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lioneye68
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posted December 31, 2003 01:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
Recently, about a week before Christmas, a friend of mine from the past had her 13 year old son involved in a very serious car crash in which 4 of the 6 teens in the car died at the scene. Her boy, Gavin is one of the two kids to survive it, but he's very critically injured. He suffered severe head injuries and has already undergone 2 or 3 surgeries. The other day, his lungs failed, so he's breathing with a resporator. He hasn't regained consciousness since the accident.
Please muster up a gust of sincere prayer for him, and see if we can't help him pull through this, for his poor Cancer mother's sake just as much as his own.

Thanks, guys.

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pixelpixie
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posted December 31, 2003 01:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Oh my..... These situations are horrific. My sympathy and extreme compassion for her son and herself.

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posted December 31, 2003 02:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rainbow~     Edit/Delete Message
Add my prayers and white light too....this is sooo very sad....

Love,
Rainbow

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Twin Lady
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posted December 31, 2003 07:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twin Lady     Edit/Delete Message
Heartfelt prayers sent for Gavin's full recovery and his family's strength to help him through. PLEASE, keep us posted.

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posted December 31, 2003 09:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message

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posted December 31, 2003 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message

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posted December 31, 2003 01:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message
May the S embrace the families. White lite ,love and prayers sent.

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Harpyr
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posted December 31, 2003 03:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Harpyr     Edit/Delete Message
May Gavin be testament to the extraordinary resilience and healing capacity of the human mind, body and soul.

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trillian
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posted December 31, 2003 07:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message
Please keep us posted on Gavin's progress.


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lioneye68
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posted December 31, 2003 09:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
thanks everyone.

They took him off of the respirator yesterday because he seemed to be making progress with his breathing, but his lungs couldn't handle it so they put him back on it. He still hasn't regained consciousness.

His mom is actually doing adequately, considering. Keep sending prayers for him, please. I'd love to see a miracle.

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proxieme
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I'll pray for him.

How go things now?

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lioneye68
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posted January 03, 2004 09:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
Haven't talked to her yet. So hard thinking of things to say. I've actually been getting updates from a mutual friend. Such a coward I am. It's just too sad

I'm planning on calling her at the hospital on Monday, when I go back to work...if I can think of anything useful to say that is. Any suggestions? How do you address the subject of someone quite possibly losing their 13 year old son, especially a Cancer mother who is too protective of him as it is? What the heck do you say?

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proxieme
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posted January 03, 2004 10:32 PM           Edit/Delete Message
I'm at a loss on this one.

I'd probably say something like, "I can't begin to fathom what you're going through - I'd be completely devastated if something like this happened to my daughter. I know you're in tremendous pain right now, and that there's nothing that anyone can really do to take that away. But - if you want someone to talk to or to cry to - I'm here; just let me know, and I'll be there for you."

But, then, my kiddo's not even born yet, so that's just a shot in the dark.

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lioneye68
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posted January 04, 2004 03:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
By golly, that's exactly how I feel. Maybe I should just say what I feel.

I'm just afraid to say something "insensitive" and hurt her feelings, ya know? Like, "I'm just so gratefull that my child is ok", which is true, but equates to "better you than me". I'll certainly avoid saying that, but what if I blab out something else just as insensitive?

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proxieme
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posted January 04, 2004 11:27 AM           Edit/Delete Message
Yep, saying what you feel is probably for the best - I'll bet that she'll really appreciate the genuine feeling...and if you do slip up and say something that cuts (and I know where you're coming from - yay, Aqua Moon-foot-in-mouth Disease) on one hand she'll probably understand (although there will be an awkward moment or two), and you'll be able to continue past.

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posted January 04, 2004 12:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Harpyr     Edit/Delete Message
I think saying what you genuinely feel is good. My other advice would be to avoid saying "I'm sorry..." When my son's father died I heard so many people say that to me it started to sound absurd to me. I mean, I understood that people were trying to convey their sympathy.
It's just that that particular phrase, which is so common, seemed absurd. What are they sorry for? That it happened? They couldn't have done anything to prevent it. Sometimes the phrase goes, "I'm sorry to hear about your loss." What does that mean? That if they hadn't heard about it it wouldn't exist? Of course not..it's just one of those common phrases whose literal meaning doesn't apply..it's just a figure of speech people use when something bad has happened. I think it's best to avoid it and speak in a plainer, truer, from the heart manner. "Please know that you have my deepest sympathies. If there is anything I can do to help you through this dark time, please know that I am here for you."
It's especially hard to know what to say when her son's state is so uncertain. Head wounds are difficult. On one hand you hear stories about miracle recoveries that no doctors expected and it gives a dangerous sense of hope. Then on the other hand, the brain is such a complex, delicate and integral part of a person that the doctors are probably telling her all sorts of hopeless sounding stuff. It was a head wound that claimed my partner's life a year and a half ago.
I found comfort in knowing that everything happens for a reason and that the immortal part of my beloved's soul chose that time and place to die for specific purposes- purposes that seemed rather unfathomable at the time but became clearer as time went on. I don't know if that's how your friend is feeling, lioneye.. it's different when it's a child instead of an adult who lived a full life. Honestly I can't imagine how I would go on were I to lose my son. I imagine I would feel quite bitter towards the world and the divine. Nevertheless, I would try to imagine what my son would want me to do- mourn, survive, remember, and find happiness again.
This too shall pass..

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trillian
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posted January 04, 2004 05:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message
With all due respect to Harpyr, , I find nothing wrong with the words "I'm sorry." They're just a universal way of acknowledging empathy for pain. I've lost everyone in my family except my sis, and I never once minded hearing those words.

lioneye, also, the words "How can I help you?" might allow her to speak. I've read so many of your posts, you will know what to say, and when to say it. Of this I have no doubt.

Is she in close proximity? Can you offer to do anything for her, bring her food, walk her dog, do a load of laundry, anything like that? Small gestures, including the ability to be an objective listener, can be a great gift.




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SunChild
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posted January 04, 2004 06:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunChild     Edit/Delete Message
I will think of him in my prayers.
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lioneye68
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posted January 05, 2004 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
I've sent my friend the link to this site, so she may be browsing here soon.

If you're here, my buddy, HI! *waves*

Sorry, guess I should clarify, it's my Aqua sun/Leo moon friend who I sent the link to, not Gavin's mom, the Cancer. Although it's possible that she could come here too. eventually. Aqua/Leo knows her as well. That's the mutual freind I referred to.

Keep the prayers and white light flowing, if you would please.

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lioneye68
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posted January 07, 2004 02:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
To da top

Don't want Gavin to be forgotten. There's still hope!

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posted January 07, 2004 02:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message

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lioneye68
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posted January 12, 2004 06:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
Amazing News!

Gavin has woken up!

He's been taken off of all machines and his body is functioning on it's own now. He seems to be improving in leaps and bounds every day!!!

He's not communicating yet, and isnt' very alert, but he's out of the danger zone now!!!

I don't know if it was the Linda-Land prayers that made the difference or not, but thank you everyone, those of you who did take a moment to send him healing vibrations....

You guys are the greatest!

HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY

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