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Topic: Speak kindly to yourself !!!!!!
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 31, 2007 07:57 AM
 
Speak kindly to yourself “What is this self inside us, this silent observer,
Severe and speechless critic, who can terrorize us,
And urge us on to futile activity,
And in the end, judge us still more severely,
For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?” -- T. S. Eliot How do you talk to yourself? Would you talk that way to anyone else? Our thoughts create our reality. How do you typically think about yourself? Do you berate yourself for being stupid, sloppy, forgetful or insensitive? Do you watch yourself with interest, respect and compassion? Stay alert to your self-talk and let go of judgments that don’t serve you. "Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself." -- Nathaniel Branden IP: Logged |
SattvicMoon
Knowflake Posts: 2282
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posted July 31, 2007 01:39 PM
The easiest person to hurt, is yourself, and no one can hurt you but yourself.------------------
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aquaspryt69
Knowflake Posts: 1567
From: Arizona
Registered: Feb 2004
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posted July 31, 2007 07:45 PM
Thanks SattvicMoon for this topic. I, for one, have struggled with negative self-talk and self-abuse for years. It can be such a long, slow process changing ones thought patterns. We can be kind, gentle, understanding and forgiving of others but not of ourselves. What and odd life lesson we struggle with.  IP: Logged |
SattvicMoon
Knowflake Posts: 2282
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posted July 31, 2007 08:03 PM
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Thanks SattvicMoon for this topic.
I shall pass that compliment to my Star sister Solane! ------------------
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SattvicMoon
Knowflake Posts: 2282
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posted July 31, 2007 08:04 PM
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 01, 2007 06:30 AM
THANKS GUYS!!! 
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 01, 2007 08:57 AM
The easiest person to hurt, is yourself, and no one can hurt you but yourself.Going to give that some HEART & SOUL!!!! BALANCE!!! Only I can give that to mys-ELF, but I can also share it with others, thats what makes it so Special!!!! Speak kindly to yourself & others!!!! IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 9809
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted August 01, 2007 12:54 PM
Know Thyself.
Love yourself.
Be honest with yourself,
about the things you love about yourself.
Be honest with yourself and either accept the things about yourself or change them if they are not things you like. Continue to love yourself as you are at the moment, do not wait until you change, but do not blind yourself to changing or go into denial believing you are something you may not be.
It is good to accept and love ourselves.
I accept being disabled but endeavor to try to mitigate and alleviate the situation as much as possible. I know a lady with one arm and a man with no hand and many more in such situations. They love themselves and accept that which cannot be fixed. As I say, "I am not my disabilities!" and neither are they theirs!
However one must be honest with one's self to be truly happy.
For example; I need to lose weight for my health. Am I a bad person because I am fat? Of course not! I can choose to stay heavy or keep working it down....for me! Not for anyone else! Or I can stay as I am....which would not be the best for my health but would not make me a bad person. And will I love myself more if thinner? Of course not! I might pat myself on the back and say to myself..."good job!", but I love and accept myself now as I am, but am honest enough with myself to know I'd be healthier at a lighter weight.
I will not lie to myself and go about thinking I am a hottie in the physical sense, but I am not a bad person because I am not a hottie either.
On another note; but in line with self acceptance and acceptance of others. How many folks find fat or bald or hanging breasts a big ha ha ha? How many folks laugh at fat guys in speedos or skninny guys with pimples and big thick glasses? I myself look awful in spandex but love how it feels! Should I not wear it because it grosses some folks out? Should I wait until I look good in it? Why? Should the fat guy not be allowed to go shirtless on a beach for the same reason? People often have one set of standards for self but not for others.
I am just saying be honest with yourself and
towards others. 
PS. If thought truly made reality I'd be wealthy and thin and younger!  Working on it though! In fact as long as I pictured myself thin I did not lose weight. The moment I accepted the fact that I am heavy I rapidly lost 100 pounds! I still have more weight to lose if I choose to do so. I will not go back to thinking I am thin when I am not yet. But I still love and accept where I am at the moment! I also do not insult my former heavier self or feel negative about it. That was where I was, and I still loved me.------------------
"Heaven doesn't want me and Hell is afraid I'll take over and start a rehab for the damned!"
~Judgement Must Be Balanced With Compassion~
~Do Not Seek Wealth From The Suffering, Or The Dire Needs Of Others~
~Assumption Is The Bane Of Understanding~
~ if you keep doing what you did, you'll keep getting what you got.~
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