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Topic: The Boss Blues...
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 16464
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted December 09, 2000 12:56 PM
 
Any One here having trouble with their boss? Send pink Energy to him or her (Love), and tell us about the changes that take place! 
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"and the Mind will, through the Brain .. restore the memory
of the former Body Temple identity to the newly-discovered one
until finally, he or she will recall all which passed before and this will be verified by the recollection of many incidents and phrases
many so-called fragments .. which no one else could have known" Linda Goodman in Gooberz, page 946 IP: Logged |
YIVY
Knowflake Posts: 4747
From: Louisiana
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted December 09, 2000 06:14 PM
COOL IDEA!!! Wait, I work for mys-elf...wonder if I could "pink beam" mys-elf if mys-elf gets to be too bossy??? 
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gooberlily
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: Brooklyn, (and Norwich) NY, USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted December 09, 2000 11:45 PM
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OSheen
Knowflake Posts: 304
From: Toronto ON, CA
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted January 28, 2002 01:50 AM
I have a favour to ask. There is a pretty volatile situation going on at work and I am so scared for both parties involved. I care for them both, although I have a deeper association with one in particular. The problem is, the one that I am most attached too seems to be the major source of conflict in the situation. I feel to close to really be of any help. If you guys could zap them with some light I would be gratefull.I will give the initials: JC needs some light to forgive, and to let go of anger and proper use of authority. AH needs some light for protection. M needs some light for protection.
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chandra
Knowflake Posts: 583
From: oregon
Registered: Jun 2001
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posted January 28, 2002 02:17 AM
Hi all,
For over a year, I had trouble with this boss I had. He was the most unkind person I knew. He laughed about people he had killed in Somolia (with his own hands). He knew I was an animal lover, so he would graphically describe how he killed animals around me. He used to say to me that he probably killed some of the friends of my friend from Somalia. I truely had contempt for him. We would fight alot.
To make matters worse, it seemed he followed me to every shift I changed to. He changed to the weekend shift right after me, and then the night shift when I changed to it. ahhhh!
But, one day, we were talking, and I just got tired of the bad feelings. I tried to look for something, anything, good in him. I just gave up on the fighting and didn't care anymore. I can't really explain it. But it had something to do with love on a universal level.
Well, things changed. We started to get along and didn't fight anymore.
I guess I just excepted who he is. It was very hard though, as he represents everything I hold contempt for in this world.
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chronicprincess
Knowflake Posts: 3080
From: Earth
Registered: May 2001
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posted January 28, 2002 12:14 PM
Chandra~ Thank you for sharing your story.... that is so cool! Especially since it happened that his shift changes *followed* you, it appears you had something to teach each other ... As you said, on a UniVersal level it does sound like he was screaming, "Accept me for who I am and love me anyway."
 YIVY~ YOu? Bossy? ~Princess ------------------
~We can try many ways to get rid of the darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.~ UnkNown IP: Logged |
OSheen
Knowflake Posts: 304
From: Toronto ON, CA
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted January 28, 2002 12:47 PM
Oh, Chandra, I cannot tell you how much your experience means to me and gives me hope that I can indirectly help I have been learning some rather unpleasent things about my boss and I am truly worried for him. The strange thing is I still Love him completely. I do not want him to change, although some of his behaviours need to be tamed so as not to hurt anyone else.
He is such a charismatic person and this is one of those situations where all of that positive energy is being lost on worldly things to the detriment of all of us. And I worry so much about the people that are being hurt by him, and I care so much for them too. And I do not like to CHOOSE sides, because both are hurting and I just want them both to see the other for who they really are .... but sometimes that seems like it will never happen .... but I cannot give up. Thank you guys.
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chandra
Knowflake Posts: 583
From: oregon
Registered: Jun 2001
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posted January 28, 2002 02:49 PM
Princess,
You know, I think that's what is was. I felt like he had some need for me to accept him as he was, and could always feel that what made him so angry was the contempt I had for him. Even though I never said it out loud, it was like he could feel it. As soon as I didn't feel it anymore, he immediately changed. Yes, I'm sure we did have something to teach each other, but I can't really put my finger on what it is. I just know it was important Osheen,
I'm so glad my post could help. It is so hard when you're stuck in the middle like that. For me, acceptance was very hard because my boss was hurting my friend also.
After he eased up on my friend (after my friend spoke his mind and told him how he felt), I think it took some of the pressure off, but it still took me some time.
I think that you already accept this person means alot. I think, in time, your acceptance will be the thing that will help everybody involved
Chandra
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YIVY
Knowflake Posts: 4747
From: Louisiana
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted January 29, 2002 12:31 AM
Chandra...what a wonderful example of your 'beliefs' in action Osheen....Sometimes all you can do is 'pray' for the situation. Then sit back and let the UNI-verse handle it. So here is some extra POWER for you... Calming BLUE LITE for JC
Strong YELLOW LITE for AH
Empowering PURPLE LITE for M  Princess...  ------------------
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YIVY
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Virgo Rising
Knowflake Posts: 968
From: Melb Fl
Registered: Sep 2001
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posted January 29, 2002 10:42 AM
I'll take some advice in this area, because frankly, I am failing the course!!! I get along great with the 'real bosses' but there is a guy who has an interest in the business and I am forced to work with him. I don't hate him personally but I absolutely despise him as a co-worker. Usually my Cancer patience pays off and these people delete themselves of their own accord. It has been over a year now and this idiot is still a thorn in my side. He is a stubborn case of immense charity on the part of my 'real bosses'. I do not share their charitable nature when it comes to working with an incompetent slob.....in my business it is of utmost importance to have a CLEAN environment and there is only a certain amount of extra cleaning that I am willing to do. Everyone under me is expected to act as a team (mostly teenagers and if THEY can learn to work in a CLEAN and organized fashion then I expect an adult can figure it out also).
