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Topic: Mars conj. moon is not sexy
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kani
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posted November 29, 2023 08:22 AM
  
..it's effing annoying. I had it in synastry both ways (his mars conj my moon and my mars conjunct his mars). My Pluto was also involved which should make it even "hotter" but it didn't. We just argueed too f*ing much and it was exhausting. This is my two cents about this aspect.
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implosions
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posted November 29, 2023 04:22 PM
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Originally posted by kani:
..it's effing annoying. I had it in synastry both ways (his mars conj my moon and my mars conjunct his mars). My Pluto was also involved which should make it even "hotter" but it didn't. We just argueed too f*ing much and it was exhausting. This is my two cents about this aspect.
What are your experiences?
It can be annoying depending on the health of the Mars person! And it could be that it's the Mars/Mars conjunction over the Moon/Mars, as there's an element here of 'too much of the same thing', while Moon prefers a shifting energy. With Pluto involved as well there can be a hyperfixation on what it conjuncts, even subconsciously. That could be a source of the frustration there. And sometimes even the best aspects together can mean little if the people involved just don't get along haha.
For my own experience, I have Mars/Moon loosely conjunct in my natal chart, and with my current partner their Mars, Juno and SN are right on my Moon. I quite love it, for the most part. There are times where I feel it's 'too' familiar, almost like I've known it longer than I actually have. Maybe we are lucky to have this aspect in Gemini, so there is rarely an element of 'dullness' or repetition. It does make for a good BODY connection, not always sexual, but definitely a physical feeling of ... well, if one person is feeling stressed, the other is gonna feel it, and vice versa.
It's a biiiiig nervous system connection-- and if you were to throw Pluto in the mix, that can trigger it further, pushing into a fight/flight/freeze survival response levels of nervous system. Not always pleasant! IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted November 29, 2023 06:44 PM
My main experience with this was with my BIL, and I hated it. He constantly caused me problems with my sister, and later, other, members of my family. He didn’t have to be in my general vicinity to do it, either. His mars in Gemini, conjunct my moon, Venus, and south node. Square my mars in Pisces, in my 4th. I couldn’t relax around him, even before he hit on me, when he was visiting. I don’t think he was really attracted to me, aside from saying that I was really sexy, and saying that two months before he married my sister, the arse. I think he wanted to see how much he could get away with, and he got away with it all. IP: Logged |
implosions
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posted November 29, 2023 11:42 PM
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Originally posted by teasel:
My main experience with this was with my BIL, and I hated it. He constantly caused me problems with my sister, and later, other, members of my family. He didn’t have to be in my general vicinity to do it, either. His mars in Gemini, conjunct my moon, Venus, and south node. Square my mars in Pisces, in my 4th. I couldn’t relax around him, even before he hit on me, when he was visiting. I don’t think he was really attracted to me, aside from saying that I was really sexy, and saying that two months before he married my sister, the arse. I think he wanted to see how much he could get away with, and he got away with it all.
Wow he sounds disgusting 🙃 And i don’t mean that lightly. It is something so many people just normalize as ‘oh they’re being a dick’ but that is.. beyond gross. Disrespectful and aside from the obvious synastry disaster there— some things are much better suited for personal relationships. He sounds immature and dangerous for personal connections 🤮 Im sorry you had to/have to put up with that. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted November 30, 2023 03:56 AM
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Originally posted by implosions:
It can be annoying depending on the health of the Mars person! And it could be that it's the Mars/Mars conjunction over the Moon/Mars, as there's an element here of 'too much of the same thing', while Moon prefers a shifting energy.With Pluto involved as well there can be a hyperfixation on what it conjuncts, even subconsciously. That could be a source of the frustration there. And sometimes even the best aspects together can mean little if the people involved just don't get along haha.
For my own experience, I have Mars/Moon loosely conjunct in my natal chart, and with my current partner their Mars, Juno and SN are right on my Moon. I quite love it, for the most part. There are times where I feel it's 'too' familiar, almost like I've known it longer than I actually have. Maybe we are lucky to have this aspect in Gemini, so there is rarely an element of 'dullness' or repetition. It does make for a good BODY connection, not always sexual, but definitely a physical feeling of ... well, if one person is feeling stressed, the other is gonna feel it, and vice versa.
It's a biiiiig nervous system connection-- and if you were to throw Pluto in the mix, that can trigger it further, pushing into a fight/flight/freeze survival response levels of nervous system. Not always pleasant!
The Pluto involved was a square! haha. I'm actually someone who enjoys a bit of banter and playful insults on each other but this was too much. Like always with synastry it all depends on the individual's chart. This is my ex's and mine aspect and he didn't alienate just me but so many other people in his life (he also has Mars square mercury). So yeah I guess his personality (I also suspect he has a personality disorder) added insult to injury
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kani
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posted November 30, 2023 03:58 AM
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Originally posted by teasel:
My main experience with this was with my BIL, and I hated it. He constantly caused me problems with my sister, and later, other, members of my family. He didn’t have to be in my general vicinity to do it, either. His mars in Gemini, conjunct my moon, Venus, and south node. Square my mars in Pisces, in my 4th. I couldn’t relax around him, even before he hit on me, when he was visiting. I don’t think he was really attracted to me, aside from saying that I was really sexy, and saying that two months before he married my sister, the arse. I think he wanted to see how much he could get away with, and he got away with it all.
Eww what a wanker. Hope your sister is alright.
