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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted March 13, 2006 07:36 PM
 
Dear fellow Knowflakes,
I am in a loving relationship with a Gemini guy, Brian (he's also got a Cancer rising, Merc and Venus in Taurus, Mars in Scorpio), but I have had trouble broaching needs that are on my mind when we talk on the phone, or also when I visited recently (the trip was during the shadow and first part of the current Mercury retrograde, which didn't help). I really have to say a few important things to him and decided perhaps I could make it easier in an e-mail letter. I'd really appreicate your thoughts, as I haven't sent it yet, probably not til after the retrograde:
Hi Brian...
I guess I need to be more upfront sometimes. I've realized a few things about myself lately, that are pretty important. First, I really need to be in constant (at least every two days) contact with you, whether it's me calling you or you calling me. At the same time, I have to get over the idea that me being the one who calls makes me appear clingy. Yes, I do need reassurance, but that is not a bad thing, nor something that will drastically change about me right now. It takes a lot for me to feel safe and secure, and I need to make sure the people I care about know that in plain terms. I also need to be aware of important stuff going on in your life, and be able to share the important stuff that is going on in mine. That is essential to me, and it's something I'm learning will be the only thing that makes me trust stronger. I like to be there to support those I love and if necessary brainstorm solutions. I like to feel needed, as though I can help make things better and more manageable. I know you are there when I need to talk about stuff that is bothering me, it's something nice that I am getting used to, because I guess I am not used to anyone being that genuinely open and available. Third, I am a person who thinks very often about keeping myself safe, and that usually means keeping people at a distance, and therefore, yes, to care about you as much as I do is incredibly scary, yet amazing for me at the same time. I feel wonderful loving you, yet vulnerable, and at times it makes me quiet and prone to not say exactly what is on my mind, like during the time I just visited. I am a constant thinker, so therefore it's hard for me to stop wondering about the future, even if I know deep down that nothing is certain or predictable. I'm so lost sometimes without a plan or roadmap in my head of where situations in my life are supposed to be headed, I forget to live in the moment and enjoy.
I need to be honest, or else I cannot expect you to know what's going on in my head, even when I feel more comfortable bringing my thoughts up in writing (maybe just my astrological Virgo-ness coming through, LOL). I like talking on the phone, but it is harder for me to put my feelings out there. I love you very much, Brian, and I don't want miscommunication to come between us.
Love always,
Kathleen
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-K
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pchan33
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posted March 13, 2006 07:52 PM
I'm a virgo too, and I was in a relationship with a guy with silimar astrological make-up as your boyfriend (gemini/cancer), so I can relate. Your email sounded very honest to me. I understand how hard it can be to reveal the same feelings in person. I don't know how you were raised, buy my parents taught me at a very young age to keep my feelings bottled up. Of course this lesson came back to bite me in the butt many many times. I'm glad you realize that feelings hidden do not just go away. ------------------
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posted March 13, 2006 11:31 PM
Wow, I'm not the only virgo who's taken up with a gemini/cancer...that's cool. If I may ask, how long did you see each other?I'm trying so hard to be more honest with him than I have anyone else because I sense he can handle it, and that's refreshing. It is hard to reveal the feelings in person,although I recognize that that is the ideal goal of the way to broach things. I always kept important stuff bottled up by choice beucase I didn't think anoyone else could handle the depth of my emotions...and I'm learning maybe I was wrong. It's a nice thought. I realized I was expecting him to know things about how I wanted to be treated that I had not specifically mentioned...and that is not fair. ------------------
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posted March 14, 2006 10:04 PM
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posted March 14, 2006 11:08 PM
Our relationship lasted about 2 years...I ended it because he began to mistreat me and take me for granted, and I had put up with that for way too long. We were best friends for a while before that, and we just started talking (as friends again only) recently. ------------------
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posted March 15, 2006 09:34 PM
Ok, so I sent it tonight...here goes everything...hmmm  ------------------
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pchan33
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posted March 17, 2006 10:42 PM
I hope everything works out for you. Us viros tend to worry over things that others barely even think about. ------------------
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posted March 17, 2006 10:52 PM
I know what you mean, pchan, about how we worry over everything, even small things...I sense an emotional distance, between the Gemini and I and I'm putting it in God's hands to do with it what he will...I'm tired to acting like the control freak and assuming I am the one in control who can change things...cause face it, I'm not. Whatever will be, will be. And to top if off, the stress was killing me anyhow, so the pressure needs to go away. If Brian and I can fill each others needs, then our relationship is meant to go somewhere positive, and if we can't or won't, then our relationship will vanish. I don't honestly know the outcome, nor can I predict.------------------
-K
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