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Topic: Stay-at-home Dads!
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Randall
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From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted February 18, 2001 10:37 AM
 
There's a great article today on the MSN homepage. Apparently, there is a growing trend in large metropolitan cities of fathers staying home while mothers work. The "glass ceiling" that has existed for decades has been shattered! For those of you unfamiliar with labor laws, the glass ceiling is a hypothetical construct which symbolizes the inability of women to receive promotions to high-level positions in private industry. Women are being promoted to every level and at the same rate of pay in most companies. But isn't that the law? Sure! But company executives have always found legal loopholes to use to pay women less than men. The tide is turning, and women are pulling down huge salaries in today's marketplace. This is creating situations where their husbands are making considerably less. What is the logical thing to do? Have the father stay home! Such traditional role reversals are becoming more commonplace, and the fathers still freelance at home to bring in additional income. The fathers interviewed kept talking about how much of a challenge being a stay-at-home parent is. I can only imagine! Since it's true that babies DO bond with their fathers and DO NOT lose the bond with their mothers (even after spending significant amounts of time away from them, as in day care), I see this as very beneficial. Children are very lucky to have a parent stay at home (either parent), and I also see other benefits to this parent being the father. Children who feel close to their father have far less behavior problems in school. The boys make better grades and score higher on achievement tests, and the girls become more popular and socially adequate. In our quick-fix society of easy divorces, we often leave daddy out of the child-rearing equation. Often, this is for the best, since the father is not much of a dad anyway. But regardless of the why or how, children need a strong male role model. More male teachers at the K-2 grades can help (since many of the lower socio-economic class don't even know who their father is), but there will never be an adequately compensating replacement for a real dad who is loving, caring, listening, and nurturing.  ------------------
Consider the circle, measure it please,
All its three hundred and sixty degrees.
Wasn't that fun, and haven't you found
You can do it again, the other way 'round? Now that we know how many degrees,
Must be accounted for nice as you please
Here come astrologers, what do they say?
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YIVY
Knowflake Posts: 4747
From: Louisiana
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted February 19, 2001 01:06 AM
Do we 'chalk' it up to good sense or the Aquarian age finally balancing the sexes???  ------------------
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YIVY
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 21055
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 07, 2001 01:52 PM
I wanna be a Stay-at-home Dad! ------------------
Consider the circle, measure it please,
All its three hundred and sixty degrees.
Wasn't that fun, and haven't you found
You can do it again, the other way 'round? Now that we know how many degrees,
Must be accounted for nice as you please
Here come astrologers, what do they say?
Divide the degrees in precisely this way.
Take thirty degrees for each of the signs
It makes a nice wheel divided by lines. Chris Angelino IP: Logged |
YIVY
Knowflake Posts: 4747
From: Louisiana
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 07, 2001 08:28 PM
I think you need to rent some kids first...  I don't think just have a 'Gemimi' around counts, but it serves as good practice!Seriously, whenever you do settle down and have some 'little Randalls', I think you would be a wonderful Stay-At-Home-Dad. They would be pretty well mannered, clean and healthy, and always have something interesting to do or talk about...and would be proud of their 'big daddy' protecting them from this crazy world.   ------------------ @~>~~
YIVY
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 21055
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 07, 2001 08:48 PM
I'll buy each of them their own little soap box to stand on at school! hehehe  ------------------
Consider the circle, measure it please,
All its three hundred and sixty degrees.
Wasn't that fun, and haven't you found
You can do it again, the other way 'round? Now that we know how many degrees,
Must be accounted for nice as you please
Here come astrologers, what do they say?
Divide the degrees in precisely this way.
Take thirty degrees for each of the signs
It makes a nice wheel divided by lines. Chris Angelino IP: Logged |
gooberlily
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: Brooklyn, (and Norwich) NY, USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 07, 2001 09:53 PM
I agree with YIVY Randall, I'm sure you will make a splendid stay at home dad when the time comes  IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 21055
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted April 08, 2002 05:14 AM
To the top.------------------
"It is never too late to become what you might have been." George Eliot IP: Logged |
Morning Storm
Knowflake Posts: 1778
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: May 2001
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posted April 08, 2002 08:09 AM
You two are correct, Randall is absolutely wonderful with my children--even if he does allow Kassiana to have Chickens under the bed!    ------------------
To fall in Love, is to rise. . . .