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implosions
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posted November 30, 2023 03:52 PM
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Originally posted by kani:
The Pluto involved was a square! haha. I'm actually someone who enjoys a bit of banter and playful insults on each other but this was too much. Like always with synastry it all depends on the individual's chart. This is my ex's and mine aspect and he didn't alienate just me but so many other people in his life (he also has Mars square mercury). So yeah I guess his personality (I also suspect he has a personality disorder) added insult to injury
Ohh yeah that Mars square Mercury can be tough- the constant tension between expression and mind not necessarily lining up. And I imagine being raised male in the current society did absolutely no favours for that either. Ah well, glad you're not necessarily dealing too heavily with them anymore. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted December 01, 2023 05:49 PM
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Ohh yeah that Mars square Mercury can be tough- the constant tension between expression and mind not necessarily lining up. And I imagine being raised male in the current society did absolutely no favours for that either.Ah well, glad you're not necessarily dealing too heavily with them anymore.
Oh I'm glad, too. I had to get a restraining order though. He punched me, I called the cops, he was locked away for 2 nights and then got his stuff from my house. Showed no remorse whatsoever and 2 weeks later turned up and asked if I learned something from this! ME! Not him but me  Lool the delusion! He also tried to get back with me even though I told him repeatedly to leave me alone and blocked him on every channel. Didn't deter him from coming to my flat and ringing my bell about 5 times during that day. I had to get the restraining order, he obviously didn't care at all about what I wanted. Yeah that's a quick little recap of the end of this relationship haha
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posted December 23, 2023 11:51 AM
From experience, I don't like Mars in Aquarius because it conjuncts my Moon. (Male or Female) it feels like the person is trying to get me. I don't know if that makes sense or not. I do have Moon square Pluto in my natal chart so that can be the difference. This woman I met around my neighborhood. She's into women and every time she sees me (her Mars is in my 6th house and I see her often because she lives in the neighborhood where I shop). Is always telling me how she thinks I'm cute, and wants to know if I'm into women or not. When she first saw me she told me she thought I was cute as f*ck lol. She's just always hitting on me telling me how she thinks I'm attractive etc. Even lied and said she would help me get a job just so she could get my phone number.
She also gives me weird looks when she sees me. I guess because I'm not reacting to her advances? This aspect makes me feel uneasy.Another guy I met online (never in person) wanted me to have his kids and wouldn't stop talking to me for a long time. Yeah, I'm not into having Mars conjunct my Moon. But people say it's so sexy and hot not to me. Of course, it depends on the natal charts as well.
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AquaMoon323
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posted January 05, 2024 01:31 PM
I’ve had this a few times and have been both the Mars and the moon person. Guy #1 My Pisces mars conjunct his Pisces Moon
We had a lot of chemistry other things played into that as well but definitely this placement. Sex was amazing. Being the Mars person I did sometimes take a more aggressive approach with him and often hurt his feelings without rly meaning to. I think this aspects created a bit of hyper sensitivity between us. Guy #2 His Aqua Mars(& Venus) conjunct my Aqua moon
I definitely felt the roll reversal here. He was rly aggressive with me in the beginning both in pursuit and sexually (Aqua placements also fall in my 1st house so that could have played a part as well) but he was very abrasive with his words, and tends to hurt my feelings very often, and the fact that it is in a sign of Aquarius that can be a little cold I think made his words even sharper. Overall I’m not a huge fan of this placement for me. Being the the Mars makes me more masculine which is an uncomfortable thing for me because I already have Venus in Aries and can have masculine aggressive tendencies so it rly makes me a bit too aggressive.
And I don’t enjoy being the moon either because I am already very sensitive for an aqua moon (moon in first house natal) so it just hurts a little too much makes me extremely sensitive and dealing with a man with Aqua placements he really didn’t nurture my sensitivity well and just made him so sexually attracted to mr (his Mars in my 1st house) that I began to feel like a sex object to him as our relationship started to fade out IP: Logged |
kani
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posted January 06, 2024 02:44 PM
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Originally posted by AquaMoon323:
I’ve had this a few times and have been both the Mars and the moon person. Guy #1 My Pisces mars conjunct his Pisces Moon
We had a lot of chemistry other things played into that as well but definitely this placement. Sex was amazing. Being the Mars person I did sometimes take a more aggressive approach with him and often hurt his feelings without rly meaning to. I think this aspects created a bit of hyper sensitivity between us. Guy #2 His Aqua Mars(& Venus) conjunct my Aqua moon
I definitely felt the roll reversal here. He was rly aggressive with me in the beginning both in pursuit and sexually (Aqua placements also fall in my 1st house so that could have played a part as well) but he was very abrasive with his words, and tends to hurt my feelings very often, and the fact that it is in a sign of Aquarius that can be a little cold I think made his words even sharper. Overall I’m not a huge fan of this placement for me. Being the the Mars makes me more masculine which is an uncomfortable thing for me because I already have Venus in Aries and can have masculine aggressive tendencies so it rly makes me a bit too aggressive.
And I don’t enjoy being the moon either because I am already very sensitive for an aqua moon (moon in first house natal) so it just hurts a little too much makes me extremely sensitive and dealing with a man with Aqua placements he really didn’t nurture my sensitivity well and just made him so sexually attracted to mr (his Mars in my 1st house) that I began to feel like a sex object to him as our relationship started to fade out
I get that as a fellow moon in the 1st houser. I think it also depends on how the moon and mars tie into your own natal chart. My moon is afflicted so my pluto was also square his mars. Didn't end that well lol IP: Logged |
sashavittoria
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posted January 06, 2024 11:12 PM
Noooo I was wondering why my crush seemed suddenly lukewarm toward me and I think it’s my Mars on their moon. (Pisces) Any advice for the Mars person on how to make it work? Especially in the early stages IP: Logged | |
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