posted July 20, 2013 02:45 AM            

Me for example. I don't go chasing relationship after relationship. But I might be guilty of finding problems or exaggerating/obsessing over things that I don't need to be. Which makes me less happy then I should be. To quote one of my favorite movies "i feel like I'm designed to be slightly dissatisfied with everything."

Today I trapped myself Into comparing my relationship with my friend's. He mentioned the two things his most grateful for I'm his relationship is their ability to evaluate how things are going / to communicate openly and honestly. Which transfers over to their sex life and "date nights."

These two things just happen to be my biggest concerns in my relationship. And could be whats keeping me from being happy and enthusiastic. Which I feel shameful for not feeling. I want a happy and infectious attitude that I can provide for my boyfriend.

But these things have me worried that we don't have the skills to sustain a healthy long term relationship. That I See my friend has (to whom I'm very happy for) and I know its not fair to my boyfriend to be making these kind of comparisons.

Anyone deal with this before. Any ideas how to change my self destructive thought patterns?

posted July 20, 2013 06:33 AM            

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Originally posted by eyes_like_pisces:
But I might be guilty of finding problems or exaggerating/obsessing over things that I don't need to be. Which makes me less happy then I should be."

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I thought I was the only one. I told my partner recently "I don't mean to pick fights over stupid stuff... I just don't know how to function in a good relationship"

Sadly, that is true.

From birth, I've learned nothing but dysfunction. This man is the best human I've ever known (besides my children) so I hope I don't mess it up.