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Topic: A Conundrum
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proxieme
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posted April 19, 2005 11:02 PM
I have no idea what to do.I'm having major, Pisces "Bad Feelings" about going out to Kansas at the end of May to be the Matron of Honor for the wedding of a friend that I've had since the first grade.
I don't know why I'm having these bad feelings, I just am - and they're centering around Meg.
AND I don't know if this is just Mommy-Worry or legit. (My husband, being an Aquarius Sun and no help at all has said, "I don't know *why* you're having this 'bad feeling'! There's no *reason* for this 'bad feeling'!"
"Yes, honey, I know - there is no "Why"- it's just a bad feeling.") Anyone have some insight? IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 19, 2005 11:23 PM
Are you bringing her or leaving her behind, with daddy?
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fayte.m
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posted April 19, 2005 11:55 PM
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pixelpixie
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posted April 20, 2005 01:13 AM
.................
So.....
anyway.
Give it some more thought Prox, and get back here to chat.
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monad
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posted April 20, 2005 05:16 AM
"No ! dont go to Kansas" LoLIP: Logged |
trillian
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posted April 20, 2005 09:01 AM
Listen to yourself.
Trust your Pisces self. Pisces, especially those who are in tune with themselves, are often very right when it comes to their feelings. You know how right you have been on many occassions, Prox. That being said, perhaps there is a way for you to neutralize whatever 'bad' might be waiting. What are your alternatives?  IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted April 20, 2005 01:21 PM
pixelp & trillian - Dad's going up to VA to sell his Bug that weekend; I've thought about getting her to truck her up, too, but the downsides are
* He'll be working on his Bug; all of the Grandparents still work and may not be able to watch her.
* I'm a big hippie and am still breastfeeding. It's only a few times a day now, but we're still not ready to wean.I've thought about trying to cut the visit as short as possible, but there's only so much shaving that can be done - I am the Matron of Honor, after all. I could shell out extra $$ and stay at a hotel/motel - there's bound to be some very cheap ones in rural Kansas.
There's then the downside of staying in a very cheap hotel in rural Kansas, though; that, and that any expense'll hit us where it hurts.
We're not pulling in too terribly much income. The main problem is here that I don't know whether this is a legitimate "fear" or just my inner Mama Bear acting up. I'll meditate some on it. fayte.m - Thank you. I'll look into that  IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted April 20, 2005 01:38 PM
You're welcome! I just know it works! Like when the date of 9-1-1 is written out and done, all kinds of things about that day appear, but not for the previous or next day. It is strange, but there is something about it that works, more often than not. I hope you find a solution or answer to your problem.
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pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 20, 2005 02:51 PM
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* I'm a big hippie and am still breastfeeding. It's only a few times a day now, but we're still not ready to wean
No judgement here, we still breastfed (both my kids) until they were two. 
OVER two. *ssshhhhh*
People ae weird.. it isn't like it is all the time, they are still babies, it is comfort, blah blah blah, you know what I'm saying 
I hate when people sexualize something that is so totally natural.... they just don't know.
So, I am a big hippy too.
When I said that, whether she will come with you, I kind of thougt you might still be, but I didn't know for sure, so one has to ask.
I wish I had some definate thing to tell you on this... Trust your feelings, maybe as the time draws nearer, you can actually see the reason for the feeling.....IP: Logged |
maya-v
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posted April 20, 2005 03:04 PM
I tried ... in fact it makes me guilty that I only breastfed for six months. It not only increases immunity but also soothes fussy babies. I hate it when people ostracise such a beautifully natural bond because they are uncomfortable with it. My reason (if anything justifies it) was that he was not gaining weight and I was frantic - so I switched to formula, against my wishes. Well, his weight went up and I ended up feeling like the worst mom ever.
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pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 20, 2005 03:16 PM
Oh, don't be so poo-ey.Are you kidding?
You WERE doing what was best for your baby!!!!
How does that make you the worst mom ever????
Because you cared about your child enough to get to the bottom of why he wasn't thriving, so you worked your ass off to correct the problem? Even if it meant cutting short the thing you would've liked to have shared for a smidgeon more?
