posted July 22, 2005 01:22 PM         

Don't be sorry, I loved reading your post

Wow, Mr. Taurus and yourself have some great achievements to be proud of. That was really brave of you to leave everything behind and follow your heart. I think I would of been terrified to leave my job behind and start all over in a different state.

I was born in California, and have lived in a little farm community all of my life. As an Archer, I do get the wanderlust and I do ache to see more of the world. Especially with how overpopulated California has become with the real estate boom. Still, it does take a lot of courage to just wing it and take such a major risk.

My Cancer admits that most military wives don't work, and that the divorce rate is high for military couples. His own parents are indeed divorced, after twenty years of marriage. His mom felt bored with being a housewife and found someone else.

He's asked me if I would join him, when he enlists. I've told him I would after I've completed my degree. Education is very important to me, a source of pride and self-reliance. I just couldn't see myself staying home all day waiting for my man to bring home the bacon. That's just not me. I've been working since I was 14, and I'm not about to stop now.

About not fitting in, I hear you. I'm hispanic, and as you probably know their is a lot of machismo/sexism in my culture. Where I live, I'm an outcast for not following the norm. All of my neighbors are housewives and are appalled that I get off work at 1 am. They are also shocked because my Cancer is a white boy from Texas. The stares and remarks used to bother me at first, but I've learned to tune it out.

posted July 23, 2005 05:11 AM         

I'm from Kerman, a very little town about 30 mins south of Fresno. Its a nice little town, but lately the real estate craze has hit us and an overwhelming wave of new houses is being laid out every day. Being so small my school, job, and all major stores are in Fresno, so I end up driving there 6 days a week. Sometimes I think I should just move there, but I really hate it. I'm a country girl and I love the open spaces here.

I've never been to Irvine, but I have gone to Tulare. My aunt lives there, and it seems much nicer than Fresno. More placid and less scary (Can you tell I'm so not a Fresno fan lol).

I love school, I like going just for the sake of learning. My dad was always really firm about us taking school seriously. He's a self made man, who went from working in Ag. labor to owning his own landscaping business. He would take my sisters and I to work in the fields during summer vacations, so we'd appreciate our education and not end up doing that as a way to survive. My mom has always been a homemaker, and never realy been happy about it. She wanted to study medicine, but got married instead. Her unhappiness about her submissive state plays a big part in motivating me to finish school, to not end up in the same fate.

My Cancer is the only white guy I've ever been involved with. At first the stares and comments would get to me, but then I stopped noticing it. Fortunatly, most people aren't weird that way. Its funny he's picked up a lot of Spanish from listening to me talk LOL. I can no longer talk about him when he's around