posted October 09, 2015 10:09 AM            

I know he's single although I don't doubt he's been quite flirty/physical. He is someone I deeply care for and I believe my immaturity and insecurities combined with his player and flaky tendencies led to the demise of our "connection". We were both rather immature.

I've done some serious self-introspection and I now feel like I've grown into a completely different individual. I'm sure he has changed too.

I do not have any expectations regarding this potential reconnection. I'm not specifically seeking a dating or friendship scenario. I want to leave it open to destiny to decide what can happen from there.

However, as I am a bit of a chicken, I'd like to cast a horary first.

Thank you guys for your help!

posted October 10, 2015 04:11 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Hey MineAgain - noticed this and will comment about it, but I'm getting ready to go home now. There's also some research I need to do before I make a first assesment. Hold tight

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Thank you very much Hannaramaa!

posted October 10, 2015 08:51 PM            

However, I thought "You know, people we date are also our friends at one point.... because we definitely couldn't use the 5th house which represents new-new people (although...maybe Appleberry used IT for exes? Either way we're talking about friends, so to the 11H house we go) and I see Moon and Jupiter conducting in an applying aspect. This is better. And leads me to think it'd be fine to reach out to him as long as you're okay with being friends and nothing more at this time. I do see you in his 1st house so I kind of think you're interested in something romantic.

posted October 11, 2015 04:45 AM            

For some reason, I felt the urge to get in touch with him last week when I was adamant I would never initiate contact. I'm most definitely not one to go back once I've cut someone off.

I managed to get over everyone except him. Even in times when I had a fulfilling occupation, met new people, new guys and had plenty of hobbies, he was still in my mind. Hence, I doubt it's loneliness which causes me to want to get in touch.

So, if I'm reading your post correctly, he's forgotten about me, right?

You're right though. I still have some romantic feelings left.

posted October 11, 2015 05:40 AM            

If you want my opinion (you probably don't), but if you do, I would say just contact him and see what happens.

I'm not saying that anything good will come out of it, but I'm not saying that it will be all bad either. I just think you are the priority and you owe it to yourself to RID yourself of thoughts about this guy!

Remember when you said that you did a 'let go' ritual and you were confident that it worked because you felt better in that moment? Look where you are now. You can't keep doing this to yourself every few months.

Quick story:

My friend dated someone in her teens for about 5/6 years. They broke up. He moved on and she still remained in love with him. It didn't matter who she dated, he was always in her heart. Despite the fact that he had moved on and made this clear to her. This year, she found a way of getting in contact with him and they met up a few times. He spoke to her about his previous girlfriend, but he never apologised for hurting her and being dismissive about her feelings. Nevertheless, her feelings for him raged on. I told her that she needed to see where the relationship was going. They had been to dinner, but she still wanted more and didn't know what he wanted. He was hanging out with her, but not moving their NEW connection forward. Eventually, when she asked him if their relationship could perhaps turn into something down the road. Guess what he said....? He said, no.

My friend was upset because he obviously didn't feel the same as her, but you know what? She is SO much happier now because there is no more uncertainty or unanswered questions. She had her cry, processed the information and never spoke to him again - although he told her to message him when she got home that evening. She let him go.

I think the universe was waiting for her to make the decision, because since then she met so many new men since letting that situation go completely! Funnily enough, 2 months later (after rejecting her) her ex boyfriend popped up on her what's app telling her that she looked great! He was literally complimenting her like he hadn't rejected her a few months ago. Again, she ignored him because she now has the presence of mind to see him for what he is! Not a bad person, but just NOT her person.

I'm not saying that you should beg him back or ask him about where your relationship stands, but you need a new perspective and one that is not two/three years old. I can guarantee you that if he doesn't treat you in the way that you deserve and want in 2015, you WILL move on!!! It will be so much easy this time around, and you will start attracting other men.

Make contact, assess the situation and take it from there - move on completely or progress under your terms and conditions!