posted October 13, 2003 05:39 PM         

At the restaurant I have (was) working at, we got a new general manager on July 6. Now, for a background.. I have worked for this company 3 times, always left on good terms, I always raise sales, so on. At the time, my brother my aunt and my mother all work there.. we are good employees. I became management in about 3 weeks.

This new guy got his job because his best friend is VP of Operations for the corporation. There is no nice way to say it..he is the most useless manager I have ever seen. He lies, flaunts policy, plays favorites, has taken 180.00 from petty cash and not yet returned it, etc....

I am a Virgo.. and all that entails. I also have Mercury in Virgo...Scorp Asc..Mars in Taurus. I am opinionated, very intelligent, and not afraid to say whats on my mind. And my work performance is stellar. This man made me his whipping post.

His method of communication is screaming and bullying. Three times he has pulled back his fist at me, as if he is about to hit me. He is about 6 feet tall and weighs 400 pounds. The first real altercation we got into I left the store because I was honestly afraid he was going to hit me. I walked out on my shift, but he offered to let me keep my job the next day.

Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. I worked a double shift on a Saturday.. a busy day.. by myself, with no break no meal no chance to even go to the bathroom.. (i am a server/supervisor, by the way). He never even told me my relief had called in, left out the back door so as not to face me. Keep in mind he had worked a total of 22 hours that week SO FAR. He came back to the store at about 5pm.. I had been there since 8am, and I asked him what we were going to do. He screamed at me that it was my responsibility, he had to be back for Sun 3rd shift (its SAT AFT) and he wasnt coming back to help me.
Yeah.
That night I left at 7pm.. 11 hours. I had to be back the next morning.
Sunday am he fired me for leaving my shift early that Sat. (!!!!) and for other reasons that cannot be proven.. like I didnt do my work, etc. Trumped up charges. AND he told me that he can fire me just because he wants to.. WI is an at-will state...and that I know is true.

I have been a wreck over this. This person has a criminal record of 40 different things, including harassment, 6 evictions, shoplifting, workers comp fraud.. it goes on and on. I have tried to console myself with the idea that I need to forgive him, to move on, put it in my past. Turn the other cheek, as both Jesus and Linda advise us to.

I have tried to tell myself that Justice will prevail, that these things are corrected by the Universe..that if I release it, I am balancing the Karmic scales.

I am not entirely sure this is the lesson I am supposed to learn here. I wonder if I should get a lawyer, and stop this bully. I hate to say this about anyone, but his vibe is EVIL.....there is something off kilter in this guy, and my family still have to work with him. But is it worth it to pursue this in a legal fashion and be crushed by corporate lawyers?

HELP!!!!! If anyone has any advice, I would so appreciate it. I feel that if I cannot resolve this situation one way or the other, I am going to be stuck in this pattern, and this town, for even longer.. (the reason I took the job was to save money to move back to Colorado Springs and my twin soul who lives there still... another long story).

And hey, my Virgo nature almost demands that I work... I get too twitchy if I am unemployed.....

So, to any and all of you who slogged through my tale of woe.. thanks a hundredfold. If anyone can offer suggestions, or guidance, I will heep untold happy thoughts at your feet....

posted October 15, 2003 03:13 PM         

But today....OH!! He got fired. The manager has been fired. And altho I am trying to restrain my gloating, it really is a good thing. I may still proceed with a lawsuit, because it was wrongful termination, and thats what irks me. It wasn't motivated from revenge, because a claim against the corporation wouldn't have affected him...I really want the termination wiped off my record. But... Justice has prevailed!!! I love instant Karma!

posted October 15, 2003 05:18 PM         

Now, the general manager has a problem. A BIG one. He needs to go for anger management in a controlled environment called PRISON. He is threatening you and his tirades will end up severely hurting or killing someone.

He raised his fist at you on more than one occasion. I would hire a lawyer and sue him civily, not just on the basis on wrongful termination, but due to harrassment and constant threat of violence.

There is nothing about Karmic payback here. The guy is breaking the law and you have a right to protect yourself and a duty to protect others that may end up in your position. This would be the time to sue the guy or go to someone within the company to discuss the termination in your file.

One thing I have noticed about Virgos (I have many friends and exes that are Virgos), is that they want to see justice, but are apprehensive about bringing it about through their own means, unless really pushed. My ex and current best friend, used to really have a time with being authoritative as a manager. He wanted so much for everyone to be his best friend, but not everyone is going to be pleased or be anothers friend. He is much stronger now (I learned to be more patient and open-minded from him - I am a Sag).

Another Virgo friend of mine was wrongfully written up, but would not fight it. He wouldn't even fight the horrible evaluation he received, which was unfair. I had a similar incident, fought it and won, but you have to be willing to take on the big guy and not back down.

posted October 17, 2003 02:08 AM         

wonders, wonders.........

posted October 17, 2003 02:49 AM         

Dean.

posted February 04, 2004 12:24 AM         

I am not sure why not, either. Almost like I dont want to have to relive that terrible time. I still have about 2 months to decide. I don't understand why I feel this block inside me when I think of doing it, but the anger and bitterness have a way of eating me up. Luckily, I seem to be doing better in that aspect, thinking more positively...but as far as the tangible world goes, I am still unemployed and struggling.

Its got to change sometime, right?