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Topic: live-in relationship
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dorkus_malorkus
Knowflake Posts: 1061
From: Hopelessly lost........
Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 07, 2005 05:38 AM
 
my boyfriend asked me if i would move in with him. i love him but haven't been with him that long. i lived with him and his family for awhile before moving in with my stepdad, but he wants to get a place of his own. he's not abusive, as opposed to my stepdad who's been mentally abusive since day one. both him and my mother talk to me like i am 10. he tells me i need to lose weight (when i've lost 30 lbs in the past 2 years) and tells me that my depression is all in my head and that i need to grow up. i can't tell my parents anything without them lecturing me and wish to sever ties with my family, but i'm afraid if i go back home and live with my bf i might not be able to go back and could wind up with no place to go at all. i've never been the type to rush into situations like this, but everyday i spend with my dad, the less i feel about myself and the less hope i have of being with people that care about me. i guess my family cares but doesn't know how to show it? i just wish that i could talk to them and that they would support me (emotionally) but i've tried and they've failed me. i don't know what to doIP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 07, 2005 08:55 AM
I wouldnt move in with yer bf just to get away from family, but I would try and get away from them.....especially your stepdad...he sounds cruel.Couldnt you get a place on yer own for a while or maybe move in with a friend until you get to know the bf for a little longer..... I felt reading your post that you may be tempted to move in with him for the wrong reasons, do you know what I mean girl. Ive lovers oracle cards....would be very happy to pull one if you feel the need. love to you
Sue G xxx
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thirteen
Knowflake Posts: 1107
From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted November 07, 2005 09:10 AM
I wholeheatedly agree with Sue. Don't move in with him. It could be short lived if you do it to get away from your family. I want to say something about them. No matter what you do you won't please them. It helps to understand that.
Some people are just that way. So why go on a wild goose chase for people who are never happy? This is the universes way of telling you you have to just come to beleive in yourself. then nobody elses opinion makes a difference.What sue said was good advice. IP: Logged |
Peri
Moderator Posts: 2447
From: Kyiv, Ukraine
Registered: Dec 2003
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posted November 07, 2005 09:55 AM
Do you want to move in with him because you love him and want to live with him or is it because you want to get away from your family?If it is only because you cannot live with your mon and dad then there is no need to get out of hot water just to throw yourself into the fire!
I agree with Sue too.
Think twice.
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dorkus_malorkus
Knowflake Posts: 1061
From: Hopelessly lost........
Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 07, 2005 02:13 PM
Thanks for the advice. I told him last night that I was going to stay here for a while and save up some money, that will give me time to think. I know that I love him, but I'm not sure if he is the one.IP: Logged |
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