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Topic: Question...true love..what is it to you?
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leo_on_fire
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posted June 24, 2005 10:43 PM
 
Alright, I kid you not when I tell you that I have already asked over 100 people this question..but I need more input. So tell me as honestly as you can..what does true love mean to you? Not the Websters definition but what you feel in your heart it means. Do you think that the best way to let someone know of your love is to tell them? or show them? And please share stories if you want...I am curious and eager to know what some people have to say. Thanx xx
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love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove.
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nove731
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posted June 24, 2005 11:23 PM
Companionship. Depth. Being able to get through anything with each other. Being able to intuit each other. Being able to go places far and near together. Giving each other space.IP: Logged |
leoelf
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posted June 25, 2005 03:41 AM
It's best to make love obvious through your actions, it's also beautiful to hear.
It's about wanting only happiness for that person. It's about sacrifice. But you'll never realize all the sacrificing you do because you're goal is only happiness for them.
It's about fear. Fear of giving so much of yourself to them fully knowledgable that the world is saturated with uncertainty and
disappointments.
It's about watching them sleep and in awe of how beautiful they are, wondering what they are dreaming of, and if you're in they're thoughts.
It's about the completeness you feel with them and how you wonder how you survived this long without them.
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Tranquil Poet
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posted June 25, 2005 10:32 AM
True love is..........perfect.
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ScotScorp
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From: St. Louis, Missouri
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posted June 25, 2005 02:12 PM
True love is unconditional.
True love has no control.
True love is giving.
True love is receiving even when you don't want what is being offered.
Pride shouldn't stand in the way when it's true love.I show my love more than I verbally state it. I will say it when it flows off my tongue spontaenously. Angela
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Scorpio/Leo/Leo "All things are bound together. All things connect." Chief Seattle IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
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From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
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posted June 25, 2005 02:25 PM
True Love is Love, and nothing besides.IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted June 25, 2005 04:43 PM
I feel it is holding that person deep in your heart, wanting them to be happy and free, not controlling, total trust and missing them when they are not around and loads more besides, I am so grateful that I have true love in my life, my man taught me how to really love and with the help of God I am gettig there xxxxx  IP: Logged |
leo_on_fire
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posted June 25, 2005 07:47 PM
I guess since I asked, then I should also tell of what it means to me.
To me it starts off thinking "Wow, I really like the way they make ME feel."
Then turns to "Do they feel this way too?"
Only to turn again into "Will this make THEM happy?" and yet again to evolve into having every decision you make be based on how it will make them feel. True love is waking up in the middle of the night to discover the one you love has already woken up and is watching you sleep even though you only fell asleep about an hour before after watching THEM sleep. It is about never being able to get close enough even though you know it isn't humanly possible to get that close.
It is about taking care of them and really getting offended when they try to say thank you *I have that problem*. It is about holding their hand while they yell at you even if they aren't mad at you.
It is about wanting to see their smile reach their eyes.
It is about answering the infamous question without hesitation. Would you die for them?
YES.
It is about wanting to discover everything you didn't know before with the one you love so that you can both share in the joy.
It is about sitting up to 3 in the morning laughing over the stupidest joke in the world because the one you love made a face after telling it.
It is about throwing popcorn at each other in the truck after buying it in a thearter only to discover that you were late for the movie.
It is about trying to give them all of your strength in their time of need.
It is about giving up the world if it means they are happy and whole.
It is about knowing in your heart that even if they never say the words to you, they mean them.
It is about knowing in your heart that even if when you tell them of how you feel, and they don't reply that is ok because you know you love them anyway.
It is about still wanting them when they are covered in muck.
It is about seeing them at their worst and feeling like you heart is about to explode with the love you have for them.
It is about teaching the one you love how to swim, and have him teach you how to ride a horse or fix a car, basically teaching each other.
It is about speaking to each other without actually opening your mouth.
It is about that kick in your stomach that you get when they walk into the room.
