posted April 21, 2021 10:52 AM            

Does this mean yes?

posted April 21, 2021 02:54 PM            

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Originally posted by maleja.rangel:
is he a friend or a potencial lover?

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posted April 22, 2021 10:30 AM            

(music) Secret Lovers (Atlantic Starr w/ Lyrics)
[3:56] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmyXhdf6N8g

I will add a caveat (warning, stipulation) to what's going on in that song.

IF this person is already married,
you might incur KARMA to inject yourself and become a 3rd in that union.

Back off! ..
Do Not Hurt another Woman,
Be NOT 'the cause' of harm for another Woman's Dream.

If he's lying to you? and you find out the truth--
BREAK that immediately.

A Woman's Bond (and territory) .. is Sacred.
VENUS is in Taurus
Sun Mercury Venus in Taurus, with Uranus in fact!

Honor The Married Wife -- Honor yourself.
Do not be seduced to betray your Sister.

You'll Build GOOD Karma for doing so.
Put yourself in HER place.
Would you want THAT happening directly to you in the Future?

Avoid that tragedy.

ADD-- wow. Look at Mars (action) in Gemini in the 12th (more secrets? duality). Look at Mars' aspects ... quincunx (blind-sight) to Pluto in the marriage house H7! ..

Chiron in the 10th .. can represent a wounding of your reputation, interfering with your career goals?

posted April 22, 2021 12:54 PM            

He would tell me how he wanted to have sex with me. And how he couldn’t wait for us to do certain things. It was more so like we were going to have a sexual relationship. And I was cool with that because I wanted the experience. He didn’t have to lie about anything. Because I told him I ok with being friends with benefits.

posted April 22, 2021 02:56 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
@maleja.rangel: You keep saying that he’s going through something. Going through what? He shouldn’t lie to me about anything. I’ve always told him about the men I talk to. So I’m not understanding why he’d hide anything. Yeah, I’m pretty sure he’s going through something because we haven’t talked in a month. He has no reason to lie to me about his ex or other women. Because we aren’t together we were never together. Even though he kept saying he wanted to be with me. He even said we were dating and I find it odd because we’ve never even met. He tried to see me while he was in town but I didn’t meet up with him. And then he continued to ask me to come and see him. I don’t get it like why he felt the need to lie. Especially when I always told him about the other men I talk to

Was he living a process when he kept on saying how he wanted to be with me? I was the one who told him I just wanted sex. And he’s the one who kept saying he wanted more. All I'm saying is he should have been honest for the start. If all he wanted was to hook up for sex that's what he should have said.

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posted April 22, 2021 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
@mirage29: Are you saying I’m his secret lover?
I asked him many times if he was with someone. He had told me that his ex was trying to make his life hell. But that they weren’t together anymore. We met online on Facebook in a dating group. And we talked for almost four years. He was saying that he’s into me and that he wanted to be with me etc. He would tell me to come stay with him etc. I asked him several times if he only wanted sex and he said no. That he wanted something more. This morning I looked up his ex’s name. And I found out that he’s been living with her. I don’t get why he lied he kept telling me that they weren’t together and that she lived in Florida. He said he had his own place etc. It’s crazy because I told him from the start if all he wanted was a hookup I was fine with that. I told him I understand if he just wanted to mess around. So I just don’t get why he would lie.

He would tell me how he wanted to have sex with me. And how he couldn’t wait for us to do certain things. It was more so like we were going to have a sexual relationship. And I was cool with that because I wanted the experience. He didn’t have to lie about anything. Because I told him I ok with being friends with benefits.

So I’m assuming the first Horary chart showed that he was still interested in me sexually.

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EX is making his life hell == and he's still 'living' with her?
Venus Taurus territory
Her energy is still bonded with his.
And vice versa.
"Psychologically/unconsciously"? You are 'the third' wheel in her relationship with him.
(You found out doing your own 'detective' work -- They're living together, when HE said they weren't.)

