posted February 13, 2024 09:36 AM            

my moon falls in his 5H, my Sun in his 7H, and my Venus in his 8H. he said that “he doesn’t want to fall in love” after already admitting more than once that he loves me, and ran

so no, Saturn is not necessarily the more committed one. especially not before 35 years old

posted February 13, 2024 11:18 AM            

btw, i dumped him in november. he seemed too insecure (an insecure attachment style) and messy for my tastes. self-sabotaging as i stated (an immature saturn)

last we saw each other, a couple weeks after a few months of no contact after i departed, he also said he “hasn’t been able to be with other women the same way since”

posted February 13, 2024 11:50 AM            

he ghosted me in the sense of him not reaching out to me first since we saw each other. its been three weeks. i chalk it up to him being overwhelmed, scared of commitment, and i do not take it personally.

if i reached out to him right now, he would reply immediately. and i have reached out to him on a few occasions in the past weeks and he does respond immediately (under an hour). i consider this “ghosting” when he’s not actively pursuing me. so i’m just letting him be.

posted February 13, 2024 12:37 PM            

just a note: you really shouldn’t make any assumptions or projections onto my personal situation nor my character… please dont put me in the position of having to clarify (just know, despite the difficulties i speak for, there’s no hard feelings between him and i). i broke it off with him because there was an tricky ex girlfriend still involved in his life; that he was hung up on; even unresolved property matters between them. with that said, i dont mean to make this topic personal, about my relationship, so lets keep it general from hereonout

he thanked me for the reconciliation, his words: that this was “brave” of me to reach out. he said to me, his words, “after my [his] behavior, by time i came to my senses, so long had passed that i didnt know how to reach out to you [vansio] again. and i’m very sorry for having pushed you away.” but in a way, he’s just doing it again . taking too long and then scaring himself

posted February 13, 2024 03:45 PM            

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Originally posted by sashavittoria:
Hey ana_bee, thank you for sharing. I had DW Venus-Saturn aspects with my ex and we are still friends with an enduring bond. I think you might like this blog post on the "solution to Venus square Saturn" - I found it referenced in an older LL thread. Best of luck, keep us updated.

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posted February 13, 2024 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by SleepyDiary:
And i also said the personal planet person can hold onto the Saturn person if the Saturn holds the door open for it which you admitted the guy wasn`t over you and you could tell he was in pain so you felt comfortable enough to reach out to him and natally you have Saturn influence so you might by nature be serious and committed to your relationships. But someone who`s non Saturnian and ends up being the personal planet person on a person`s Saturn won`t have the same "dedication" to the relationship even when they are into the person from what i have seen.

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@sleepydiary @vansio
Thank you guys for sharing your experiences with this aspect.

Is any of you familiar with Venus square the nodes in synastry. I am Saturn, I’m also the node person. My Saturn is in a wide conjunction to my SN in 1st house Scorpio.
His Venus in Aqua forms a square to my Saturn and also a square to my nodes (2 degrees) it’s pretty close
Can you tell me how this energy plays out?

We also have a composite Moon conj composite NN. It’s a tight conjunction, 1 degree and Uranus+Juno conj composite SN, also 1 degree. CompSun is sadly in 12th house but conj the Asc.

posted February 14, 2024 03:20 AM            

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the late astrologer Jeff Wolf Green talks about “skipped steps when nodes square a planet”. Perhaps you might find some intel perusing the board for that particular topic.

i’ll also bump an old thread for you on planets aspecting composite nodes based on SkyMates2 book

posted February 14, 2024 06:19 AM            

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Originally posted by ana_bee:
@sleepydiary @vansio
Thank you guys for sharing your experiences with this aspect.

Is any of you familiar with Venus square the nodes in synastry. I am Saturn, I’m also the node person. My Saturn is in a wide conjunction to my SN in 1st house Scorpio.
His Venus in Aqua forms a square to my Saturn and also a square to my nodes (2 degrees) it’s pretty close
Can you tell me how this energy plays out?

We also have a composite Moon conj composite NN. It’s a tight conjunction, 1 degree and Uranus+Juno conj composite SN, also 1 degree. CompSun is sadly in 12th house but conj the Asc.

Is Venus square NN in synastry , doomed?

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posted February 15, 2024 09:10 AM            

Interestingly, his NN is in 1st house in his natal chart and mine is in 7th house. For some background info, he was married before (no children). He was married for 7 years to a woman, who was basically the love of his life. Perfect relationship, super romantic story how they met, tragic ending.

I’m his first relationship after this. Before me, he couldn’t commit to anyone after his marriage ended, and while he’s with me, I think he’s still not quite open emotionally, at least that’s how I perceived it, before he told me that he’s in love with me. Seeing his NN in first house, gives me the impression that being in a committed relationship, goes against his life purpose. With me it’s the opposite. I’m a serial monogamist. I cannot commit, even if my life depended on it, but I can‘t stay single for a day, either. Relationships happen to me all the time, I don’t seek them out, it‘s just that I fall in love easily.
I‘m addicted to being in love, the initial stages, but I get super nervous as the relationship progresses. Every single time! I get invested deeply in the beginning, but as soon as things get serious, I want to get out.

The only relationship I actually worked for and put in a lot of effort, was the relationship to my child’s father. We weren’t married, but we stayed together for some time (almost 4 yrs, my longest relationship so far) and we’re still friends as we co-parent our child.

I want a committed relationship but I realized that I’m the problem most of the time. I want things to be perfect and I’m addicted to the chase and to being in love. I can’t handle the routine, although I want to. It’s also hard for me to find a balance between merging with my partner and staying an individual. I found astrology, btw, because of this issue. Before, I didn’t have the words to explain what was wrong with me. After I saw, where my Nodes fell and what it meant to have a NN in 7th house and the Scorpio/Taurus theme, everything made sense to me! This is exactly my story, my biggest challenge.

So this is basically who we are, and we came together and I think, this again will probably just end up to be a 6months to a year -thing, something that I‘ve been attracting ad nauseum, since forever. My relationships are like short term projects. If I had to write down my Curriculum Vitae or my life story, I would use my relationships, the names of the people I dated, as chapters or paragraphs in my resume. It’s ridiculous, but that’s how it is.

Currently transit Jupiter is conjuncting my DSC. It’s been in conjunction when we met last year, then it went retro and now it’s in direct conjunction again. That gives me some hope, that he could be the one, although our composite isn’t promising with the sun/saturn square and the moon/uranus opposition. 😕
It‘s unfortunate bc I really like him.

Here are the charts, would be interesting to know what you see.