It is about dancing in the rain while his best friend calls you both crazy, and is falling over laughing because he has never seen either one of you dance.
It is about bearing no shame what-so-ever about what people think of you.
It is about kissing in public even though someone always seems to become offended.
It is about meeting each others family's and knowing that you have just met your own family.
It is about knowing what each others dreams are and even if they don't coincide, making comprimises in order to see as much of them through as possible.
It is about being able to fight over who pays the bills, and still cook dinner together and burn the pasta because ya'll started to make up.
It is about being able to hold their heads while they are sick and tell them "I bet you won't do that again." and know they will forgive you anything.
It is about kissing them with morning breath.
It is about being willing to break down your own barriers because you've never been so willing to be so brave.
It is about being more comfortable with that person than any one else EVER.
It is about being ok with having him flirt because you are confident that he will never hurt you on purpose and especially not ever be unfaithful to you.
It is about him being ok with you saying "so and so is cute" because he knows that at the end of the day, you are with him.
It is about loving his daughter as if she were your own because you know that this child is the most precious of creatures.
It is about sitting still while she paints your fingers nails and fixes your hair and then wearing it like that in public (with paint all the way up your fingers) because it makes her happy and in turn makes him happy.
It is about watching the same moving 50 times because it is their favorite.
It is about listening to music you thought you hated only to discover he may have a point to this whole thing when you hear a particularly catchy song.
It is about rubbing their back after a long day.
It is about being willing to wash their underwear and socks.
It is about finding away around his experimenting with a goatee.
It is about him forgiving you for going a few days without shaving your legs.
It is about that giddy feeling you get when you know you are going to see them and then that empty feeling you feel when you have to say bye and knowing they feel it too.
It is about never saying goodbye.
It is about them being your first and last thought of the day.
To me, true love is about just that...love that is true...love that is whole...love that brings out the best of you after you long thought all of the best things about you were used up and gone. I have found that.There is so much more I could say but that would go on forever. All of the things I have listed here, I feel when I am with him. I am so in love with him lol. But I don't know if he knows, or if he even feels the same way.xx
Kt
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love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove.
William Shakespeare
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geminstone
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From: Golden, CO
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted June 25, 2005 08:22 PM
Personally, those that I Truely Love, I can honestly say, I have also felt the exact opposite about. Unconditional... ~ geminstone IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
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From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted June 25, 2005 08:39 PM
Right on, Geminstone! My reply is similar. To me true love is knowing that we can be completely ticked at one another, and have the freedom to express/ react to that in whatever way is comfortable, and know that in the end, all is forgiven and understood. It's knowing that the glitches aren't "your relationship" but... just glitches. Kind of like family. Exactly like family. IP: Logged |
leoelf
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Registered: May 2005
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posted June 25, 2005 10:32 PM
My question for leo_on_fire and for everyone else,
What is the difference between love and infatuation? How do you know you are truly in love?
Leo_on_fire, alot of the things you listed,
I've felt that way about a million guys, but, I know for a fact I've never been in love with them, I only feel that way for a little while then just get bored.When I listed my definition of love, I thought of my son, since he seems to be the only man I'm not afraid to love and profess my love to.
But I find infatuation and love to be similar in almost every way, atleast in the beginning. in·fat·u·a·tion ( P ) Pronunciation Key (-fch-shn)
n.
A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction.
An object of extravagant, short-lived passion. love ( P ) Pronunciation Key (lv)
n.
