posted August 19, 2016 12:01 PM            

(tl;dr: I’ve been having bad luck in the romance department; do you see that changing sometime in the future? Will post charts, thanks for your help!)

Hello, all!

It's been a while since I've written anything on this forum, but I thought that I'd give it a go, since I have been feeling somewhat down lately. Times when I have written on this forum in the past, I received a lot of help and clarity, so thank you in advance to anyone who responds to this!

In sum, I've excelled in multiple areas of my life, due to hard work, perseverance, and luck, all except in the area of romance and relationships!

From a young age, I've always believed in (and have also been taught) the value of hard work ethic. So, it was quite common to see me with my nose stuck in a book, or happily studying. Even though I was a socially awkward (i.e.: really silent and extremely observant) as a young girl and teenager, I learned how to develop my social skills and reach out to people, and be a rather sympathetic listener and good friend (as many have told me - their words, not mine!).

As a now 25 year-old woman, making solid friendships and actively pursuing my career goals are on the top of my list, so to speak.

I always thought that I would meet a good guy one day and that things would go from there. Hell, I even thought that I would at least have a serious encounter with a guy! I was fine with the fact that nothing ever happened in high school because I was so engrossed in my studies and was still stiff around many people. I was somewhat okay with the fact that nothing ever happened in college because I gravitated towards guys who were emotionally unavailable, perhaps subconsciously to make sure that I didn't get emotionally hurt. But, as the years continue to roll on, and as my 26th birthday nears (in early Oct.), it's becoming more difficult NOT to think that something is wrong.

Many people have stated how beautiful they think I am, or how I must be a model (or constantly insist that I should become one), or how I must have to swat the guys away because I’m “absolutely breathtaking.” Again, I'm only saying this to give you a better picture, not for an ego boost. (In fact, I shy away from compliments because I get so nervous!) I take great care of myself, I'm sociable in a warm and engaging, yet calm and collected kind of way (Gemini-Cancer cusp Asc., Libra Sun and Venus in the 4th house), and I try to live my life in a honest, positive way.

Honestly, I am grateful for the compliments and for the good fortune that have come my way in other areas of my life, but this off-kilter romantic department is becoming frustrating. It seems like the guys, many of whom are much older, who DO ask me out have some serious hang-ups (some have been real shady types and don't want to change themselves!), have ulterior motives, or we just aren't compatible enough for something to stick. I only seek out the essentials to compatibility, and looks come after that, but even this doesn't work. When it comes to guys my age, I think it's even worse. I have even tried to take initiative in my own small, respectful way, only to have disastrous outcomes that are laughably embarrassing.

I have gotten all the positive social cues from a guy (who was an acquaintance or even friend, not a total stranger) that he was really attracted and interested, even confirmation from his friends (so it’s not like my imagination was making up some fairy tale story), only for the guy I was interested in to do a 180 – after I 1) smiled and asked him if he liked me, 2) said I was interested in him, or 3) sent a text during the day asking to hang out – and he would act like I was too interested. I was so reserved and laidback during these one-time attempts, but you’d think that I’d done MUCH more than the girls who almost literally threw themselves at said guys right after I tried. And these guys accepted the other girls’ advances. This scenario has happened so often that I just stopped trying.

I know that everything happens for a reason, and you attract what you think you deserve, so… I don’t know. I know that I can still improve so many areas of my life, and that introspection and true, unshakeable self-confidence is something that everyone should work towards, but I’m wondering why nothing has changed in the romantic department, or if anything ever will. Again, I am grateful to even be breathing, to have a roof over my head, and to be alive! I would just like to add a positive, real relationship into the mix, if I’m fortunate enough.

I’m sorry for being so dramatic about all of this; I would just really appreciate some astrological help with this one! Do you see anything changing for me in the romantic department in the future? I’m attaching some charts – natal, Progressed Chart, 2016 Solar Return, 2016 Venus Return. And I’m sorry that I’m most likely bombarding you; I’ve been trying read these things on my own, but I think I need some guidance.

Thanks again to anyone who reads this, really!

Love and light

posted August 19, 2016 11:59 PM            

Thank you for reading my excessively long post, and thank you so much for offering to read my horary chart! Sorry, I didn't understand what horary charts were! In any case, here's the appropriate chart. Thank you again.

posted August 20, 2016 01:01 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I think you will go on more dates and be more social, but it won't be that One Great Love just yet. Someone will be into you, but yhe might not be up ro your expectations. Also, stop hiding behind work 😊! Also, I truly believe things will start being a lot more connected, balanced, and harmonious when Jupiter moves out of sucky Virgo! It hates it there!

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Hi hannaramaa,

Thank you for your reading!

Yes, this makes sense. Once I scanned this and saw that Moon in Pisces is conjunct Neptune, plus those multiple T-Squares, I was worried that would get a really difficult reading where I deluded myself so much so that I landed into a terrible situation, haha! It's good to know that such a thing doesn't necessarily have to occur, so long as I remain positive and stop hiding behind work, as you suggested. I will be very careful, though, about meeting someone who I hope will be good but who just might turn out to be another unevolved Neptunian type (I've done it to myself in the past, so it's good for me to remain vigilant about such things)!

I've never considered horary charts, or even really knew about them, but it's an interesting way of getting an astrological answer to a question!

Thanks again.

Love and light,