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Topic: I have a relationship question...
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redgoddess
Knowflake Posts: 15
From: california
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 22, 2004 06:02 PM
 
I hope this isn't a boring post, but I need some help...I'm 22 right now and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. Throughout the three years we have gone through many trials and tribulations...more so than the "average young" couple, I would say. I won't bore you with the details! Anyway, lately I've been feeling like we're together more for the sake of being together than real appreciation for each other and I don't think that's fair to either of us. But when I told him how I was feeling, he said that I'm the only woman for him and I'm just confused. The point is this: I am aware of immortality-I don't settle for the conventions of society because if you're planning on living past the "normal" lifespan, then being 22 is like still being an infant! There is so much to learn and understand and I don't feel like settling down with him or anyone. I guess the point of my question is I feel like at this point I'm leading him on-he's thinking marriage and I'm thinking LIFE in general. I love him, but don't want to lead him on. I have told him this, but he kind of laughs it off. Personally I think he might be afraid to really speak his mind because I am very domineering and have a quick tongue, which is another problem in itself. I hope I can get some insight on this-all my friends just tell me to stick it out because they have conventional notions and most of them feel it's time to "settle down."
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sesame
Moderator Posts: 1587
From: Oz
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted November 22, 2004 08:05 PM
Hmmm, tough one. I'd say if you're thinking of out, maybe you should go. You shouldn't stick around with half a heart as it will end in worse disaster. Maybe you sense you need freedom and will not really understand what you're feeling unless you leave. I really son't want to tell you to leave, but these are just my opinions.Best of Luck,
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Sheaa Olein
Knowflake Posts: 2864
From: London
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted November 23, 2004 06:47 AM
Hello redgoddess, I agree with Dean. I had a similar situation to you when I was 24, and I decided to break up with someone I'd been with for two and half years. It was so very difficult because I had this inner sense which pulled at me to move on and the circumstances kind of forced the change. I decided that even though I loved him, I wasn't in-love and I had to do it. I had to or it wouldn't be fair. I did and it was an awful break up, and I was made to feel so very guilty. However, it was the best decision because I was very honest and listened to my heart. I mean I really did - and whilst listening to my heart it broke into many pieces! However, I made a whole new life and it opened up posibilities I would only of dreamt of. It's on you girl, I wish you strength with your decision 
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