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
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Battle of Evermore
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posted June 25, 2005 10:38 PM
Putting that person above yourself. Being willing to die for them, and do anything for them.IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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From: Portland, OR
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posted June 25, 2005 11:33 PM
leo_on_fire...I like a lot of what you have to say about it and agree.To me, true love is being loved by them just as much as you love them, knowing it in your heart. that familiar place you go with them when lying together at night, feeling of comfort in their arms. Going to the dark depths with them, knowing that they'll be there with you. Being able to argue, knowing it won't lessen your love. Just knowing and feeling it. Laura IP: Logged |
Irish Eyes
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From: PA,USA
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted June 25, 2005 11:42 PM
True love is sharing the last Oreo cookie and giving the side with the most cream to the one you are sharing it with.True love is never asking the other person to be someone they are not. True love is silent...no words need to be spoken. True love is different for each of us.  IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted June 26, 2005 08:44 AM
True love is not a constant. It changes, evolves, transforms itself with time.
You cannot capture True love in words.
Like Irish Eyes said:
True love is different for each of us.IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted June 26, 2005 12:37 PM
Apparently it is mental illness. 
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/004845.html When we ask: What is true love to you? Are we really asking: What do you need from your lover?... that is if we are discussing the in love kind of love rather than just simply loving someone. It seems to me there are certain requirements that must be met to fall and maintain being in love. I know lots of couples that surely love each other, but haven't been in love in a very long time. Being in love isn't something you step in and now you're in love. Significant energy has gone into this process... whether it seems like it or not. You fall in love with someone who goes out of their way for you in kindness. Who pays special attention to you. Who makes you feel special. In return, you make pay special attention to them. Make them feel special. Shower them with kindness. Granted, there has to be a certain chemistry there for everything to fall into place, BUT... you will not stay in love with that person unless the in love feelings continue to be cultivated. We don't fall in love and live happily ever after. That only happens in Fairy Tales. True, lasting love is a work in progress.
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pixelpixie
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posted June 26, 2005 12:41 PM
So true.
All of it.
Every one of the definitions.IP: Logged |
leoelf
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From: In My Head
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posted June 26, 2005 12:44 PM
LEEEEEEEEBRAAAAAA!!!!!Did you see me and lil elf's pics? Where have you been???? IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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posted June 26, 2005 12:48 PM
No... where can I find them?I been busy working full time and starting my own cleaning company. Once I quit my job (when I get about 7 more clients) I'll have lots more free time and   .
Pix, how come you only have 400 posts? 
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leoelf
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posted June 26, 2005 12:51 PM
It is about sitting up to 3 in the morning laughing over the stupidest joke in the world because the one you love made a face after telling it.
It is about throwing popcorn at each other in the truck after buying it in a thearter only to discover that you were late for the movie
It is about that kick in your stomach that you get when they walk into the room
It is about dancing in the rain while his best friend calls you both crazy, and is falling over laughing because he has never seen either one of you dance I love that, you're a writer, aren't you?
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leoelf
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posted June 26, 2005 12:52 PM
CONGRATS  In photoshop, I put them LOTS of all types of things, LoL. Someone jacked her posts. LoL, no, jokin, it's something about peanutbutter and chocolate, ask her, though  IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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posted June 26, 2005 12:58 PM
Aw crap... someone's goin' around jackin' posts?Randall, can we get insurance for that sort of thing? Are some posts more valuable than others? ... if that's the case, I prolly shouldn't sweat it
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Oh yeah... the LL photo shop. I just got a new camera phone. I'm sure I've got some stuff to add. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted June 26, 2005 01:02 PM
HELLO SPARKLY ONE!!!!  I was involved in Two glitches!
Not one, but two!
I had to be reregistered twice, new password, old identity deleted. I don't know why.. but the times it happened, posts were mising, entire threads deleted spontaneously....
Randall worked his buttowski off trying to remedy it.
It was disconcerting to visit my home on the web and not be able to reply..... But I am here...
Congratulations on your business enterprise!
You'll be wonderful. IP: Logged |
leoelf
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From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted June 26, 2005 01:03 PM
I missed my Libra.I'm emotionally dependant on you  IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
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posted June 26, 2005 01:04 PM
*me too*I saw you Leo elf!!!!
Your little man is awesome and has a fab presence!
And you have a wonderful smile.
I knew you would.
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