You sacrificed, but you were able to provide what you were supposed to.. someone flexible enough to ride the parenting ferris wheel to the highest heights.. and the potentially scariest falls.(to your own esteem)
Don't ever let anyone bully you. (Including yourself, you big bull )
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maya-v
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posted April 20, 2005 03:41 PM
Pixie - that does it!!!Get your cute butt here!!! Hugs???? Kisses??? How abt a HUGE BULL BEAR HUG??? You ARE the sweetest thing ever ... after chocolate of course IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 5301
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 20, 2005 03:46 PM
Of course...
You see, I have had my chocolate today.
Refills later.
I know I have been seemingly good lately, on my sugar addiction, but I figure, when your menses come, the rules are not on the table.
Like a get out of fat-jail free card.
If only my hips would listen.
sht, here comes the guilt. IP: Logged |
maya-v
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posted April 20, 2005 03:47 PM
That is the Pluto bane ... the curse or punishment for being so sensual, intense, pleasure seeking ... hey wait a min, that sounds like bulls!I always end up confusing those two! IP: Logged |
trillian
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From: The Boundless
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted April 20, 2005 07:52 PM
How are you feeling about all this, Prox?Now, since you mentioned the expense of staying at a hotel in your list of alternatives---is the danger you are feeling centered around staying with your friend or with whomever you had made arrangements? If that's the case, and there's no way to not go and take Meg along, then spend the money. I know money is tight, but you can and will create enough for your needs, and then some. So stay somewhere decent that seems safe to you. Try a little quiet meditation and see if you can get a handle more specifically on where the danger lies. Much light to you, dear lady.
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Philbird
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Registered: Jun 2004
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posted April 20, 2005 08:25 PM
* I'm a big hippie and am still breastfeeding. It's only a few times a day now, but we're still not ready to wean.Don't even play down the mommy issues! When Jay was around that age, I had terrible fears of his death, I was panik stricken! For no reason! I realized I wasn't ready to accept the fact he would soon be exposed to "the world." You know, crawling, walking...college...Mostly my fears about the world, not his. The instinct to protect your child from real or imagined harm, shouldn't be looked upon lightly. I'd try to take her with you, it might make you less fearful.  IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted April 25, 2005 05:52 PM
Hey ya'll - I was just talking to my Mom (a fellow Pisces Princess) about some family news (more info on that in another thread), and I said, "Well, that clinches it, then.
I'm coming up to see the family and not going to Kansas. I mean, this may sound weird, but I had a really bad feeling about going out there anyway, just a bad feeling..."
"Yeah, I didn't feel good about you going out there, either. I just really didn't," she said with some relief.
"I just, I mean - it just doesn't feel right."
"Exactly." So we're not going up. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 25, 2005 06:20 PM
Yeah.. now you know.
Go spend some time with your family.
My mom went to Cuba the last few weeks.. she was a wonderful time, but I couldn't believe how much I missed her.
I have been going through my trials without someone to champion me or put me down in the only way she knows.... My mama. I'm seeing her tonight.
She has pressies!!!
She asked what I wanted, and I said instead of a souveneir T-shirt, how about an authentic cultural outfit.. that way, it is a conversation piece.. rather than.. oh, your shirt says "Cuba", Rather.. Oh, I love your shirt!
Oh, It's from Cuba!Just kinda' occurred to me that US and Cuban relations aren't good.
Well Okay.. petend I said um.. Bermuda.
I'm Canadian, as is my mama. Oh Proxie.... Go give your mama a big hug. IP: Logged |
trillian
Knowflake Posts: 4050
From: The Boundless
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted April 25, 2005 06:56 PM
Proxie...you were right. I'm glad you can go visit your Grandmother, it will mean a lot to her and give her strength. Never doubt your Pisces self.  Pixie ...glad your Mom is back to be with you. It's the U.S. government that has issues with Cuba, not necessarily its citizens. IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
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From: Stafford, VA USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted April 26, 2005 09:04 AM
Hey Proxie, Bring my Mama up to me on your way. I have not seen her for 2 years. I really need to get to Southern Bama. IP: Logged |
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