As this guy has persisted in being a daily aggrivation, I am succumbing to the realization that I need a different attitude. However, I refuse to lower my work standards for ONE individual because I then either have to clean up after him or live down the embarrassment of a less than perfect Health Inspection at some point. (they print that **** in the newspaper  ). I am not kind to this person at work and it is well known that I have absolutely no respect for him  Witchy One....could you please turn him into a toad for me? I'll never ask for another favor...EVER! Seriously......I'll take anyone's advice. Signed: Desperate for Cleanliness
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YIVY
Knowflake Posts: 4747
From: Louisiana
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted January 30, 2002 12:43 AM
VR...from what you said about him, somebody beat me to it And just what is it with cancers gals. All of them that I know have this agreement with dirt. They walk in a room and dirt vanishes. I can spend all day cleaning my house, and my sister-in-law can go in and in 30 minutes have her's ten times better. ------------------
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YIVY
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Virgo Rising
Knowflake Posts: 968
From: Melb Fl
Registered: Sep 2001
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posted January 30, 2002 11:24 AM
I'm not anywhere NEAR that clean at home. I hate dusting so there's usually lots of that at my house. Work is a different story. The place has to be CLEAN for health reasons, safety reasons and so we can work efficiently (and so that the multi-thousand dollar equipment works properly....I didn't buy it but I treat it like its my own). Its also a matter of personal integrity to me since so many people know that I am responsible for the business. I really don't want the Pig's mess to reflect on me.  I take it PERSONALLY! My business is a team effort that reflects on everyone in it.IP: Logged |
chronicprincess
Knowflake Posts: 3080
From: Earth
Registered: May 2001
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posted January 30, 2002 11:51 AM
VR~ Have you sat Mr. Mess down and told him how you feel? Maybe he needs *direction* (?) like.... "The exit is over there."  Really tho... If you are not kind to him, and you make your feelings toward him known, he is probably feeling resentful, or vindictive, and probably continues to **** you off deliberately - just because he can. So you must find a way to ruin his fun  ~Princess ------------------
~We can try many ways to get rid of the darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.~ UnkNown IP: Logged |
Virgo Rising
Knowflake Posts: 968
From: Melb Fl
Registered: Sep 2001
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posted January 30, 2002 12:45 PM
The problem is that this guy is so stupid he is impenetrable.
Just to show you that I'm not completely unfair.......this guy is probably far,far ahead of me on the Path because he doesn't have a mean bone in his body. Always polite, care-free, generous,etc, etc. His soul is probably squeaky clean...unlike his habits. I think God is protecting him (note that I didn't use the feminine......SHE would understand how I feel about *clean*).
I have had a lot of time to think about how I react to this issue, but it keeps coming back to personal integrity in the workplace for me.IP: Logged |
chronicprincess
Knowflake Posts: 3080
From: Earth
Registered: May 2001
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posted January 30, 2002 12:51 PM
VR~ Ah! So it's God that is ****ing you off ! Maybe you need to have a little talk with Him? Now I wonder why he might have put this angel in your midst ! ? !  Is there something you are supposed to be learning here? ...just a thought ~Princess ------------------
~We can try many ways to get rid of the darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.~ UnkNown IP: Logged |
OSheen
Knowflake Posts: 304
From: Toronto ON, CA
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted January 30, 2002 02:10 PM
Virgo~~I am sorry you are having to go through this I do know that those who you find disgusting are often the ones who can cause you to love the deepest. There is this man at work that I had a real hard time getting to like ... he would cause me to go home in tears. Now, I do not know what happened, but I said to myself I was going to come to like him and now I look at him and I see how beautiful he is. I still have a hard time relating to him, but I do like him.
Thank you all so much. I am still so worried,but I just totally love my boss and I hope that everything works out for him. He is learning to Fly  Actually, he is not my boss anymore .... and I think he is learning so much about himself. I guess I just feel protective of him, but you know I have to 'let him go'. Man, I wonder if this is why I do not have any children?
You all helped me so much IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 16464
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted April 11, 2002 09:12 AM
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"It is never too late to become what you might have been." George Eliot IP: Logged |
Virgo Rising
Knowflake Posts: 968
From: Melb Fl
Registered: Sep 2001
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posted April 11, 2002 05:28 PM
Thanks for bringing this back up Randall  and reminding me that I haven't made any progress. I try REALLY HARD to have a change of attitude but end up annoyed on a daily basis. I just can't be left in close quarters with an Aries male...I'm always dousing their fire IP: Logged |
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