posted February 16, 2021 01:37 AM            

Our sigs are in square aspect which probably shows our recent disparity. Moon in fiery Aries but hidden in 12H indicates my suppressed anger, and it’s applying sextile to Venus. So I should talk to him?

Mercury ruler of my 3rd is retrograding, leaving Jupiter his 3L going towards Saturn his 4/5L. What does this mean?

Venus(him) is going towards Sun (which is his co-sig but also my 5th ruler). ??

posted February 17, 2021 09:47 AM            

The voice recording section of my phone is filled with me talking to myself at issues/others. I quickly listen back and usually decide thereafter, but mostly I know it’s a need to be heard - which I offer myself. — Leo Chiron 3rd House

Where’s your Chiron? Does this have anything to do with what’s coming up for you in partnership? Is transiting Chiron in the 12th House from your natal placement, before its return?

posted February 17, 2021 11:53 AM            

What partnership?

I’ve Chiron in 11H Aries. tChiron is coming up...on top of my Jupiter now.

posted February 17, 2021 12:51 PM            

I’ve also been unhappy before with what the Jyeshtha Ascendent “failed to do”. Actually, I stopped talking to him for weeks because of that, but came around to the connection yesterday, which he replied to eventually.

Last night I connected to my heart space and cleared some of the ego webs, and this morning woke up to his reply. Sounds cliche but try meditating, your moon/ketu will thank you.

So, what kind of issues? Want to vent here?

I wouldn’t suggest a break outright, especially if you love this person, rather carve out your own space. Or guide yourself to mirror him, to the T, in the meantime.

posted February 17, 2021 01:50 PM            

Yes, Jyestha ASC, conjunct my Moon. In Tropical he has Moon conjunct Pluto. Secretive AF (even when there’s no reason to)... also sensitive even though he accuses me of being sensitive (lol) so we’re pot and kettle, both black.

I plan to pull back...waaayyy back. He’s sometimes slow in catching my warning signs, surprising for a Moon-Pluto individual.

posted February 19, 2021 07:36 AM            

«With Chiron in Aries the wound is to your basic sense of self which may manifest in the following ways:

-Crippling self-doubt and lack of self-worth

-Feel you have no right to exist or assert yourself

-Feel that who you are is fundamentally unacceptable

-People pleaser and always put others first, or totally self-involved with your own problems

-Find it hard to stand up for yourself or ask for what you want.

-Self-sabotage, frustration and underlying rage

-Militant self-sufficiency masking fragile insecurity»

posted February 24, 2021 12:39 AM            

Anyway we managed to have the "talk". He was nice about it but I didn't like the answers he gave... so with no satisfactory resolution I suggested that we stop seeing each other. He kinda flipped out, said he felt confused and repeatedly asked if I'm sure this is what I want...I said I'm ok to still be his friend.

I got a feeling this isn't gonna be a smooth transit so I casted another chart asking if our relationship will end or continue. What do you see in this new chart?

Venus-Mars are in a separating square but Moon is applying trine to Sun and its last aspect will be sextile Mars(him).

Also Moon is strong in Cancer and Venus will soon enter its exaltation. Both representing me. His sigs (Sun/Mars), on the other hand, are exalting Moon/Venus. I see this as him still feeling strongly and holding on, which seems to be the case now. He said he would give me space to think about it but asked to meet me again today.

posted February 24, 2021 04:54 AM            

Because you love him, please meet him, and if it’s possible to be momentary referee, start off by apologizing for hard feelings from a misunderstanding, and go from there—which I hope includes even more listening on both parts, seems somewhat fair between you with this request to try again.

I’m glad he’s concerned. You have every right to request a break if your relationship needs are not being met (so long as you are able to define them and explain your capacity to return, conditionally), however, his reaction tells that he has enough emotional involvement to meet you [there], even if difference has gotten in the way before.

Although there’s only one day to prepare, an appointment after conflict is fertile ground to plant a new seed. Be the relationship you want to see the world, see if/how it resonates. Subconsciously, trust there be a valid reason for your need to shake up from a higher perspective, however, open communication is key, no matter how uncomfortable or trying.

Also, if you need MORE time before meeting (to prepare), say so. Keep asking for what you want. He should appreciate your consideration (of him) throughout your boundaries in partnership and can work with you about the “meaning” for this event, because it’s likely he’s feeling inept, yet he’s yours. You’re the leader/light of this current situation 10H, navigate wisely, Venus.

Being “friends” after a broken relationship isn’t realistic, I must add. Being “friends” within a romantic relationship, better.

With the Venus transit the way it is, forgiveness without judgement will be necessary.

Thanks for taking time to look into your Chiron placement. When it comes to relationships, it usually applies. Not surprised to read that you perhaps-unconsciously mentioned to him your wound [11H] about needing/wanting to heal friendship, for teamwork.

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posted February 25, 2021 09:38 AM            

We finally reached a resolution after 2 meetings and another fight. 🙁 Long story short I told him what he did/said that really hurt me and as a result my affection for him was gradually waning...to the point I don’t feel like meeting him anymore. I didn’t mince my words. He was initially defensive but later felt shaken and acknowledged/apologised for the emotional damage he has been inflicting on me. Anyway he also blamed himself for letting anger get the better of him and saying things he didn’t mean (which he realised were like slashes to my heart).