posted May 05, 2025 02:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
What do you mean you are the A person? Are you the Sun in Cancer person?

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Hi! Thanks for responding. We are both Sun in Cancer. (oh boy!) I am the 8th 11 one. (Left hand side column)Conjunct with his with his within 2.5 degrees.

posted May 05, 2025 02:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
The synastry has Neptune opposite Mars. Was there cheating involved?

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Hi. Not exactly, but I could be incredibly naive. I wrote this on another post with regards to saturn square sun. (Not what you asked, but just to contextualize):

New here, and just posted my first topic. Spreading the love with a reply!
Let me fumble my way through my answer - I'm not just new HERE, I'm new to "advanced" astrology:

I am Saturn (3°31 Libra) square Sun (5°40 Cancer). I understand this is karmic (?). I feel inexplicably drawn to him. We are great when there are no expectations. Basic needs of mine (seeing each other) get twisted into his perception that I am insecure. Any reaction I have towards expecting, uh, ya know, to share experiences with my man is relabeled as insecure/needy/demanding. Ironically, we are LDR; and that is my preference. I don't know many needy/insecures that are comfortable with that. So he amplifies all the stereotypes that come with a woman being "demanding". He criticizes his mother heavily, but yet feels obligated and duty bound to her. I feel he continues this quiet resignation to the irascible woman in his romantic life. (somewhat acting a martyr) He says relationships are the most important thing to him, but prioritizes others over cultivating ours. (We are separated anyhow).He is nearly 50, lifelong bachelor, and seemingly comfortable with that.Ironically, he is incredibly kind and loving - when he wants to be. However, I read somewhere that Sun square Moon (in his natal) can be an indicator of narcissism. Hope this was insightful.

posted May 05, 2025 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
Ok.

You might have met this person at work since you have so many planets in your 6th house. And again, there might have been some cheating involved in the way you 2 got together, or in the way it ended, as there are unfavorable Mars Neptune aspects both natally and in synastry.

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Hi! Thanks again. We didn't meet at work; but work is a big theme between us (especially me. Cap rising) Hm. To my knowledge there was no cheating, but again - could be. Or, not sexual cheating, but the prioritization of others could potentially be the culprit.

posted May 06, 2025 12:25 PM            

I do see that your ruling planet, Saturn, is natally conjunct Jupiter in Libra, and this uneasy conjunction is sitting on top of the guy's North Node which also happenss to conjunct his ascendant. Also his PLuto trines your moon. Could these explain the obsession?

Saturn wants longevity and commitment, and Saturn on someone's Node may work for something long term to happen. So it is possible, most definitely... Especially since you also have Jupiter on his Node and all of action sits on his ascendant... Fate (North Node) and Saturn (Karma) and Jupiter (luck) might put you back together.

posted May 06, 2025 04:24 PM            

-- you have Venus conjunct North Node.
--And the ruling planet of his NN and ascendant is Venus.

posted May 06, 2025 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
Not sure why you are stuck on him.

I do see that your ruling planet, Saturn, is natally conjunct Jupiter in Libra, and this uneasy conjunction is sitting on top of the guy's North Node which also happenss to conjunct his ascendant. Also his PLuto trines your moon. Could these explain the obsession?

Saturn wants longevity and commitment, and Saturn on someone's Node may work for something long term to happen. So it is possible, most definitely... Especially since you also have Jupiter on his Node and all of action sits on his ascendant... Fate (North Node) and Saturn (Karma) and Jupiter (luck) might put you back together.

ETA: Edited 3 times to reflect evolving thoughts...

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Hi Belage! Love this. Exactly the type of feedback I've been trying to extrapolate myself, but as a neophyte - getting lost in it. I think all of it explains my almost addictive pull. I wonder - how does it affect him though? We are still in contact (not physically) and most days, it's like nothing ever ended. Except when we try to talk about why it did. Then it's gridlocked again. He consistently shuts it down by saying we won't agree. Either way, I'm more interested in moving forward - but with him.

posted May 07, 2025 09:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
The other thing I see is that:

-- you have Venus conjunct North Node.
--And the ruling planet of his NN and ascendant is Venus.

It looks like there could be similarities or understanding of Venusian pursuits between you.

