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Topic: My best friend has turned into BRIDEZILLA
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leo_on_fire
Knowflake Posts: 422
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted November 30, 2005 07:52 PM
 
AND I'M MAID OF HONOR..they just set the date..just got the engagement ring...ladida i'm really really reallly happy for them..they've been together for 5 years now and He decided it was time to make it official. She's already given me a butt load of stuff to take care of and I live 800 miles away from them..lol This should be interesting..lol I didn't realize it would be sooo much work but for them i'll do anything...anyone got any advice on how to make this more...whats the word...easy considering the distance between us??lolol HELPPPPP BRIDEZILLA HAS ATTACKED!!!!------------------
Live your life without regret, don't be someone they forget. Your heart is not yours to keep, it's yours to give... Unknown IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 30, 2005 07:57 PM
errrr......leaving the country might be an option....  Good luck girl..... IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
Knowflake Posts: 2276
From: London, UK
Registered: May 2005
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posted December 01, 2005 06:04 AM
aww good luck with everything - I’m sure it’ll turn out fine 
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Gemini Nymph
Knowflake Posts: 2216
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Registered: Jul 2004
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posted December 01, 2005 06:15 AM
Well, at least you are still on speaking terms with your friend. I was asked to be a friend's mad of honor once, and it's actually destroyed my friendship with that friend. First she went from being this very spiritual and open person into a very materialistic and self-centered person overnight, expecting everyone involved with the wedding, including me to spend tons of money on her (and I was a very poor grad student at the time). Then she kept telling me things I was suppose to do (and not very nicely either), but then got other people to do them after I had set time aside and so forth to get them done. Then she went with her mother to pick out the dresses for all the bride's maids, after she promised me that I would get input on this (she of course picked out dresses that were too expensive for most of her maids, including me). Then she decided that some long lost friend she hadn't seen in years and got into contact with a few weeks before the wedding really deserved to be her maid of honor too, and of course, even through I was then sharing this "honor" with someone else, she proceeded to *not* put that friend through the same crap she had been putting me through. So as evil as it may seem to someone else, I put my foot down. I told she was treating her friends and family badly and selfishly, that she was not the person I thought I was friends with, and that she obviously had no respect for me. I told her that while a wedding was significant, it was only *one* day, and if it transformed her this drastically and negatively, then perhaps she wasn't ready for *marriage* afterall (she was actually only 21 at the time). I resigned as her maid of honor and even refused to go to the wedding, on the account I sincerely didn't think she should get married at that time. And as you'd expect, it ended our friendship. She did get married, and then contacted me a year later to tell me how lonely and miserible she was. She said she missed our friendship and wanted to get together to talk. So we set a date, and guess what: she stood me up and despite my efforts to contact her, didn't get in touch with me to tell me why until three days later. Needless to say, we've never spoken again. IP: Logged |
maklhouf
Knowflake Posts: 1392
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted December 01, 2005 08:08 AM
BRIDEZILLA --I love it! My sympathy to you------------------
And I will give thee the treasures of darkness
Isiah 45:3 IP: Logged |
thirteen
Knowflake Posts: 1107
From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted December 01, 2005 08:15 AM
I once turned a friend down to be maid of honor and that friendship went away for 13 years. We have just re contacted and have seen each other.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 5301
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted December 01, 2005 10:26 AM
So many people forsake their personalities for the sake of one perfect day.
Sure, weddings are a great time, such love and the spirit of oneness, but c'mon.. too many people get sucked in to making it perfect, and then miss the point.
What about the marriage, as opposed to the wedding......
One can eclipse the other, when the other is so vitally important.IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
Knowflake Posts: 207
From: detroit, mi, usa
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted December 01, 2005 12:44 PM
if i ever get married again i don't even want to tell people. just a privite thing for me and the one i love to take our vows to each other.(hey baby lets go to vegas) afterall, isn't marraige a promise made...i have been to many perfect weddings where the bills outlast the marraige....ah, jaded a bit I am, maybe, but you can keep the hoopla and gimme the life! Hope to die 15 minutes late with a bloody mary in one hand and chocolate bar in the other!IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 2681
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 01, 2005 06:34 PM
Well, you're kind of in luck. It sounds like this is a recent thing, so you should be able to tell her how you feel before you get sucked too far into her whirlwind. I'm sure she's frantic trying to plan her "perfect" day, so she may not be as aware of your thoughts/feelings as she would be under normal circumstances unless you speak up. Just make sure you do. And you're 800 miles away?! Decide for yourself what's reasonable and be firm with her. Good luck! (I have a feeling you might need it!) IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Knowflake Posts: 4992
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted December 01, 2005 07:43 PM
This is a cute wedding planning website:
http://www.theknot.com/ I've read that lots of people plan their weddings in other places; all arrangements from just using the phone, networking and the internet. There are places in the world that feast on wedding and honeymoon expenditures, and definitely have professional services up and advertised heavily. Examples are Hawaii, Mexico, and The Virgin Islands. I don't know where your friend is planning to have her special event. Large hotels also have wedding services and could provide excellent sources for referrals. Have you thought about setting up an internet message board so you guys can communicate with each other easily? It'll help organize your planning notes too.  Good Luck!!! I'm sure the bride and groom will appreciate all your hard work!  IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 2681
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 02, 2005 08:07 AM
Great tips, Aphrodite!IP: Logged |
Moon666Child
Knowflake Posts: 2025
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Registered: Jul 2004
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posted December 02, 2005 11:34 AM
 all the best ------------------
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