*~
I knew that you had been involved with some guys, in other threads we've conversed in. There was one you were especially smitten-by, who was a musician?

Secret and Sex = Scorpio energy

The 7th House is the Marriage House,
in traditional astrology.

The song choice was 'intuitive'.
While I was listening to it, it struck me how VENUS is in Taurus right now.

I am surprised to see that you noted he has BEEN in another serious relationship, and that they still have not "let go" of each other. He LIED when he really had nothing to LIE about with you. *red flag*

If she finds out about you, you then have become the 'third' in the two-of-theirs' relationship.

My inner-radar was being protective of you.

LYING, his need to LIE and keep up the lie???
He wants the relationship to become MORE than just the sex.

I don't want your Heart broken.

Confront him. WHY lie?

Full Moon in SCORPIO April 27--
in SQUARE (confrontation) with Saturn H8 in the OP chart.

Saturn .. H8 is the natural Scorpio House.

Make sure your Birth Control method is optimal.
H5 Libra (ruled my Venus)
H5 = Fun, Romance/Dating, also rules Children ..
Uranus (surprises!) conjuncts VENUS Taurus (fertility Empress), with this Scorpio Moon.)

I just care about you. Wanting your Success.
We both have Jupiter in the 8th.
My Progressed Moon is 12+ Aquarius today (same as your natal).

{p.s. take down your email for your protection.
Instead, send it in email to Randall, who will forward it over to Mal ..}

Transiting Venus exact conjuncts transiting Uranus Taurus -- your natal 8th, for next few days.

posted April 22, 2021 09:50 PM            

He kept telling me that he wanted us to have a life together. And how him and his ex hated each other. She does know about me because I told her that he was talking to me. None of it makes sense though because I told him if he just wanted sex then just say that. He has no reason to lie to me about anything. I always told him about other men so I don’t know why he lied. I don’t think I’m the 3rd wheel because I’m not in a relationship with him.

posted April 23, 2021 03:02 PM            

Wanting sex is not a wrong thing at all..

But assess the situation.
Go into it 'knowing' where YOUR boundaries are, and realize that he's willing to be a liar to get what 'he' wants from the women in his life.

I thought it curious that he would bring up that he was looking to want 'something MORE' than just a sex relationship before you ever met him. *flag: game/manipulation*
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Is saying that to you part of what he learned in guy-culture? That women/females are always emotionally on the hunt/hungry for something more out of you in a relationship whenever you lay with her for just-the-sex? {Has strings and costs?}
.. Perhaps, guy-culture says that if you are the one who says it first to the woman, that it will cause that woman to be more vulnerable (emotionally), hence, even-more willing to have sex with you?
That, the 'cost' of sex with her is that she will demand MORE of you later, (if you still want 'it')?
Preempting what he-thinks are words that YOU would 'want' to hear from him?
. .

Gently, KNOW what it is you 'want'...
Inside you, set your Boundaries.

{The astrology today has stone-cold Saturn Aquarius in SQUARE to an experimental Uranus-Venus in Taurus? .. }

It Ain't Me Babe? (Bob Dylan)

If you're just curious about what the physical 'sense' experience of having sex with him might be like?-- be aware that there's a possibility of a psychological-emotional nest of complexity you could find yourself entangled in by not having good boundaries.
{Possibility of another woman on this scene still having an attachment-- especially that they live under the same roof. ~ Messy.}

Protect your Heart.
(Bluntly? You-yourself found proof that he lies to the women in his life.)
*?deal breaker?*

Have a good weekend!

posted May 01, 2021 11:41 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
He messaged me today but I haven’t read the message because I can’t deal with it right now.

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posted May 02, 2021 07:08 AM            

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Originally posted by maleja.rangel:
Mirage message is on point. You know he lied to you a LOT, so it’s up to you what kind of game you want to play and what side are you. I’m sure there are plenty of guys in the sea, better than him and not lying to get something. When things start that way, always end that way. Wish you the best Child, you deserve better.

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