posted January 30, 2007 03:16 PM         

Some have commented that they don't know how I can work in my room all day and still seem sane and happy and not have much contact with people. Well...that's not strictly true...I do have contact with people, but on my own terms. I'm just happy as long as I am occupied, and am just really obsessed with work right now - I mean, that comes first, everything else is secondary.

And it's not like I am some sad person, either...I mean, the work I do is artistic, and fulfils pretty much every need in me. I've given up hunting for a partner because first of all, I don't particularly want to be "kept", and I need loads of time and space to myself, if deprived of which I can get moody... or if bound to any sort of schedule, however slight.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? I mean, I look pretty good, and am always getting comments on my appearance, but I'm just not interested in romance!!! Maybe I'm just old and cynical (32), or maybe I'm just seeing things for what they truly are? (Virgo rising) At any rate, it doesn't bother me that much! I am not desperate. Put it that way. Or maybe I am just too choosy. Or maybe I just don't care - LOL.

posted January 30, 2007 03:30 PM         

Being single and happy is a choice for some people, but I often feel that, at least for myself, making statements like this is a way of psychologically coping with the fact that I know I'm going to be a lone for a while.

And it's ok to be alone, it's a natural part of life that many of us go through. We get to know ourselves and grow in different ways.

But i'd like to hold out hope that even for independent people there are good partners who will respect that need for space and freedom.

posted January 30, 2007 03:33 PM         

If you aren't happy with yourself how can you be happy with someone else?

It's an enviable position where you can welcome love without begging for it to smother any pain.

More power to you!

Cynical? Pah!

posted January 30, 2007 05:21 PM         

I know how you feel and I feel that way, too, but at 44.

My friend finally coaxed me into meeting her bf's boss the other night and I really had to make myself do it.

I just do not want that now~~~

Time to work on me.

I do not mind being alone, actually prefer it to being in a "relationship..." but there are times when I just want to connect with a like-minded individual of the opposite sex.

Who knows what tomorrow will bring....

Blessings

T

posted January 30, 2007 05:32 PM         

I haven't been in a long term relationship for some time. I don't technically date guys either - I can't handle the weirdness of dating anymore. Yeah, claustrophobic, definitely. I just sort of "pal around" with them, keep things very open-ended, and if a fondness develops, then great. I have had a few brief affiars but have found it pretty easy to walk away from them when I realized I needed to.

I have no interst in anything "heavy" - I don't wish to be weighted down by someone. I feel it's very important at this stagein my life to be free to move on when I need to. Ideally, I think a long term partner would NOT be someone I would "settle down" with, but more rather someone who is moving in the same direction with his life as I am.

As for Virgo rising - yeah, that may be some of it. This will make you very selective about who you'll invest your energy with. I'm definitely like that. I'm not desperate, or sad, and I'm not interested in romantic trappings AT ALL - I just want a guy who's the real deal, or it's "no thank you." I have plenty of other things I can do with my life right now.

Tons of air in my chart too - Sun, Merc, Venus, Mars and Uranus all in air. AH, sweet freedom!!!

posted January 30, 2007 05:39 PM         

.. just sayin' Hi .. .. e'post viewed ..

.. i take it you know what tUrns is doing in your chart at mo. .. :-))
i think t.Jupiter is near your IC at the moment ..

.. the Nept to Moon transit i had going .. has now gone ;-))
replaced by t..Uranus opposing Lillith and bearing down on my moon with a square aspect ..
.. feels good.. am more in tune with it than the Neptunian one ..

will 'e back to you soonish .. ( no need to make data copies and return ) ..
will explain how to get that data working in an 'e' ..
hope your music is going well :-)

posted February 03, 2007 10:33 AM         

ME! an ARIES!!!!!

Ummm...HD...is tUrns activating my Moon/Venus/Jupe perhaps???

Xena