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Topic: Relationship with boss outside my boyfriend????
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CappyLove
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From: Ireland
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 29, 2014 09:17 PM
  
Heya guys, Lately have had some weird experiences! I am in love with my boyfriend but my boss is being really flirtatious and I feel this draw! Can someone tell me where this is going with my boss please! http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e215/Liz-Nuit/astro_2gw_86_where_is_my_relationship_with_boss_going326932418_zps5b182e25.gif IP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:22 AM
Is this the boss that is sexually harassing you?IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 05:00 AM
Yeah it is!IP: Logged |
filleaspirant
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posted July 30, 2014 07:48 AM
I'd say it'll continue on a verbal level, although if you want to sleep with him, you'll have an opportunity to.------------------
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CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 08:03 AM
Do you think that I would cheat on my man with my boss :/
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MineAgain
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posted July 30, 2014 09:43 AM
I'm speaking on a more objective note and it's probably not my place, but I couldn't help but say this - Are you trying to build a case against him?Note that if you do sleep with him, it's going to ruin all of your chances and he's also going to use this as a tactic to take advantage of you in the work place. Beware of blackmail because I believe that once you cross that line, that will give him more power to increase his "harrassment" towards you. If you think that sleeping with him is going to fix the "harrassment" situation, you're wrong. It's going to be worse. You have a boyfriend who loves you, so I'd advise you to control your urges or you might lose the job and the boyfriend. I guess you wouldn't want to end up with nothing, would you? Stay strong <3 IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 09:57 AM
No I wouldn't like that at all! I love my boyfriend so much!!! Like I want to marry him! I don't even know why I have urges for the boss, he is I guess very seductive. But I cant do anything, I would destroy my world and plans with my love!IP: Logged |
filleaspirant
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posted July 30, 2014 11:29 AM
Hmm. Not knowing the whole story, I don't really see this as sexual harrassment. I mean, the guy is interested in you and, from your own words, you're not turning down his advances but actually feeling seduced by them. I'd think this was harrassment if the guy told you to have sex with him in order to not lose your job or a promotion, or something like that. I had a boss ask me out once. He could've ended my contract just by saying he wanted me out of there. He invited me to a concert in front of all my colleagues. I was attracted to him but felt anything between us while I was working there would be inappropriate. I told him that I was sorry, but I couldn't go out with him then. I worked under him for the rest of my contract and he respected all my boundaries. What I mean to say with this story is, if he's not threatening to you in any way, you shouldn't say he's sexually harrassing you. If he's trying to seduce you, just say you're not interested and that you're committed to be with your boyfriend. Try recording his immediate reaction and posterior actions, so you have proof of him actively harrassing you when you've made it clear you have no interest in him. ------------------
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CappyLove
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Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 11:37 AM
I have countless times told him to stop, to tell him how inappropriate all he is doing is and that I am in a long and loving relationship. He however won't take no for a no...He has touched me especially at the beginning really badly and said some things. I didn't want it then. To be honest I am flattered he likes me but I don't want to do anything with him! He has a wife and kid. I am working with his wife. I went to the citizen information centre and to find out what can be done. It is sexual assault as it is harassment. Yes I am drawn to him cuz he is the only nice person at work towards me....I told him that I will not have sex with him. Also in a way its my hormones that are making me weak...Haven't seen my man in 8 months (long distance) but I will in one week and after that I think I will just freak out. I say no but he does things anyways. I freaked out at him a few times and he stopped for a bit and then continued.IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil
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From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 11:38 AM
Sorry, Filleaspirant. Anything that makes one uncomfortable is sexual harassment. I don't care if he's winking. This is 'Merica. We don't do that. Tell Herman Cain you have a man------------------
Tarot Readings | Etsy Coupon Code: LindalandJuly
Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House)
Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House)
Cancer ♋ Rising
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CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 11:39 AM
God damn pisces men....he is married a 3rd time waiting for a divorce...IP: Logged |
filleaspirant
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posted July 30, 2014 11:43 AM
Ack. I thought things might have been more along how they were for me, but no. YUCK.Please try recording his advances with your phone or any other recorder. Gather evidence that he's been touching you and doing all that, and go to the police. A crime is a crime is a crime. In my case, it wasn't. In yours, it clearly is. I'm sorry you're going through this.  ------------------
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LoadedPistil
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From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 11:46 AM
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Originally posted by CappyLove:
God damn pisces men....he is married a 3rd time waiting for a divorce...
Is his Mars in Pisces? IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 11:48 AM
Can u tell me bout the 2nd chart what all that means? like asc in cancer and venus in the 1st and moon in the 4th in virgo and all those weird aspects in there. I don't do horary and I can't read it myself.
And thanks for understanding! Ya except recording him without his knowledge is against the law here too! Things are a little complex as well as I am going into my final year of university in one month and also I haven't signed a contract yet though it has been a month and a half and been looking for a job for almost a full year. Hence I am weighing my options. I really wanted to bring him to court! But it is a long and expensive processIP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 11:51 AM
No idea to be honest, all I know is he is 39 and has sun in pisces. I don't know his DOB or timeIP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:11 PM
Your question: Where is the relationship with my boss going? My answer : It is going where you want it to go. IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 12:13 PM
how can that be?!And please look at the 2nd chart I posted, maybe it wud clarify things. I don't know what it means. But I don't want sex with my boss IP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:42 PM
If you don't want sex than don't have sex. I don't see the problem.IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 12:44 PM
The problem is is that he is trying to lure me in and have his way with me despite my consent. IP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:45 PM
I am more interested in your natal chart.IP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:47 PM
Without your consent it would be rape. IP: Logged |
CappyLove
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posted July 30, 2014 12:52 PM
Yes, rape would be something I wud be worried about!And oh! Here is my natal http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e215/Liz-Nuit/MyNatalChart_zps51763bb6.gif IP: Logged |
Tofu addict
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posted July 30, 2014 12:59 PM
You need to work on your boundaries, Moon in Pisces, Sun conjunct Neptune. They see you coming. Honesty with yourself and others , possible a problemIP: Logged |
CappyLove
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Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 01:03 PM
They see me coming? What do you mean?IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil
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From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 30, 2014 01:13 PM
quote:
Originally posted by CappyLove:
No idea to be honest, all I know is he is 39 and has sun in pisces. I don't know his DOB or time
Good, cause that was my test to see how curious and into him you are. You aren't supposed to know all that.  ------------------
Tarot Readings | Etsy Coupon Code: LindalandJuly
Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House)
Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House)
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