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Topic: Is this home-wrecking synastry?
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Ariesvenusculture
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posted January 09, 2025 02:19 PM
  
For context, I am the outside (red). This is the synaatry chart between myself and a man who is not my husband that is making me contemplate leaving my marriage.  [/url]
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LilyIris07
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posted January 10, 2025 01:09 AM
The synastry looks okay to me, I can understand the pull from some of the planets close to the others Angles - but I don’t necessarily think it’s breaking up a marriage worthy. Probably helps to look at the composite between you guys to see how serious the relationship could be… if you’re having issues with your partner, perhaps look into that first if you’re unhappy etc. IP: Logged |
PlutoWasHere
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posted January 11, 2025 02:24 PM
Honestly, I don’t think it’s the synastry. When I looked at it I didn’t see anything that would trigger you in such a way. So that has me thinking it’s actually a transit to your birth chart affecting you right now. I suspects it’s Pluto transit your descendant. It will make you confront what is wrong with your current relationship, this could be through intense attraction to other people. His Pluto is squaring your Jupiter, which is the co-ruler of your 5th house and located in your 7th house. This is a Plutonian lesson, an opportunity to look at what you really need in relationships. Squares bring a lot of energy and give a strong urge to act, often there are timing issues. IP: Logged |
Ariesvenusculture
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posted January 17, 2025 07:41 PM
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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
Honestly, I don’t think it’s the synastry. When I looked at it I didn’t see anything that would trigger you in such a way. So that has me thinking it’s actually a transit to your birth chart affecting you right now. I suspects it’s Pluto transit your descendant. It will make you confront what is wrong with your current relationship, this could be through intense attraction to other people. His Pluto is squaring your Jupiter, which is the co-ruler of your 5th house and located in your 7th house. This is a Plutonian lesson, an opportunity to look at what you really need in relationships. Squares bring a lot of energy and give a strong urge to act, often there are timing issues.
Honestly you are right, I didn’t even think about transits. I’m so wrapped up in this. Thank you! This Pluto conj. My DC will be the death of me I fear. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted January 22, 2025 09:10 AM
In my experience, it’s because my current partner is not fulfilling me in some kind of way. It’s not some “stinker’s” fault. Lol
If I see this happening then I need to communicate w/ SO. And the outcome of that uncomfortable conversation…time will tell. But if I am to name something, someone having Pluto conjunct my Juno, and my Asteroid Lust is conjunct their Juno. Also their NN is conjunct my DC. People can be married and get through tests like these. I just do not (currently??) seem to be one of those people. If you don’t mind me asking, are you going through some kind of transit? Like anything with a Uranus square? The link was not good for me to look at.
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Stawr
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posted January 22, 2025 09:14 AM
Okay now I see it. My educated guesses are….Chiron conjunct your moon: they are triggering where your emotional needs aren’t being met in your marriage? Persaps there is an emotional connection. Potentially healing. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted January 22, 2025 09:20 AM
As someone who left their now ex husband, and had affairs before the divorce papers…Do not underestimate Mars conjunct Saturn!!!
Two men! I even had group sex with both of them after the divorce. One where I am the Saturn and the other person is the Mars. And the other where I’m the mars and they are the Saturn. It’s stamina guys! IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted January 22, 2025 09:35 AM
Pluto sextile mars looks goodIP: Logged |
Ariesvenusculture
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posted January 22, 2025 11:02 AM
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Originally posted by Stawr:
As someone who left their now ex husband, and had affairs before the divorce papers…Do not underestimate Mars conjunct Saturn!!!
Two men! I even had group sex with both of them after the divorce. One where I am the Saturn and the other person is the Mars. And the other where I’m the mars and they are the Saturn. It’s stamina guys!
Thank you so much for looking at it. I’m currently undergoing Pluto transit to my DC about to enter my 7th house… ugh. I think really it’s a misalignment of values with my husband. We got married very quickly. I have natal Uranus in my 7H so I was silly to think I could make it work long-term I guess.
I was certainly curious about mars conjunct Saturn as there’s not much to read about it! Mostly people are more interested in Venus-Saturn, so thanks so much for your input! Do you think with those mars-Saturn aspects you had it had longevity similar to moon-Saturn or Venus-Saturn that people talk about? Or was it more to do with limitations / karmic responsibility? His Venus is also loosely (6°) conjunct my Pluto in my fifth house. I just know the sex would be life changing.
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Stawr
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posted January 25, 2025 08:50 AM
For me with my marriage it was the so called stability, but the passion was lacking. I just thought this is what a real commitment meant. I started to see other things like lack of honesty to keep me, ex husband was a Virgo stellium and thought he could change me, even if that meant lying about accepting me. Lack of emotional support too. Oh man going through Pluto in the 7th house in your 20s! I was a kid and teenager when I had mine. Since 2022 (counting 5 degrees) I’ve been going through Uranus square Mars.
On top of that Saturn was squaring my moon. I saw they only have empathy for themself. Yeah I’m surprised Mars conjunct Saturn is not talked about more. Mars is exalted in Capricorn. It’s lasting attraction, drive. I feel that Saturn Venus is more love and affection that can be intimate. Or it could be the other way where it’s more stifled.
I really don’t have any experience with Venus Saturn. Or Venus moon. I do really like Venus moon for female friendships. I wish you the best IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted January 25, 2025 08:57 AM
I would look at Lilith and Juno synastry tooIP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 05, 2025 05:22 PM
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cultstatus
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posted July 26, 2025 11:07 AM
I feel like the venus pluto conjunction though wide would still be felt and venus pluto is about as intense as can get IP: Logged |
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93nov
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posted July 29, 2025 08:01 PM
Can you post the synastry with your husband for more context? & the aspect grids? I'm still learning how to read the wheels.Just off of first glance though, your mars in his 12H could mean a secret sexual affair. 12H synastry is very common in hidden/ private relationships. Mars is the planet of sex and action. Your Venus is right on his 8H cusp. He could represent a turning point for you. Mercury in his 8H. This might be why you are considering leaving your marriage. 8H represents taxes, debt, shared resources. Mercury represents our thoughts and communications. Overlays can manifest in many ways. His Sun in your 5H could show him awakening your more romantic, playful side which might be lacking in your marriage? It looks like Uranus is there too so if you do decide to take it there or already have, wrap it up! Outter planets opposite your moon? Might show why you're struggling with this. Your connection with him does not make you feel safe and for good reason lol. Ending a marriage is major and would inevitably disrupt your home life. Astrology aside, I won't be the one to say stay for the stability/ comfort. Life is too short for all that. What I will say is, a lot of the time no decision is the right decision. We just have to live our lives, stay true to ourselves, and try our best not to hurt anyone along the way. And if we do, let it be necessary and with good intentions. IP: Logged |
93nov
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posted July 29, 2025 08:13 PM
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Originally posted by cultstatus:
I feel like the venus pluto conjunction though wide would still be felt and venus pluto is about as intense as can get
Agreed. 4H & 5H action too. Family ties. Roots. Romance. Dating. IP: Logged |
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