posted September 27, 2015 08:57 AM            

My love life is in shambles and its seriously affecting my self-esteem. I usually enjoy being single, but this isn't the time for me to be alone. I need a partner in my life. We all do.

Its sad when a Man can't find someone to fully share himself with. I approach women, go out on dates, but nothing ever progresses on a deeper level. I keep wondering if there is something wrong with me, them, or just the situation. I just feel unlucky and this has been going on for a few years now.

My friends (both male and female) tell me that they are surprised to know that I am single and that I deserve to be with someone because of the great guy that I am. But nothing ever works.

So my question is. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Should I keep "looking" for her, or just forget it all and deal with the fact that this is just the way it is? Im constantly accused for being a "player" when I'm not. This is sad guys. It really is. Im a great man with a great vision and it hurts to know i can never find a woman to FULLY share it with. Someone I know I can fully connect with on every level. Like I said, this has been going on since 2013.

posted September 27, 2015 12:03 PM            

As far as Horary, your chart shows you concerned with your pride and public as well as visual appearance, but you state you seek a genuine relationship. Probably you won't attract genuine if you are not showing yourself to be genuine. It doesn't mean that you aren't genuine, just that you won't appear genuine to people who don't already know you.

posted September 27, 2015 12:17 PM            

But can you explain more on what you mean by focusing on what I can give? I want to be with someone i know i can inspire and they inspire me. And have a connection with on all levels (something you know you truly have).

I don't want to be so caught up in "what ifs" that i miss the present moment. I can't explain why this is happening in my life. Im not used to this. Things were so much different when I was younger but by early 2014 things just changed..

posted October 07, 2015 07:11 PM            

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Originally posted by appleberry:
Just on a non horary note, maybe you really are ready for your soul mate, but this is the universes way of getting you to really value her when she does arrive.

There is usually calm before the storm in many ways and if the two of you decided your fate before your births, maybe this downtime event was planned as well... Just think about why you may have planned it... What could the value of it be? This is easier in retrospect but give it a try.

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posted October 07, 2015 07:28 PM            

The girls are represented by Aries and Mars which is a role reversal in a way. You are very romantic and attentive, and easy to get along with but perhaps they want to miss you at first before being showered with affection.

I don't know if you do that but it's what spoke to me in the chart. If we go along with it - the women you date, Mars, being in Virgo I feel all that doting and grandiose expression makes them shy. I always feel Mars in general is uncomfortable in Gemini or Virgo, but moreso Virgo since at least Gemini expresses themselves verbally while Virgo just contains and tries to rationalize within themselves.

Venus is also squaring with Saturn - automatic difficulty in dating (I should know, I have this lovely aspect natally ) Your lack of success shows here and your post tells me this aspect is doing it's job of affecting your spirits.

Something positive I noticed is there's mutual reception between Venus in Leo and Sun in Libra, granted the Sun (your co-sig) is in your 12th house. Sun in the 12th could represent you not seeing yourself clearly at this time. Or confidence being inhibited. I believe you are a confident person but like I was saying earlier, if you do those really nice romantic things from right off the bat girls may not believe that's the real "you" and feel it's fake and not real enough.

What if we took a different approach? What if we said you were actually Mars here (since you are an Aries) and that'd make you Mars in Virgo - someone who is overthinking the situation. Like Appleberry mentioned (I think) perhaps the girls are interested but they're prideful and keeping their distance wanting you to chase them.

posted October 08, 2015 07:24 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Hmm...I think I get what you mean, but feeling like you could never truly connect and then pursuing more connections is contradictory. Do you mean you felt you weren't satisfied growing roots with the same circle?

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