posted April 28, 2007 05:37 PM         

I recently contacted a Scorpio that I was madly in love with, but made a conscious decision to severe ties with over two years ago... To make a long story short, he had a child and was trying to build a relationship with the child's Mom, although her pregnancy came as a result of a fling between the two of them.

He didn't really KNOW her, but he wanted to be responsible and do the right thing BY her... So while she was pregnant, he let her move in with him and they proceeded to reside as a family unit for the next 2 years.

Things eventually went sour between them and she moved out seeking child support, in which he was ordered to pay, but ALSO given the option of a paternity test… Well, because of the circumstances under which they met and she conceived, he thought “What the heck” and asked that one be done.

Come to find out, he WAS NOT the father of this child that he had known, loved and cared for for all of that time… It’s been a whole year since that occurred, but I have just reestablished contact with him only to find all of this out…

I still have feelings for him, but something’s telling me that he may not be emotionally available and is probably very resentful and brooding over the whole ordeal and the ex, since a year is just not enough time to heal after such a devastating blow.

Please advise…

Thanks,

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Tanae'

posted April 29, 2007 04:13 PM         

Pixel Pixie... I'm not too sure whether or not she knew. He did however express to me that she had never even apologized to him for what had occurred.

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Tanae'

posted May 11, 2007 01:54 PM         

I'm almost to the point of really regretting ever making contact with him again, and I have come to the realization that the past is the past FOR A REASON!!!

As much as I would love to be there for him as a friend, He can't seem to get past seeing me as a person of sexual interest...

All of our conversations seem to have a sexual undertone, and he's expressed very openly that he wants to have sex with me again.

I told him that I had no interest in picking up where we left off over two years ago, but that we could hit the reset button and start things all over again.

With Scorpio's, could these sexual advances be a secret hidden desire of a need for closeness because of what's happened to him, or is this just him trying to get his rocks off with anyone that he can?

Thanks,

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Tanae'

posted May 11, 2007 03:55 PM         

I know because I have been with many. I use to get offended and say what that's all u want?

They are just hot blooded at times. That's all.

Don't take it the wrong way. At last try and find out if hes even looking for something serious.

posted May 11, 2007 05:13 PM         

I didn't take him seriously though, because I felt that his saying that meant SEX, a friendship, SEX, a relationship, SEX... you get my drift?

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Tanae'

posted May 19, 2007 03:31 PM         

I don't know... but I'm just not in to sex right now. He doesn't know this, but I've been celibate now for over 2 years, and honestly, I'm just not trying to throw that time away over a crack at a relationship with him.

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Tanae'

posted May 19, 2007 04:16 PM         

There's nothing wrong with taking a break to regenerate yourself emotionally and physically.

posted May 19, 2007 11:06 PM         

Takes such Strengh of Character to withhold such s-Elf Respect for ones-Elf!!!!!

s-ELF LOVE!!!!