posted May 01, 2005 07:31 PM         

Today when I went to pick him up, she started bitching and complaining about how I'm not doing a good job at raising my son and how he looked really bad yesterday and that people are starting to notice and if I keep it up, someones gonna take him away from me. Then she tells me I'm not the only single parent in the world and there is no excuse for what I'm doing and that my son comes first.
Then she says, I know you like to "get mad" when people tell you stuff so go ahead and get mad, but give me some feed back.
I couldn't even look at her.

posted May 01, 2005 07:48 PM         

Ive never been in your situation so I can only imagine how hard it is for you but I wouldnt use her again - life's hard enough without all that toxic negativty ruining your self-esteem. I hope you can find another (nicer) babysitter soon.

posted May 01, 2005 08:00 PM         

Thanks very much for your blessings. Yes is hard, but I LOVE my son and he always comes first.
I'm looking for Medical secretary work, so far I have my account set up with hot jobs and monster. Did you try those.

posted May 01, 2005 11:11 PM         

Honey, you don't want to leave your child with a woman who says things like that to people. Does she criticize the children like that? Not only that, but you don't want her influencing your child with negative talk about you in his presence.

You should probably check around into other options for childcare while searching for a job. Doesn't sound like this woman is fit to care for children.

My kids wear the same pants more than once a week without washing. Who gives a ****?! They each always have 2 pair of jeans. They have other pants and skirts and things too, but only 2 pair of jeans. If they want to wear their jeans before the wash is done, (well... firstly, their welcome to ask how to use the washer but...) they can wear them again dirty as long as they don't look dirty. Why should my husband and I make more work for ourselves? Actually... come to think of it... I wear the same bottoms more than once before washing all the time.

posted May 02, 2005 05:11 PM         

I'm just sorry you had to deal with a nasty person like this. Then again, perhaps she was having a bad day. Still, it sounds like you'd definetely be better off without her-I recommend living a more peaceful life!

Unfortunately, shallow, bitchey individuals are everywhere around us. Nevermind. They've just got a lot of evolving to do, that's all!

posted May 04, 2005 01:33 AM         

I think you should talk to her, dont let her think your afraid. who is going to take your child for putting a old shirt on...cmon. even Amy the judge wouldnt take a kid away for that!!!

just explain to her what the situation was, and if she thinks that you should find another babysitter, then she should tell you and not scream at you in front of your boy, he might come back and get her like NORMAN did.....

but seriously communication is the best source (here I am talking about communication and I lost my head with a ex lover today...geez). let her know you heard her, but you wont take that crap.

I bet she needs your money more than you need her. further more it could be enraged passionate love for you child. sometimes babysitters bond with the child as if its theirs too, and they are a worried mom, just like you.

Remember Marcia...LOVE Conquers all. so show some love to her.

Plus, if you trust her, if she is a good babysitter, how do you know you can find someone that May (if she does have immense love for your son) treat him with love.

its such a evil place out there....thats why i am happy i am a massage therapist, make my own hours and watch my princess in the day

be strong My Main Lady. LOVE, LOVE LOVE...LOVE LOVE LOVE. la la la la la.....all you need is love la la la

posted May 04, 2005 02:02 AM         

That's stupid, if you washed your clothes each time you wore them ( depending on the clothes) they would fade and look like crap anyway.. is he rolling in mud puddles?
I mean, I am a clean person, but how much grime does one encounter during an average day.. it's not like your son's a farmer.
What about her dry cleaning? She dry cleans her dry-clean-only blouse the minute she wears it? I guarantee she doesn't. She needs to find something worth complaining about and show some compassion.
Hopefully she was having a bad day, and will accept that it reasonably ****** you off to be judged, and you can work it out.

I agree with everything everyone said.
I was thinking about this logically the other day.. expenses etc.. If I were on my own with my kids, laundry would be Hell...

posted May 04, 2005 09:32 AM         

Can I just ask…what is she like with your son? If she’s a good baby sitter then maybe you should first talk to her. Although if you wanted to get rid of her you’d have every right to. She’s definitely a b****. I would have gotten rid of her there and then - but I have a short temper

And what is up with “I know you like to get mad when people tell you stuff so go ahead” wtf lol I thought you employed her? She so needs to get over herself

I think you should talk to her. If she keeps giving you that bitter attitude you need to dump her and find a new babysitter.

posted May 05, 2005 08:07 PM         

Were the two of you friends before she started babysitting for you? Because if you weren't/aren't (outside of the scope of her employment WITH YOU) then she has no right to say anything at all. If she is/was a friend, maybe she has some concerns, but if that's the case, she really needed to be more tactful.

I'm having a hard time figuring out if she really has both your best interests in mind and a bad way of expressing that, or if she's simply sticking her nose in where it doesn't belong.

Have you talked to her yet? Let us know how it goes.