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We also both have Venus in Leo in our natals. And both have Cancer Sun. The intimacy is like none other (for me, at least). What does Venusian pursuits mean?

posted May 07, 2025 04:23 PM            

Just so you know, if something is fated to happen, there is no telling WHEN it will happen, so if I were you, I would not put my life on hold. Sometimes, people reconnect as lovers after years apart. So, don't wait out for him, move on with your life!

A couple of things happen when you stop obsessing about someone and move on:
1) Psychically and/or energetically, you stop being the chaser, and you leave room for them to actually chase you.
2) You actually become more attractive. Obsession is a repellent, and reeks of desperation and neediness.

There is an ongoing transit of Neptune in Aries, and then Saturn in Aries that is going to oppose your Saturn/Jupiter conjunction on his North Node and ascendant. So this important stellium aspect may be derailled and delayed during the time these slow moving planets are going over the 1 degree of Aries. And yes there is also an upcoming Uranus in Gemini that is going to trine it, and it might unexpectedly rekindle things, but with Uranus, you never know how it will manifest.

posted May 07, 2025 08:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
You are welcome, Starfuncks711! If you hang around here and participate, you will get better at astrology!

Just so you know, if something is fated to happen, there is no telling WHEN it will happen, so if I were you, I would not put my life on hold. Sometimes, people reconnect as lovers after years apart. So, don't wait out for him, move on with your life!

A couple of things happen when you stop obsessing about someone and move on:
1) Psychically and/or energetically, you stop being the chaser, and you leave room for them to actually chase you.
2) You actually become more attractive. Obsession is a repellent, and reeks of desperation and neediness.

There is an ongoing transit of Neptune in Aries, and then Saturn in Aries that is going to oppose your Saturn/Jupiter conjunction on his North Node and ascendant. So this important stellium aspect may be derailled and delayed during the time these slow moving planets are going over the 1 degree of Aries. And yes there is also an upcoming Uranus in Gemini that is going to trine it, and it might unexpectedly rekindle things, but with Uranus, you never know how it will manifest.

Again I stress, don't put your life, heart and emotions on hold waiting for this to happen.

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Hey there! Thanks again. I personally feel the obsession is rather equivalent. That being said, I've always been more of the pursuer. I justify this as my Gemini moon charisma Haha.

What are the effects of this important stellium that you mention? And the trine?

Do you know what the date ranges are?

posted May 07, 2025 08:45 PM            

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Originally posted by Starfuncks711:

What are the effects of this important stellium that you mention? And the trine?

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There are tons of free information out there on different sites so you might want to Google:

-Transit Neptune oppose natal Saturn
-Transit Neptune oppose natal Jupiter
-Transit Saturn oppose natal Saturn
-Transit Saturn oppose natal Jupiter
-Transit Uranus trine natal Jupiter
-Transit Uranus trine natal Saturn

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Originally posted by Starfuncks711:
Do you know what the date ranges are?

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Saturn, Neptune and Uranus are slow moving planets, so when they are aspecting our natal planets by transits, the effects are usually felt for a couple of years.

It is good to be able to read an ephemeris to find transits. An ephemeris will show you where the stars/planets are located at a particular time.

This 2025 ephemeris https://www.astro.com/swisseph/ae/2000/ae_2025.pdf will show you that Neptune will be going back and forth on 1 degree of Aries, while Saturn will get to that particular degree and stay there in June, July and August, then go back to Pisces, and will return to that degree in 2026.

posted May 09, 2025 03:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
Saturn, Neptune and Uranus are slow moving planets, so when they are aspecting our natal planets by transits, the effects are usually felt for a couple of years.

It is good to be able to read an ephemeris to find transits. An ephemeris will show you where the stars/planets are located at a particular time.

This 2025 ephemeris https://www.astro.com/swisseph/ae/2000/ae_2025.pdf will show you that Neptune will be going back and forth on 1 degree of Aries, while Saturn will get to that particular degree and stay there in June, July and August, then go back to Pisces, and will return to that degree in 2026.

Normally, you will feel the effect of a planet as it is approaching the exact degree, as it hits the degree and also as it is separating. Some astrologers give it a range/orb of influence of 5 degrees before and after. So yeah, it will be a couple of years before this is all over.

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