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Topic: I dont feel sorry ...
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maya-v
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posted September 26, 2005 07:16 AM
 
I dont feel sorry for anyone ... least of all, for myself. Life is for the living and you gotta take your chances and my question is if you lose, if that dice doesnt roll your way, do you give up? Do you go sit in a corner and sulk, or take it out on another fellow player? Do you blame God and country and everyone but yourself, or pull yourself up by your bootstrings and decide to work EVEN HARDER to make things go your way? So why this cribbing and whining, why reaching out for a fellow mourner who hates life and is scared of his own shadow? Come on people, worse things happen and people live through them, isnt there anything we can do to make sure that whenever things are not going our way, whenever life gets us down, we reach deep inside and pull out that core tensile fibre of strength that each one of us KNOWS exists inside and use it not only to bring ourselves up but also inspire numberless others on the verge of giving up?IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
Knowflake Posts: 2276
From: London, UK
Registered: May 2005
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posted September 26, 2005 09:43 AM
Amen!  
I woke up this morning with a smile on my face
& Nobody's gonna bring me down today
Been feeling like nothings been going my way lately
So I decided right here and now that my outlooks gotta chaaaaange
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SunChild
Moderator Posts: 4032
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted September 26, 2005 10:01 AM
 My stars said that this morning, "find something to be thankful for and things will change today"Yes indeedy!  ------------------
"...and dreams, don't ever forget, are the first step in manifesting wishes into reality"
-Linda Goodman IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted September 26, 2005 10:40 AM
Hi maya-v, it's good to see you. I agree - be the model for yourself and others to not give up, believing in yourself that you can get through no matter what life's throws your way.
kisses!
Laura
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Svetlana
Knowflake Posts: 254
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted September 26, 2005 12:22 PM
" Do you go sit in a corner and sulk, or take it out on another fellow player? Do you blame God and country and everyone but yourself, or pull yourself up by your bootstrings and decide to work EVEN HARDER to make things go your way?"Are those the only choices? Why not embrace that new road and travel on it? Why insist on doing things YOUR way. There's quite a few great discoveries that happened only because the scientist looked closely at the "mistake" and went with it. But I do agree 100% on whining thing.
And I do feel sorry for little children. They have no choice at all. ------------------
We are the ones we've been waiting for. IP: Logged |
trillian
Knowflake Posts: 4050
From: The Boundless
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted September 26, 2005 01:17 PM
The choices are yours to make as you wish.The only judge is yourself. What would you measure yourself against if there weren't those who made choices distinctly different from yours?  ------------------
The less I seek my source for some definitive, the closer I am to fine. -Indigo Girls IP: Logged |
Hedgewitch
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posted September 26, 2005 01:21 PM
wise trillian...
maya ~ may you find what you seek. 
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Yang
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: A temporary home
Registered: May 2004
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posted September 26, 2005 04:24 PM
If things don't go my way, I just think that it wasn't meant to be, that there is something bigger out there, waiting for me.IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted September 26, 2005 09:23 PM
hehe... Yang, that rhymes IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
Knowflake Posts: 1973
From: New York City
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted September 26, 2005 09:45 PM
I feel sorry for the people and animals who suffer in this world.
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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra *´¨)
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(¸.·´ (¸.·´ * Lost in the peace of serenity
Blind my eyes I cannot see
Lost my soul but found my heart
Again a time, when I shall start IP: Logged |
Loggerhead
Knowflake Posts: 356
From: Alabama
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted September 26, 2005 10:14 PM
Yes, I understand what you are saying, Maya, and good for you. But whatever happened to compassion? Not everybody is given the gift of being able to "pull himself up by his bootstraps..." The weak deserve compassion and kindness. It is what sets us apart from the animal kingdom. And that is also what prompts those who go from rags to riches establish charities and help others to do for themselves. IP: Logged |
sweetlibra
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted September 27, 2005 01:30 AM
I never feel sorry for myself. Whatever miserable situation I am in, I take complete responsibility for creating the same.
But I do feel sorry for poor and hungry. For many of them it is not their choice and whatever they do can hardly improve their situation. Of course I should have done something constructive rather than feeling sorry.
