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Topic: Y do we feel like this?
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faru15
Knowflake Posts: 2
From: India
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted March 13, 2003 11:30 PM
 
Even after a breakup why do i feel desperate to meet him or talk to him?What can i do to overcome this urge?and he sounds careless towards me.IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 25287
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 14, 2003 04:14 AM
Welcome!  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
RubyRedRam
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posted March 14, 2003 06:56 AM
I'm afraid it is something alot of us go through and is a big learning curve.One thing I remember is when I finally got over him and didn't need him anymore, he poped back again all interested. Sometimes that is what draws us to a person even if they are no good for us. If they are being arrogant and cool then we seem to want them and if they are overbearing and wanting us then we don't need them or they are too much for us. It's a vicious circle. Do I meake sense? I think what you need to do is affirm to yourself how important YOU are and that you deserve the very best. Take what you have learned from this relationship and move on. Love yourself, treat yourself to something nice. Take stock of what is important to you and decide on where you want to go next. I know it's hard but once you have learned to live for yourself and love yourself you won't settle for something or someone who is not good for you and he will not matter anymore. If you want to talk about it some more, I am here  I really do understand. 
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sweetpeas
Knowflake Posts: 924
From: Plainfield, IN
Registered: Sep 2001
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posted March 14, 2003 07:49 AM
Welcome to Lindaland, Faru15!  What RubyRedRam said!  ------------------
You cannot simultaneously prevent and prepare for war. Albert Einstein IP: Logged |
Mercy
Knowflake Posts: 616
From: Of Elvenkind
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 14, 2003 08:45 AM
Hiya dear Faru (and welcome of course),You know what I think, I think we meet up with exactly the right charachteristics in others we need to learn from. So we meet who we are nothing more, nothing less. The more whole you become the more you can let go and love unconditional. It has really been like that for me as well. Let go of the things you want most and it will come to you like an automatic. Plus loving someone unconditional is such a revelation. It brings only joy and freedom to your life.
Loving the other despite all (unconditional) seems to be an opportunity we all get all the time. Take this change and love him for who he is at this moment. Don't be bothered by why he does things and what you would like him to do etc. Send him your heart and your love. All will be alright I am sure! You'll notice as soon as you let go (and let God  )you will feel much better. You will still wish him with you or talk to him or whatever but you are in a place of freedom and no limits. You are LOVE sóóóó, babe! Hope I made sense.
 lot's of love to you and like Ruby I am here for you too when you need to talk!
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