Posts: 63
From: Phenix City, AL, USA
Registered: Aug 2002

posted September 18, 2002 11:52 PM         

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I've been getting feedback from my friends about something. Some say it's a good idea, others think I'm nuts. What do you guys think?

I've known this guy for 4 years. He lives in Lawrenceville GA. Recently we decided we should take our friendship to the next level and have started a romantic relationship. Thing is, we also thought that since we live so far apart (3 hours apart, actually) that if we wanted to see other people locally it was okay with each other. It would be selfish of us to not be this way since this is considered a long-distance relationship. Are we crazy, or do you guys agree with us?

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From: Missouri
Registered: May 2001

posted September 19, 2002 12:09 AM         

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Don't get boggled down in what other's say. They may or may not be right .... for them.

What the two of you have done is given yoursElf to step up the intimacy of your relationship without diving into the commitment-aspect. This is a perfectly healthy way to explore a new kind of relationship with a tried friend.

Now, a legitimate concern is differing expectations. Just keep the communications open and truly honest. If he goes out with another gal and it sticks you sharply with jealous ... talk it over with him and expect him to do the same.

You've put yoursElfs in a situation of truth ... so be truthful to each other And good luck!!!! (GOD, I love this yoyo.)

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From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000

posted September 19, 2002 12:43 PM         

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Whatever feels right for you is totally okay. It doesn't matter what others think.

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From: Mississippi
Registered: May 2001

posted September 19, 2002 05:38 PM         

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Zauberin, I hope that we are all crazy. Because if this is sanity(life) I'm scared.

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From: Boca Raton, FL USA
Registered: Sep 2002

posted September 19, 2002 07:03 PM         

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YEs, you two could do it. but like someone said, be honest with each other about everything. And mention it if you begin to feel different about it, and let him know to do the same. That way if things begin to change, you can either save your friendship and remain friends, or take it to the level of commitment. Just curious? What are the both of yours' signs?

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From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000

posted December 26, 2002 11:44 PM         

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