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posted December 22, 2003 08:54 PM         

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Why does it seem that every time I try to throw a party, no one shows up? I e-mailed invites out to college-aged people I knew, and no one answered or even came, except wrote to tell me they couldn't make it. Wh ydo I repel people? Is it some kind of vibe I give out? Am I am doomed to be a frickin' recluse all my life? I've been told by people around me that it's so much better to call and invite people places, but I'm so not a phone person. I hate the coldness of the telephone, and then when I haved called in the past to invite, I felt twice as bad when people had other plans, or simply no-showed....I hate being completely alone, with no one who cares about me in the flesh. I don't know what I am doing wrong...so how can I make it right? I sit here, with a sparkling clean house and plenty of food and drink, yet no one to share it with . Why does it bother me so? Why do I care if no one loves me? Must be that sensitive Leo heart, feeling cut off from civilization....as the tears drizzle down my face.

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posted December 22, 2003 09:25 PM         

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You are Not alone! The people who are not showing up are Not representative of your Value as a Human being .. your Value as a person, nor is your assessment of being alone correct. Your Value is never measured by other people and how they do or don't respond to you. Your Value is how YOU see you, not how others will never fail to underappreciate you. If it were me, I might do something a little less "big" .. like a dinner party, something more intimate. Or am I showing my age? Just a suggestion

(PS Leo heart? Are you not a Virgo?)

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posted December 22, 2003 10:10 PM         

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Hey Virgo-AriesArtist,are you a guy or a girl?

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posted December 22, 2003 10:30 PM         

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Kat, I`d walk all the way downstate to attend one of your parties . Metoo is right, your value is above what others may see. The you -of - you is a very precious soul indeed.

They may not be comming to your party this time, but I know they will be reading in Time magazine about the famous artist they wish they had taken the time to know. Their loss VAA, not yours!!!!!. It`s up to you if you invite them when you`re wealthy, famous and winning awards

Do k-now we you and you`re a bright and shining star!

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posted December 22, 2003 11:00 PM         

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Maybe your looking for something within the wrong people.You should try to start looking for people that hold the same interests as yourself. Your worth it VAA!

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posted December 22, 2003 11:25 PM         

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I'm so sorry hun, I know just how you feel.

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posted December 22, 2003 11:52 PM         

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Ah, society. Maybe Mercury was retrograde as I discovered from Star Notes recently that many forms of communication are delayed or not recieved - ie. did everyone have plenty of notice? Even if they did, this is a busy time and they could've had other plans before hand. I agree they should notify you, but some people are like that. I used to question why I didn't seek popularity, or more correctly, why I wasn't popular and didn't care, although I always wanted the option of parties etc. However, I realised that I am just a loner, and if I don't go to other peoples parties, then I wouldn't expect them to come to mine. I don't know if you relate, but I do believe life is WAY more important than society. I explain the ends as lessons needed. Maybe life itself is one big lesson, in any case, my heart goes out to you

Walk in peace,
Dean.

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posted December 23, 2003 12:05 AM         

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Thanks so much for the support, you guys. I really appreciate it, especially now.
And ya know, metoo, I would prefer something more "intimate" like a dinner party, sicne I've always been into that sort of elegant entertaining, unlike my peers (I'm just 18)as long as I can remember. I'm the kind of person who enjoys pampering my guests, with high-quality food and, comforts like blazing fragrant fires in the fireplace, creating a relaxed and familiar setting. but this doesn't go over well, unless I'm entertaining my older relatives who actually appreciate the trouble I go to. Oh, and the "Leo heart" I referred to: my natal Leo moon and venus.
BTW, ozonefiller, I am a girl.
And juni, sweet juni, your words mean so much, I'm not sure I can ever express it enough. I k-now I will never snub them, even if they've treated me like dirt, because deep inside, I've always seen through them, into the scared lost souls they all are, the band crowd at least, clinging to each other, not out of geniune affectionate emotion and conern, but because it is convenient and makes each of them feel less "alone". So in a way, I understand them, and pity them, but will never intentionally do the same thing to them they've done to me...I'm too Virgo-Aries openhearted and dedicated to taking care of the ones who need trust and unconditional forgiveness, even if it is one-sided at the moment. And yet, at the same time, I am looking forward to being in that place, and haiving that power and authority. Hearing I'm loved always gives me a good feeling, friend.
And you're right, ozonefiller, I maybe be looking in the wrong places, with the wrong people, which would explain my obstacles.
Thanks for the empathy, purplezen...

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We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted December 23, 2003 12:11 AM         

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Hey, I know what you mean. People do the same exact thing to me. I guess they are not worthy of cool, intelligent people like us. I sit in my room alone most of the time, and yea I hate the telephone it freaks me out! But hey, I'd totally go to one of ur parties

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posted December 23, 2003 01:06 AM         

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I'd go to your party anytime! (There is food, right? ) Just kidding; I'd go even if there was no food at all.

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posted December 23, 2003 01:16 AM         

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California Dorkus? Did you get any shakes your way today?

You'll be fine VAA,so your jamming on the drums hey(I looked at your web-site)? I'm sorry I don't reconize the music artist,I'm into things like Pink Floyd,Led Zeppelin,Rush and such. You shouldn't let some stupid college bozo get near your artwork either,he would probabily stumble and fall on it and then spill beer all over the place!Believe me,I know!

Ah,memories!

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posted December 23, 2003 10:09 AM         

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VAA...I would have come to your party, and brought you some of my famous to-swoon-for bleu cheese dip! You're too young for the rum balls.

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posted December 23, 2003 10:09 AM         

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Hey, nice to know the Knowflakes would come on down to a good party.... Yes, Randall, there would be plenty of food, though I know most guys not into food, right? , especially earth signs, like the Taurus and Cappy males I know.
ozonefiller, I'm intrigued that you checked out my webpage (it is a bit old as it hasn't been updated in almost a year), but neat to know there are fellow music appreciators out there....yeah drum sets! As a general rule, I hate the smell, taste and reactions of beer, and I plan to never serve it at my parties, well, maybe in a few years, but never in an area of the house I cared about, as I would like to avoid the consequences you mentioned....

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As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted December 23, 2003 10:14 AM         

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Thanks trill...I bet I'd enjoy that! You should bring it with you if we ever have another LL convention I know I'll bring my favorite chocolate swirl cheescake with rasberry topping along with melted creamy Brie cheese and crusty french bread....yumm yumm

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posted December 23, 2003 10:43 AM         

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Yum yum I love cheesecake. Share the recipe?

juniperb

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posted December 23, 2003 10:57 AM         

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hi VAA,

i was a loner all throughout college. there is nothing wrong or right about this, it was just so. i too, felt sad and lonely for not having many friends who were on a similar wavelength when it came to electic intellectual pursuits, and lifestyles.

when the right people come along, you'll just know sweetie

stay strong and keep focused with school. remember that nothing lasts forever except love.

aphrodite

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posted December 23, 2003 08:06 PM         

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Amy, what wise Aries lady advice! I will do my best to stay strong and realize the "right people" haven't come along quite yet, or at least I'm still deciding what that concept means to me. And you are so right, about nothing lasting forever but love. I am holding onto my focus, in valiant, yet hopeful pursuit.
Oh, and juni, I'll be sure to send that cheesecake recipe along...is your LL e-mail address ok?

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posted December 23, 2003 08:24 PM         

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Perfect, I await the recipe!!!

juniperb

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