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Yang
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: A temporary home
Registered: May 2004
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posted September 27, 2005 03:29 AM
Gee LS, I didn't even notice that...thanks girl IP: Logged |
maya-v
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posted September 27, 2005 07:12 AM
Wow! Amazing replies!I agree with you guys on compassion, on giving and reaching out a helping hand to others ... But unless you are strong yourself, and capable of helping others, you will only be leading them out of the darkness to make them fall off the edge of a cliff ... just because you yourself dont know the way. I never deny that compassion is the only true emotion ... it forms the core of every good deed, every warm and positive feeling a person can have, but unless it has a solid backbone of strength and patience, unless the person trying to lend a helping hand is himself strong enough to stand alone, he will only make others fall and perhaps later deny responsibility. And more often than not, people who need help need support, and faith, someone they can fall back on and look up to for guidance and unconditional love and support ... and unless you can truly stand by them, its not a good idea to lead someone on, only to let them down later.
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sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 1382
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted September 27, 2005 09:38 AM
But unless you are strong yourself, and capable of helping others, you will only be leading them out of the darkness to make them fall off the edge of a cliff ... I strongly disagree Maya
Most people need a helping hand when they cant think of a better way themselves.
I have experience of saving someone who was in a pit of self doubt and guilty consciousness.
Once I helped him get out of the pit, he fought his way back to his normal self(and started criticising my short comings in a true Cancerian way )
My point is we need to help others only till the point they rediscover themselves. We dont need to show them the path.
Those who cant find a way themselves, cant be saved IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 27, 2005 10:36 AM
When I went down earlier this year a very good friend of mine came in.......it made all the difference......she didnt tell me to pull myself together....she said "I can see where you are...cos I have just come out of that place.....Funnily enough her compassion was the very thing, which enabled me to start the healing process....I love her for that  ------------------------------------------------
A true friend is someone who
comes in when the rest
of the world goes out... IP: Logged |
steelrose
Knowflake Posts: 810
From: Spain
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 27, 2005 02:17 PM
Sometimes life is tiring and draining. Sometimes you are just tired and sad. It’s natural. We are human beings, no perfect hard biological machines… Sometimes we run out of energy momentarily and we need to charge batteries. Sometimes we have burnt so much fuel that we struggle and feel as if we were draining. As if we were dead.Every time you lose, the energy you put forward is gone with nothing left apart from experience. And all that energy needs regenerating. It’s not about blaming. It’s not about hating life. It’s about sharing pain. When you share your pain, it’s easier to overcome. Venting is healthy once and again. It’s a cry for help. There’s nothing wrong in asking for help. Light and enery moves around us, none of us is a permanent source… it’s all about sharing… Giving a hand and a listening ear, bringing support and compassion is more healing than anything else. Human beings are not individual entities, we are all connected as a net of cells. It’s not about being sorry. You also need to be compassionate with yourself to be able to be compassionate with others. Otherwise you’d start pitying everyone feeling kind of superior… You can be strong and still get tired and ask for help. I don’t think anyone knows the way. We all struggle in the way. That’s life. The story of our struggles to find the way… Yes, Sweetlibra… Yes, Sue… I’m with you here.
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sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 1382
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posted September 27, 2005 11:37 PM
Well said steelrose ------------------
When God leads you to the edge of the cliff,
Trust him fully. Only one of the two things will happen;
either he will catch you when you fall
or
he will teach you how to fly. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted September 28, 2005 11:08 PM
From what I perceive of this blanket statement, I think if one believes this way . . . there is something dark not too far way . . . this energy of overcoming, fighting, pushing, shoving . . . belittling . . .This does not have a spiritual, and truthful ring to mysELF's ear . . . Just thoughts. IP: Logged |
sue g
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From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 30, 2005 11:20 AM
Hi AphroditeI hear what you say girl.....but I think with some when they have been very hurt by others, this way of talking or acting is the only possible way of dealing with the wounding........it is a form of self protection, self preservation... And sometimes it is only temporary.....a sense of balance may be restored in time...... xxx IP: Logged |
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