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Topic: Unhappy in Job...then what?
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LMB
Moderator Posts: 653
From: Cooltown, USA
Registered: Dec 2000
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posted August 08, 2002 11:34 AM
 
I learned from my mother never to compromise mys-elf for my job. She hated her job all the years she worked there. She was miserable. Now I have a very good job. But I'm just so lonely. There is a clique of two people and I do solitary work and I'm just so miserable lately. I don't know what to do. I can't picture me getting another job b/c this one is so seemingly perfect for me... Intuition is telling me I need to make the best of it for a while longer but then something else will come up. I wish the magazine I worked on paid...
what do you all think - how hard is it to keep your personal life from entering your jobspace. Should it? Should it be seperate? Should you make friends at work or keep it professional?
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 16464
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted August 08, 2002 03:20 PM
What would work be without friends? For many, coworkers are like an extended family, and it should be this way. Over 60 percent of married couples met at work! I'm all for the mingling of personal and professional. Work would just be intolerable without it.  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
pearly
Knowflake Posts: 554
From: Neptune, Milky Way, Universe
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted August 10, 2002 07:45 PM
Hi LMB,  I agree with Randall. Work should definitely involve mingling and friendship. You know, work is a weird thing. (So is life, but that's another issue altogether!  ) What I have found is that doing what I love for FREE has actually given me the most fulfilled feeling at the end of the day. But unfortunately this is not feasible financially, so I do a bit of both. I do enjoy my paid work but not nearly as much as when I'm doing projects for the pure love and enjoyment of it. I do sound editing and design for music and film, but my real love is producing, writing and recording my own music.... so I do a bit of both and I get VERY tired, but I feel like eventually I will succeed in getting a good income solely from what I genuinely love. I do get $ here and there for doing back-up vocals or writing "hooks" on songs for people, and I love it and wish for it to eventually be my only work, but right now I still have to work for studios and sound companies. Your magazine sounds like something you loved. Maybe you should try to do it as well working your other job. All you will want to do is sleep, but you may be happier! ...and eventually it will be be the only thing you do! Just a thought  Pearly IP: Logged |
PurpleI
Knowflake Posts: 24
From: Nevada USA
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted August 10, 2002 07:54 PM
LMB and friendsSome people like Company from time to time
and then others like to be alone from time to time
It is not Important which category you fit into,but you know if you are unhappy and if Lifes becoming one DarkCloud to you
Change becomes essential Peaceful Dwelling
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LMB
Moderator Posts: 653
From: Cooltown, USA
Registered: Dec 2000
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posted August 11, 2002 12:46 AM
Thanks, everyone. I think I'm just the type of person who needs personal connection at my job. And since i work at an independent bookstore with a small staff, that's essential. Today I worked with my one friend and the day was just wonderful. My clinical depression seems to set me off at times so maybe my unhappiness at the job isn't the job's fault. I don't know..anyway, thanks for the support and feedback. onward! LMB IP: Logged |
eternal
Moderator Posts: 311
From: Coastal NC
Registered: Jan 2001
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posted August 13, 2002 02:24 AM
LMB wrote:
"what do you all think - how hard is it to keep your personal life from entering your jobspace. Should it? Should it be seperate? Should you make friends at work or keep it professional?"How hard? It can be very hard... well, hard period. Why? Because it goes against our nature of who we are as human beings. We simply are "personable" creatures. Our jobspace IS a PART of our personal life and vice versa. They aren't separate... we just "think" they are... therefore we make up these silly rules about keeping this or that "at home" and this or that "at work". Why "should" we do anything? Why "should" we have to be someone or something different at work than what we are outside of it? Why "should" we put on a certain type of persona for the jobspace, another for home and yet another for something else? Be who you are always - striving to be your authentic self. Since we are "personable" creatures, we desire all to be our friends naturally(for peace/harmony)... in and out of work. We wonder why "should" all these parts of ourselves be kept separate from each other. I mean, how "could" they be? Why "would" they be? They are all a part of you. Heck, we all know, deep down inside, that nothing is separate. So here come the "shoulda, coulda, woulda" questions I know many ask: - Should you make friends at work?
Well, whose permission do you need? Would it be so undesireable or unprofessional to do so? - Could you make friends at work?
Sure you could! But will you? - Would you make friends at work?
I bet you would.  Just my 2 cents
love to all
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