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gooberlily
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From: Brooklyn, (and Norwich) NY, USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted April 09, 2002 02:24 AM
Sounds like fun to me!Speaking of birds, just cleaned out the bird cage tonight  The Society and Gouldian finches are having a great old time in their new digs...they're actually my dad's birds, but he's been a little lax with taking care of them, so I offered to help out. They all got a fresh-scrubbed huge cage, nests and perches, a new swing and cuttle bone...and they all got pedicures too Nails getting a little too long to sit on the perch right... IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Moderator Posts: 4532
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted May 09, 2004 03:54 PM
Thanks, Randall, for pointing me this way.I posted (dang near) this same topic in Global Unity... quote:
I have a theory. I'm interested in everyone's input, especially the men...
In the 1960s we experienced the sexual revolution of women. Women over the following couple of decades (some women taking more time than others) really began to explore and accept their own masculinity. In 1950 it was considered taboo to do "man things" for women. Today, there is really no barrier.I have been noticing a similar thing happening with men today. Just 15 years ago it would have been unheard of for a man to stay home with the children and the woman work. Today men are nurses, stay home dads, single dads, and I'm sure many other things I'm failing to think of at the moment. Men do laundry, dishes, vacuum. Maybe they'll clean bathrooms soon too!! (just poking some fun at the boys) It is still, in many circles, considered taboo for men to really embrace their femininity... but when I look at all of the evidence around me, I can't help but notice that this too is probably coming to a change. I think it's very exciting. I appreciate being able to witness the evolution of our species.
Men are capable of the same loving and nurturing as women. I have a friend who is a stay home dad, my dad and my brother in law both have full custody of their children. My brother in law in particular is very close with my niece. You would think HE had given birth to her. It's heart warming to witness. Kudos to all you loving men!
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sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3207
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted May 09, 2004 09:27 PM
Father's Day ought to be a bigger deal, IMO.
Randall, I hope you become a Dad soon,Take Care,
Natasha
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Solane Star
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From: Ont,Canada
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 16, 2004 12:13 PM
Hi Randall, My Husband is a stay at home dad,do to a back injury about 11 years ago and makes for a great house husband. He does a full range of house duties and outside maintenance also,he is also very mechanical inclined and can fix anything that has a motor. He used to work on cars,and in construction, but do to that back injury,it mades it hard on the back. He has owned 18 motor bikes, and has win a couple bike shows, but with it being so had to get rehired back into the work force these days. He gets a lot of,who whats to hire someone with a broken back? He has find a new love to go along with the house husband and sends alot of time with he's ATV's and others, keeping everyone up and running,having lots of fun time! They even built a 2 mile track behind the house, just for family and community to have some fun and to have a safe place for others to ride. They now also have their own website,which they call thems-elfs the Sylvan Mud Dogs. Having a hobbie that he loves really helps keep him balanced as a house husband,because he really needs to know that he's still producing and helping to make the world a better place! I know it may sound like I'm bragging a but, he truly is a Great Stay-at-Dad and I believe that this role switch has brought us closer as a family and many good and hard lessons along the way. I'm so proud of my Stay-at-Home Husband!
Thanks Randall!
Solane Star 
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Randall
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From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted May 19, 2004 01:21 PM
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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Special
Knowflake Posts: 421
From: Another timezone
Registered: May 2004
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posted June 21, 2004 11:53 AM
My dad got custody of me when I was 4/5 and admire him for his strength, juggling work, coming home from late shifts in the early hours and still cleaning my clothes, the house, etc. Brought up with the best lessons, and the best love So it breaks my heart when we fall out, specially round father's day  I hope he knows I love him very much, regardless ------------------
"Be humble for you are made of earth. Be noble for you are made of stars." Serbian proverb IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted June 22, 2004 01:38 PM
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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 780
From: Ont,Canada
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted April 14, 2005 03:47 PM
Well my husband isn't a stay-at-home Dad anymore. He got his first real job in 12 years and he sure is glad to pass on the apron. I guess we will be doing some roll switching again.  IP: Logged | |
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