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posted September 15, 2007 01:14 PM         

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Lately since april i have been dreaming of my an ex.And thinking about him all the time. So now what i did is call my husband my his name.One night when he came to bed i said i love you"insert ex's name"
I did it again a few weeks later. My husband wanted to have this long talk with me and we did for 24 hours. I told him i don't know why this is happening and i don't. I also told him i had no plans of contacting him and i don't. Something happened the other night again and my husband want's to talk again. I don't know what happened this time but he is more than upset. and i don't want to talk to him but he is really pushing it. I don't really know what to tell him. And i dont want to know what i did

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posted September 15, 2007 01:28 PM         

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sweetheart you cannot avoid this.
talk to you husband, he deserves this
be as sincere as possible

good luck nattie

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posted September 19, 2007 02:07 AM         

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oh wow! that's some messed up stuff...
really how can you be held accountable though? i bet as hurtful as this has been for the husband he's wise enough to know you mean no harm. the unconscious mind can be frightening.

how did the talk go?

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posted September 19, 2007 02:20 AM         

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Well Solar Justice somehow i talked my way out of it.. It is all so strange. I had 3 dreams about my ex back in april. One night after the other. Then i started getting all kinds of outside signs.

Songs from the time i knew him. Then my daughter came to me with a penny saying what is this who wrote on a penny. well it had his initials on it. Then more dreams in the middle of the summer. Also smelling his cologne coming off my husband for a second.
More dreams. Now im saying his name in my sleep and telling him i Love him. It seems when things settle down more stuff starts happening again. I told my husband all these things.
I feel guilty even though i have had no contact with the man for many years. I have no idea why this is happening.My husband seems alrightI don't know why this is happening.It is more than just me thinking about him because of all the signs that come from outside.

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posted September 19, 2007 02:21 AM         

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Did he die?

I was haunted by a friend I lost contact with for awhile. I thought it meant that perhaps he died. I did a little searching online, and I think I found him. Ever since that moment, even though I didn't contact him, I haven't been haunted by him anymore.

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posted September 19, 2007 02:23 AM         

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No he's very alive and well.

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posted September 19, 2007 02:26 AM         

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I added more to my post. Giving an experience I had.

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posted September 19, 2007 02:35 AM         

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Natiie- We dreamt what we dont have??
What is in ur hear u know much better then anybody else.
According to some buks do dynamic meditation ,i am sure it will help u out
next try to write every thing from scretch about both of u (it seems awkard bt psychologist suggest so).

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posted September 19, 2007 02:36 AM         

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I found him online also. Right after the first 3 dreams back in alril. I didn't contact him. But nothing seems to help. I seem to get these little breaks from it. and then it starts again.

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posted September 19, 2007 03:03 AM         

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What i forget to say was. What happened the other night. What my husband wanted to talk about was. When he came to bed i said my exe's name. My husband said no its me. I then said i want "Exs name". I said EX I want to be with Ex. There i said it. Then i just turned around and went to sleep. He was really upset because he said the whole time my eyes were open. He thought i was awake. but i was sleeping

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posted September 19, 2007 03:05 AM         

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consult a professional counsellor.

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posted September 19, 2007 10:28 AM         

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Maybe you still love him?

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posted September 19, 2007 11:32 AM         

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whenever one person is around another little web like strands get attached one to another. When around another intensely and especially sexually, the strands are thicker, sturdier and last. There are rituals and stuff to remove the strands-some nurses, cops, and others who come into contact with the ill, sick, criminal, etc., know to remove their working clothes and scrub down before going home or immediately upon going home so they don't pull their contact threads with people into their personal lives- Romantics, marrieds-now-divorced, etc. have strong ties- I haven't been with or around my ex for 30 some years yet have found myself using his name instead of the name of whom I am with. It is awkward but not as awkward as your situation. Good Luck

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posted September 19, 2007 01:28 PM         

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Maybe she does still love him, OMG Jay. Good question. And I think that is a good thing. How could you not still love someone who, even though things did not work out, you shared so much of yourself with?

The love may be different now than it was before and that may be the inner struggle that nattie is having. Defining and understanding that love in it's different form.

Guess I am saying that the love you have now with your present husband is real and is different than the love you have for your ex, nattie. He should be told that. But you can still love your ex for what you shared, what once was but is no longer, and still love your present husband with a deeper and more profound love. You are only loving your ex for what was and for his being another human being who you should love. Because the only alternative is to hate him and be bitter about all that happened that ended the relationship with him.

So I see nothing wrong with loving your ex, but in a different way now.

I agree with lalalinda. You should talk to your present husband and explain it to him. So you don't hate your ex and still love him as a human being for the good things you once shared and felt? What is wrong with that? It just proves you are not a person who hates and that you do not hold grudges but move on with your life forgiving and still loving.

Good for you nattie!!! But you may not inwardly realize this as a possibility and that is why the dreams and the inner struggle and questioning yourself. Which is natural too I think.

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posted September 19, 2007 09:16 PM         

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I think your right OMG Jay It is probably true i still Love him. And Mirandee I have been totally honest with my husband and my feelings for him.
Actually my husband was relieved, he thought the worst. He thought i was in contact with him. And that i was going to leave him. Assured him this wasn't the case. as it has been many years that i have had any contact with him. Maby ot is a good thing i was talking in my sleep and the dreams came out. Because now that we talked about this. Whatever was going on in my subconous mind Will be put to rest.

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posted September 19, 2007 11:14 PM         

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I think it will be put to rest in your subconscious mind now, nattie. Now that you have talked about it and you and your husband have talked about it.

All the best for you and your husband in the future, nattie. The two of you are practicing the most important thing in a marriage - mutual communication.

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