over it because I have lived with it my whole life. However, I am probably his first relationship that has made him feel this way because he hasn’t lived with a Venus conj Pluto aspect. Now his Venus is conjunct my Pluto and he doesn’t know how to handle it. when we were initially dating I was the possessive one but now he is acting like I shouldn’t have my own privacy. He caught me flirting online with strangers and now he wants to have full access to my phone.

posted November 25, 2023 10:22 PM            

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Originally posted by UnaspectedMoon:
My husband is a bit older so he has a boomer mentality. He doesn’t really care about effective parenting.

We are both Venus in Scorpio, so in that regard we understand each other. But he is way more possessive. I am a Venus conj Pluto so many that’s why he feels that way. I have learned how to handle possessiveness. I’ve taken ownership over it because I have lived with it my whole life. However, I am probably his first relationship that has made him feel this way because he hasn’t lived with a Venus conj Pluto aspect. Now his Venus is conjunct my Pluto and he doesn’t know how to handle it. when we were initially dating I was the possessive one but now he is acting like I shouldn’t have my own privacy. He caught me flirting online with strangers and now he wants to have full access to my phone.

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If he has a Moon in Scorpio -- he's not unfamiliar to possessive mentality. For them it tends to be all relationships- not just the romantic ones as Venus/Pluto/Scorpio tends to be. And 8 years is a long time to get used to the experience of a plutonic relationship too.

It sounds more like he is 'comfortable' in his fixed nature, and you are fed up with him ignoring your presence in that space. That's his decision, but it means you have to make your own-- and likely leaving him out of it, if he consistently proves he does not want to be involved. It is absolutely no judgement on either of you, this is INCREDIBLY common for humans.