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LostInStrangeWorld
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From: Bristol, England
Registered: Mar 2005

posted February 10, 2006 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LostInStrangeWorld     Edit/Delete Message
Hello again everyone. I haven't been around for a while as I have virtually no computer access. Still I do think about you guys!

As some of you know, I'm expecting my second child in may. I already have a little boy who will 2 and a half when the second one arrives. He is adorable, but is also an 'atomic lad'(!)
He was also very hard work as a baby as he would wake up constantly through the night until he was 8 or 9 months old and I decided to get him into is own bed/routine as I was like a zombie.

I've seen how hard it is for other parents with two small ones, how worn out they seem. At the park today, I met two different ladies in the same situation and they said that it is really hard- absolutely nothing compared to just having one.

So, is this always true?

What are the good things about having a new baby as well as a toddler, putting the sleepless nights aside?

If anyone has any ideas, please tell me! I need a list to carry around with me in my head for now. Of course, I know I am going to love this baby with all my heart as I do my other son. There will always be that! And I am very lucky I can have children- they are absolute miracles! Don't get me wrong. But, to be honest- I'm a lttle scared- and not of the labour (been there, done that). I'm scared about how I am going to cope.....with the sleepless nights, etc. I'm a light sleeper by nature and have recurring insomnia....it took a while to get life relatively back to normal when my son started sleeping through most nights & I have developed a bit of a thing about getting enough sleep. Nowadays, my definition of being successful in life is to be able to get enough sleep, and thats about it!

P.S. I failed to recover my forgotten password for my other username- ListensToTrees- so I am using this one instead.
P.P.S. The father may be able to help me some nights as he is a nocturnal & self-employed creature, but I don't know how often- plus I was hoping to breastfeed.....why DO men have nipples anyway?!!

I am going to have a bath now

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pixelpixie
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From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005

posted February 10, 2006 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Enjoy your bath, darling.
You can think about and marvel at the wonder that nipples are.

You'll be fine.
There's nothing anyone can say that will make anything true or different, you are blessed and things will be fine if you let it, great if you want it.
Sleep?

don't worry, you'll catch up one day.

As far as breastfeeding goes, whats wrong with laying next to your baby and having a snooze while they have a nip? (literally)
Millions survive this way.
It's not like you aren't vibrantly and primally aware of your infant on every level, especially at that brand new stage. Nothing bad will happen if you snooze when you can. After all, your baby sleps while they do everything else too....
Breast is easier. As well as better.

Enjoy!!!!!!!

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CancerianMoon
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From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising
Registered: Aug 2003

posted February 10, 2006 06:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
First congratulations!!!
My first 2 children were born just 15 months apart.. My son loved being the big brother even though he was just 15 months old...my daughter would just look at something or point to something and he'd be right there getting it for her...they were never apart..he would read books to her...loved helping to feed her..always holding hands...sitting in the same chair...always cuddling(too cute)...and my last 4 boys are all 2 years or less apart...they are all best buddies...its hectic when they still rely on you for all their needs...but as they grow,because they are close in age they will be great friends and they will amuse and occupy each other..i think in the beginning having more than 1 young child is very hard and demanding but having children with siblings close in age creates freinds at home..(im not knocking families with only children or children with large age differences..they have advantages too) though i feel with larger families or children born close together there is a feeling of having close friends in your own home..
My kids love playing most with each other..they do socialise and love thier friends too especially my Aries daughter(she is the only girl) but i love watching them play and enjoy each others company...laughing and joking together..and look after each other...thats when i know my sleepless nights and constantly being needed(though that hasnt changed a great deal ) was/is all worth it..

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LostInStrangeWorld
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From: Bristol, England
Registered: Mar 2005

posted February 11, 2006 03:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LostInStrangeWorld     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Pixelpixie, hi Cancerianmoon!

To your words:

I adore the sound of the wonderful relationship your children have, Canceriamoon! They sound almost as close as twins. Though I was watching this programme on siblings, and not all get on; depends on personalities.....but your two cherubs sound as though they have definetly known each other before!

Love & energy to you all!

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ThineGemEye
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From: Ohio
Registered: Dec 2005

posted February 11, 2006 09:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ThineGemEye     Edit/Delete Message
Hi congragulations to you!!

Yes it is kind of scary when the the second child arrives and you wonder how will I have time and energy for two? but somehow it works out and you'll be fine.

I have three daughters,two of which were born on the same day 4 years apart(and lol born on the due date the Dr. predicted) so unfortunately as my four year olds birthday was comencing at my house, I was at the hospital giving birth. It's kind of like having twins but that's where astrology helps a great deal, they are absolutely different. Both lovable cancers and the last daughter a firey aries which is exactly the kick our household needed.

In some ways you worry if you will have enough time, patience, love, and endurance but from somewhere it's provided so good luck to you.

Jen

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