posted October 25, 2007 11:02 PM
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Ms Vistica says the exhibition can have a therapeutic effect. "The normal impulse is to destroy the mementos of a relationship in order to recover, but we thought of using creativity to overcome the pain of the experience and also remember the joy those objects once held for us," she said.
Donating them in rememberance of the joy the objects once held is a good thing to do, I think. I can see where that might have therapeutic value.
But I don't see any theraputic value in the destruction of someone's furniture with an axe and some of the other things cited. That's revenge. And revenge has no therapeutic value because it is based strictly on resentment, bitterness and blame when it actually takes two people to either make or break a relationship. It's never just one person's fault. Revenge has it's roots in the need to control. It's the opposite of acceptance and therefore the opposite of forgiveness.
I can see why the woman left the jerk that axed up her furniture. It's never right to work out your pain on the other person or other people. 
I don't even think it's funny because he may feel self-satisfied ( guess I showed her ) but I can't help but think of how she felt.
I am sure they had many good things that they shared and if he had concentrated on that instead of his own ego who knows? Maybe they could have remained friends if not lovers or at least remembering the good things they shared would help him heal a lot faster than revenge is going to.
Just my take on it.
Lindaland
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posted October 24, 2007 09:34 AM
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posted October 25, 2007 11:02 PM